IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.

[Dbear35]

A super group of women supporting each other and sharing their personal journeys and experiences during the IVF processs. All are welcome !

Liverpool that’s very quick!! And it’s very good you get 2 goes, we never asked how many we were entitled to, and we only got “my side” of the IVF paid for not putting our frostie into my friend or her medication as surrogacy isn’t supported on the NHS, so now she’s pregnant this new round of embryo hopefully collection will be private (as will storage costs each year) but it’s my last chance of getting some eggs out whilst I’m off treatment so it’s worth doing as we only have 1 embryo in storage.

star AF is close then that’s good!

🤮🤮aliona don’t worry about the puking yet, you never know!! I used to be a really bad puker andsuddenly it stopped! But that’s why most ladies tell their employers early

Scan today, let’s hope little 🐝is lying in the right way to do the nuchal testing do we can start to tell ppl and so MIL doesn’t EXPLODE!!!

Awww how exciting @Minster!!! All the best and let us know sweetie!! 😘😘😘

Best of luck Minster. Hope you get a good photo :)

We had a private scan on Tuesday. It was amazing to see how much he/she had grown, and looked like a little baby. It was really wriggly and was waving its arms and legs around. We have our proper NHS 12 week scan next week (I'll be 13.5 weeks). All being well, we will tell people after that. Like your MiL minster, my mother will explode and probably call the papers, which will reduce the number of phone calls I need to make! :)

(Re-reading that paragraph, i'm not sure I should I call our baby "it"?!)

Hope everyone is well and enjoying the snow x

Thank you guys!! It’s not til much later, end of afternoon.

No Rose it’s weird I always call it “it” too! I thought it was because “it’s” not inside inside me and so I’m a bit detached!! DH always says “he” by accident more than anything as he’s from a family of mainly boys in the extended family too (& he would ideally prefer a boy “keep the name going crap”) whereas I just say “it” as it feels weird saying “the baby” that makes it more real, when we’ve been feeling like we might jinx it, saying “the baby” is the ultimate???? That’s how I feel! Is that weird?? Plus because it’s still largely secret it seem wrong to say out loud “the baby!” But no doubt when that announcement hits the press like you say from mothers & MILs then we’ll get over it!!

We are having a scan at 16 weeks as a present from my friend to find out gender so all will be revealed then!!

Ha! I'm glad i'm not alone in doing that Minster!

I think it's because of the whole IVF thing that it takes longer to get your head around to being pregnant, and actually having a baby. We were so busy preparing ourselves for bad news, that we didn't let ourselves think too much about it working as like you we were terrified of jinxing it. I guess that is how you feel?

My OH referred to me as "being pregnant" to some friends who knew about the IVF before Christmas and it felt so weird, like he was talking about someone else. I think it's only been in the past couple of weeks that I think of myself as "being pregnant" and actually feel comfortable saying that I am.

I also don't know what to call the baby. My OH is convinced I want a girl (I honestly don't mind what sex it is) so anytime I call it "she" he jumps on that as a sign. "It" sounds so impersonal!

I was determined not to find out the gender, but it now feels weird not knowing... ! But I guess there are few surprises in life, and this will be a nice one, so maybe it's worth calling the poor thing "it" for another 6 months and then giving it a nice name in July! :)

Good luck @Minster2012

@RoseWrites I owe you an apology - I accidentally tagged you on another thread for over 35s. The post was just a response to some questions someone else asked so doesn't mention any info about you. I meant to tag her but you name popped up and I clicked without thinking. Let me know if you want me to ask Mumsnet to delete it.

And also congrats on the scan - lovely to see he/she/it waving!

Xxx

minster ahhh I hope it all goes well for you to get some in storage. Good luck for the scan too. Xx

Evening ladies, so we had the nuchal scan this afternoon and glad to report baby growing well, measuring perfectly on track on the one lay down it did! However, the little blighter was not for laying down much, was determined to be upside down, sky dive position, and no matter how much prodding, poking, dancing around was done by my friend & the midwife, it was not playing even after 45mins. Unfortunately we couldn’t get the nuchal measurements which means that we can’t do the bloods until the 2nd trimester quadruple bloods which then don’t test for Edwards or Patau only Downs.

