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[Jamon]

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@geeup fantastic PMA!!!! So proud of you!!!
So I paid a shed load of money to CRGH after my second MC to have loads of tests done on my blood - all came back clear. Probably reason for MCs was my age and quality of eggs. Hence why I moved on to donor egg.

@Tigerlily99 welcome!!!
All the ladies on here are lovely - you'll see 😘
Most scanners tell you what they see but some don't so just ask - you want to know number of follicles and size of each and lining measurements. 🤞🏼for you.

Let me confess though: I must have had over a 100 scans by now - and only on the last one did I realise what I thought was a bit of my womble was actually the probe I just cannot get a hang of the images!!!

Hello tiger welcome.

Evening ladies and thanks so much for the best wishes.

Welcome tigerlily! How are you finding the meds? If it’s any consolation, the clinic I’m at tell me NOTHING unless I quiz them. I think it’s to try and reduce patient anxiety, but has completely the opposite effect in my opinion!

Congrats on PUPO kwick! How are you doing?

gee loving the positivity! You’re so right- it’s impossible to stay in the moment sometimes but it’s really the best thing to do.

quiet isn’t the Hycosy the magic one that flushes everything out? Hope so!

Well 5 days after transfer here and I’m not feeling hopeful. Tested tonight even though I knew it’d upset me (because I’m an idiot) and nothing. I also don’t feel anything - no twinges, no cramps, nothing. Just feeling really low about it all, to be honest.

Thank you all for your warm welcome! I went for another scan today but it was all such a rush that I didn’t really get a chance to ask any details. They did show me a graph charting all the follicles and it looked like I had roughly 20+ of varying sizes, with a couple coming close to target size. So I’m hopeful that’s a good thing! There’s talk of EC Tues but maybe I’ll know more at next scan and bloods on Sun.

Frau, I have my fingers crossed for you for a positive result, sounds like the 2WW is a tough time...

Hey take it easy on yourself - it may be too early to detect anything. It can’t be easy, but try to distract yourself for now. I’m super impatient and the only thing that helps me is meditation.

Welcome @Tigerlily99
Good news, sounds like you will get a good batch of egg. Hope collection goes well for you. I’ll be having ICSI too, probably starting next month - just want to get on with it now (there’s the impatience again)!

@FrauNeuer I think I am 2 days behind you.... I thought I felt some mild cramps yesterday evening but it could have been the cyclogest or flatulence 
I had an urge this morning to POAS but I resisted- not sure for how much longer though!!! 😬

@Tigerlily99 that sounds very positive!!!! 🤞🏼you get a good harvest!

Hi @FrauNeuer sorry you got a negative but as you know it's still early etc etc. Just try and stay calm and relaxed and know you can't change what's going on in there.
I was awake from 2am - my period arrived with a vengeance so I had to cave and take ibuprofen which I try not to take but I was in agony. Absolutely hate my period after ivf. So disappointing emotionally and painful and heavy physically :(

Gee I wish I could give you the biggest hug. Are you looking after your mental health? Have some counselling. You've been through so much. I sent you some direct messages too you may not have seen them in the app version. Thinking of you and sending lots of love and hugs xxx

Oh you're so lovely @Jamon will check them now (don't often go on mumsnet in desktop so don't know they're there!!).

@geeup bloody AF!

I'm so sorry for what you're going through geeup.

My family is ok, but displaced for the forseeable future. Thanks kwick... I am ready to leave here at the drop of a hat if I hear of some way I can be of use there...

Tww of cycle 4 of clomid. I'm sure it hasn't worked (4 dpoo) because I am just so pessimistic about my ability to become pregnant... Still debating going back to the GP in march-ish and maybe seeking a more formal diagnosis of pcos or not.

Still not sure about quitting my job before IVF. If it doesn't work, that would probably be for the best (and it is more likely not to work than to work), but if it does I'm going to be annoyed about the loss of earnings. I hear horror stories about going supply, but that might be a better option.... we can take the financial hit from my salary for about a year, but obviously would prefer to avoid if we don't have to!

Any thoughts - if you could not work through IVF, is that the way you would play it?

Hi all.

Hope you’re all well at weekend.

Have a book recommendation for you all.

It’s called dare to dream by Izzy judd

It’s about her ivf story. It’s reminded me that how I’m feeling is totally normal.

Hello everyone, I hope you’re all baring up as well as can be.

Period after a failed IVF is tough and heart breaking all over again @geeup. I hope you’re feeling a little better. Big hug for you.

@Frau hope you’re doing okay. I’ve been told that a blood test is a the best way to find out if it has worked or not on OTD as sometimes POAS won’t register it sometimes. A big hug for you too.

How are you getting on @kwuik?hopenyoure doing okay!

Hello @physicskate, I cant really answer your question as I generally work from home and go into the office maybe once a month to catch up with my manager. I’m sure other people could give their views?

I’ve not heard of that book @Babipotjam, will see if I can find it!

Quick update from me, I’m now officially PUPO and in the 2ww. Had the ET done this morning. We’re looking at a possible eight frosties and the clinic will email me next week to let me know how many were successfully frozen. Another relaxing day tomorrow before traveling back home on Tuesday. My OTD is Saturday 4th Feb and I am not going to test until that date. Well, I’ll try not to!

Hi all,

I’ve read back on this forum and realised I just jumped in without giving a background to myself. I’m 38 (nearly 39), TTC for >3 years now. Never had a BFP. Lots of investigations later and subfertility is ‘unexplained’. Did have an endometrial polyp- 2 (painful) hysteroscopies later and it had disappeared by itself..

Geeup- I’m so sorry to hear about the difficult time you’re having. I hope you are looking after yourself and taking it easy...