So we had to decide what to do, not worry because the risks are low or, if you are like me, and because I have had several things wrong with me that are “low risk” (I’ve had complications that are a less than 1% chance, I have sticky blood which is 1 in 10,000, I have inverted t waves on ECG which is 1 in 1500 ppl you get the picture!) so why would a child of mine not be similar we decided that we’d rather have a private test & find out so tomorrow I need to book a NIPT....

All because our baby didn’t want to lie down!!! A sign of things to come???

Hi all,

Adrenalin pumping like mad. They want to trigger me today or tomorrow. Have just called me back in for a second scan. Told me off for not drinking enough ! Freaking out (and then worrying this will raise my prolactin levels again with the stress)

@Minster2012 lovely to see the bubba. Good idea about the private scan - why not get the reassurance and see the little one again. So pleased for you.

@Aliona19 how are you getting on?

@Minster, that's wonderful sweetie! I hear you about the private scan, so exciting!

@Janetfx40 yipppiieeee !!! Woopwoop!!! Fabulous honey! How many days have you been injecting? It is awesome!!! So excited for you!!!! Don't freak out, I was nervous for the EC as I never been out under before but honestly it is absolutely so pain free and fast, you won't believe it!!! What clinic are you with? Just think that in a few days you will have ambie/embies transferred!!! Are you going for 1 or 2?

XXX

Falling asleep here 😴😴 Jane don’t stress like this. I know when they give you trigger time it hits you, as if omg it’s happening. But nothing to worry about. Ec Quick and pain free procedure, try to relax xx
I am very tired this week. Hating injections, really thick needle and I can’t wait to stop doing this. Cold sweats each time I am trying to stab myself 😒 ergh

Love to all

Hi guys,

Did my trigger shot last night. Am super thirsty. They told me to set an alarm for the middle of the night to drink a glass of water. I ended up drinking 1.5 litres throughout the night cos I was so thirsty.

I am nervous but calmer than I was although now panicking about not having eaten enough protein. I increased the protein in my diet and added milk but didn't quite get the message that I was meant to be having protein snacks every 2-3 hours.

I think whatever had happened I would have found something to panic I about. That is who I am!

At the same time I am excited.

EC tomorrow morning 7:30 am.

@Aliona19 you are down regging I think - I never took that med - sounds awful to have a large needle. Do you use ice or anything to numb the area? You are amazing to keep going despite hating the injections. Sending lots of love xxx

Hello new to this thread.

We went to GP Wednesday to ask for our referral for IVF as we had to wait three years on NHS where we live.

We have already had two letters with appointments. One on 16th Feb in gynaecology department and one on 22nd Feb in outpatients department.

The letters don't say what will happen or what to expect and I'm not sure how quickly things will move so doing my best to research as much as I can. I did call the hospital but the receptionist didn't know anything.

We have unexplained sub fertility. This is our 37th month ttc.

We've also been told we get one shot on the NHS at IVF.

How quick did things move for you once you were referred by your GP on NHS? Thanks x

Jane 😅 u sound just like me 😅 panicking about everything. And if all good-I find something to panic about. But I don’t think there is anything you can do so close to EC therefore relax and let things happen ❤️
My needle not big, it’s short but bloody thick. All other needles were so thin I couldn’t feel them going in and this one is a nightmare. But It’s ok, it will be over eventually.

Hi Sunshine my Gp reffered me and it took a few month before my first appointment with fertility clinic. And from first appointment to egg collection took just under a year.

sunshine it was about 6 weeks after my 3rd visit to my GP for blood results that I got refered to fertility clinic. I then had my first appointment in July last year. Then I had a hycosy in the August, then my next appointment was October for results I then had a lap and dye test in November and was officially refered for IVF 2nd Jan this year. I’m just waiting for my date to start which is apparently March. So all in all around a year to actually start anything. X

Good luck Jane ❤️

I survived EC! Bit groggy and a bit tender down there but nothing too bad. Hope you're all good.

Yay Jane 😅 see, it wasn’t that bad. Did they tell you how many eggs they managed to get?

Hi all! 🙋🏼‍♀️
So sorry for he radio silence it feels like it’s been forever since I posted and I’ve missed so much! Apologies if I forget to mention people!

sunshine welcome! Things moved reasonably quickly after the referral from the GP a lot of scans and blood tests and a laparoscopy. It was round about a year before my first EC.

janeglad the EC went well I cannot believe how quick that came round! Have everything crossed that you have lots of lovely mature eggs 😊. I guess your transfer will be Thursday at the latest! Eakkkk!

minster sooo happy your scan went well sounds like you have little monkey on your hands 😉!

aliona family gatherings are always a challenge, sorry to hear your struggling with the down regs and injections I think I’ve mastered them now and I’m so happy the amount has been dropped so I can sleep! I’m not getting cramping just the normal itch and sting after each one. But I have struggled with the effects of buserelin this time much more than the last. Try not to worry my dear 😘❤️Not long now! When is your transfer date?

star my darling! Sounds like your enjoying the break from this crazy IVF journey and I’m glad you are! I need your motivation to go to the gym!

dinks rose atik glad all your bumps are growing your stories give me hope that 2018 will be our year !

So yesterday the DH and I attended the ttc london meet up and here is a picture of the some of 100 women and men who came along! I’m at the very back left with the DH.

Honestly the organisation was expertly done and the venue was perfect. The guest speakers were great we had people talking about acupuncture, nutrition, meditation,supplements,IVF doctors, fertility massage, ivf book authors.

And more importantly meeting all these women and men going through the same journey it was just nice to have a chat with people that know what your talking about and they just get it!

Hopefully there will be another meet up soon and perhaps some of you may want to come next time 😊it would be great to meet you!

So started Prognova Thurs to build up my lining, next scan is 31st and as long as it’s doing what it needs to do then I have a transfer date of the Feb 6th!🤞🏻🙏🏻

It’s going to come round so quickly and I know I’m going to be petrified the closer it gets!

Much love to all I hope your all keeping warm and snuggly it’s snowing in surrey but not settling I’m still in bed atm having a lazy Sunday! 😉

Dbear. I am getting anxious just by looking at this pic 😂 to many new people at once. But glad you enjoyed it. I feel like I had enough of this information and stress about what I do right and wrong, I was doing ok at first but now I need it to be done and over with 😒
My cramps stopped after period so for now just hard to pierce the skin. Don’t know when transfer, I feel like I am injecting for too long. Started on 9th and my first scan on 1st.. what about progynova? When am I going to start that?
I was gonna go and c my friend but it’s snowing really bad here atm, wondering if transport still be ok 🤔🤔
How’s everyone?!?

@Dbear35 wow what a lot of people. I'm so glad it went well and you had a good time. Sounds like a wonderful event.

@Aliona19 such a nightmare with the injections. Sending sympathy :(

They got 14 eggs - feeling pleased that something was in there! - but of course we don't know how many are mature. They are going to do half IVF and half ICSI and see what works best. Fingers crossed for good news tomorrow. ET is Tuesday, Wednesday or Friday tho the nurse said they may do more than one day.

Love to you all xxx

Less good news today ladies. It seems we have a sperm/egg binding problem - the clinic were almost apologetic. Luckily they had decided to try half ICSI. So from 14, 7 went for IVF and only 1 fertilised. 7 went for ICSI of which 6 were suitable and 4 fertilised.

So we have ended up with 5 so far. Obviously this is not a bad position to be in, but a big drop from 14. Hope some of them get to implantation.

She said if they had known this in advance they would have done all ICSI. But maybe it explains why we haven't conceived.

Hope all ok with everyone else. Xxx

Hi @Janefx40,

Your are doing well sweetie! 5 fertilized is great! Keep positive. Like many always, and it is true say you only need 1!

@DBear it is lovely to hear you are doing well . Thank you for sharing all the details of the meet, I could not join as was back to back busy on Saturday and yes for next time for sure!

Welcome @sunshine!

XXX

Jane cheer up. I had over 20 eggs and ended up with 6. Everyone says it’s great but you do feel weird thinking what about the rest of them? Star is right, you only need one xx