Physicskate- I don’t know what your situation with work is but I was in a bit of a state until I eventually spoke with my boss. She was actually incredibly supportive and has helped me with time off for my appts. I don’t know if it’s an option for you but I found keeping working has helped take my mind off the whole process. I’m also lucky in that I’ve hardly had any side effects with the drugs. That said if i have to go through this again and work are not supportive the next time round then I would consider resigning. At the end of the day it’s a very personal/ individual decision to make...

Antonia79- congrats! Hope it works out well for you in 2 weeks

Update from me- had scan today, my follicles are getting bigger but they all seem to be hitting a ‘barrier’ and not crossing the finish line. They showed me the graph again and they are all clustering just below the threshold. As I have been writing this I have just got a call with my estradiol levels and they look pretty high to me- 11,725. Having had a look on Dr google and a load of old forums, I can’t see anyone who had levels quite this high at day 11 so am a bit worried I’m heading into OHSS territory.... unfortunately the nurse who called me wasn’t able to tell me much apart from to reduce my drug doses slightly. Feeling a bit despondent...

Hi Tiger - really hope all goes well and that your levels are ok!!

Congrats Antonia!! Fingers and toes crossed!!

My work situation is quite stressful - I am a secondary (physics) teacher. I had to go to a few ultrasounds in a week for my ovulation tracking cycle and was feeling a bit fragile... behaviour in lessons got worse and I had a raft of parental complaints that were really personal, aggressive and personally hurtful. How they demoralising their kids' teacher helps is beyond me! If I could leave tomorrow, I probably would...

physics I too have a stressful job. I work in a school not as a teacher but as a 1-1 but my head is barking mad. She had a go at me for missing a staff meeting when I had a hospital appointment.

Babipot - would you have fund it helpful to not have a job or not be in work during IVF?? I do understand that it may be a bit of a welcome distraction at times, but thinking I ought t give my one NHS go every possible chance??

Feeling very depressed (partly job, partly infertility) and just wish it would all be ok! Wish I could go to counsellor but she doesn't do evenings... latest appt is too early for me to get to!

Hello all, on this snowy weekend...

Welcome welcome Tigerlily. Sorry to hear about your ttc experiences- fingers crossed that you don't get OHSS and the clinic give you some answers

Antonia- hope the start of the 2WW has been ok. 8 Frosties would be amazing....as a backup

Frau- I haven't been through ivf yet, so can't imagine how difficult the test/don't test conundrum would be. All I can say is I'm hoping for the best outcome for you.

Kwick- FET PUPO good luck wishes!

Expat- oh dear, the 'just relax' brigade eh? Unfortunately I think the NHS approach seems to be delay, delay & delay. I've said it before & I'll say it again- twats.

Dia- I don't think the NHS give a flying fuck about MFI really. It is sooooo frustrating. We saw our go GP on Friday who has agreed to liaise with Urology and make a referral. She still couldn't understand why we were requesting the referral- until I pointed out that the F.C. seems to be focussing on treating the symptom rather than the cause

Physics & Babipot- sorry to hear about your stressful jobs & unsupportive managers. What does it say in your employment contracts about medical leave? It seems to vary so much, as I also work in the public sector. I am very lucky that my manager has been great, and ivf appointments can be taken as medical leave. I am planning to work through icsi where I can- otherwise I'd be climbing the walls with anxiety. That's just me though- others may find it relaxing to be at home.

Sorry to hear that your family have been displaced physics- that can't be easy whilst being in a stressful job & clomid cycles.

geeup- I hope you're doing ok, look after yourself.

I would second counselling btw. Need a neutral space to discuss the shit sandwich that is infertility.

Night all....zzzzzzz

@physicskate TBH I think working through IVF - so long as you can still make appts and so on - is best - it is a good distraction and believe me you need those!!
That said it sounds like your job is not something you are enjoying so if you can do something different go for it! Life is too short to be in a job you do not love.

@Antonia79 congrats on being PUPO!!!!

@Tigerlily99 I hope your follicles make it across the finish line this time!

My boobage feels like it is about to explode... the TWW continues....

Congrats on PUPO status Antonia :)

Sorry to hear about juggling work stress alongside IVF - I guess there's no easy answer. physicskate I'm so cautious about income that would also be inclined to carry on, but I do have the luxury of a more understanding workplace (within reason)...but those of you working in schools sound like you've got it tough

tiger hope you see the progression you need and get some better help from the clinic - must be a frustrating time

Frau yes, HyCoSy is meant to be the more thorough scan I think - but I foolishly read a few reports back from women online and some of the after-effects sound miserable (pain, bleeding, etc). Am hoping it's like most things and you don't usually hear the trouble-free incidents

Nothing to report from me - licking my wounds after another AF and getting back to normal...same as usual...

P.S. kwick - how are you doing? When's test date? Everything crossed xxx

@geeup I forgot to say how amazing I think you've been - I love that you've been supporting others despite everything; hope you're doing OK xxx

@roule my experience with the nhs in Scotland at least has been really positive with the exception of the last doc. Sadly did not get miracle pregnant before my appointment (this Wednesday) but I recognise that my wait has been on the shorter side so I'm trying to be at peace with it.

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time @physicskate! My MIL is a teacher as well and it's shocking how some of the parents act. 😓 Best of luck deciding how to move forward.

Fingers crossed for everyone waiting to test xx

@physics

Yes no job would be good unfortunately I am stuck I have to work as DH and I wouldn’t be able to afford not to. If we could then I probably wouldn’t work. Is there much call for supply work? Some teachers I know prefer rocking up doing the job and the going home. No strings or pressure.

Am actively looking elsewhere as the stress it’s causing me is not good at all.

@QuietTime I am good thank you... today was manic at work which helped with the TWOT!