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[Jamon]

Join me TTC1ers xx

Well done gee I'm rooting for them and you xxx 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Fingers crossed geeup

Fau- good luck!!

Thanks all. 2dp5dt and feel absolutely nothing. Boobs not even sore from the progesterone. Swear last time (with my chemical) I'd had some cramps by now but trying to ignore it and keep busy doing other things.

We're behind you all the way! Most people don't feel implantation or any symptoms until a week or two after implantation happens.

Hi everyone am full on stressed out here.

I go back to work on Tuesday after a long break. My usual cover who works with child I work with is away so he is with a lady who every time she covers makes him cry. ( Not his fault) . This is adding to my stress.
I’m shitting myself about Thursday’s internal scan . I am finding the whole thing far more stressful than I’m trying to let on.

My husband doesn’t seem to be as worried by things as me. My anxiety is through the roof.

I’m sorry to hear you’re having a really stressful time, Babipotjam, I don’t know what you could do to ease the stress. Have you had a talk with your husband about how stressful everything is for you right now? Is there anything he could do to help you?

As for me, 4th Menopur injections in and I now have insomnia and will cry at a drop of a hat to any thing that’s remotely nice. E.g. there’s a photo of Stranger Things’s Eleven and Jim Hopper at the Golden Globes where Jim is looking down at Eleven and they look like the father/daughter figure in real life. I started bawling at it five mins ago.

Sorry about wobble last night. All got a bit much! Am calmer today.

antonia that sounds hard going!

Don’t apologise for having a wobble @Bapipotjam, we know how you feel! My first IVF there were a couple of nights where I just sobbed my heart out because of the stress. All my husband could do was to sit and hold me until I was done crying. It’s such a hard emotional process to go through and it’s easy to forget that you shouldn’t be hard on yourself. Also our mad, all-over-the-place hormones don’t help either!

Hello, hello, to you all…hope you don’t mind if I join you after lurking for some time…..

I hope you are all as well as can be on this January afternoon- fingers crossed for future treatment cycles, appointments, PUPO’s and maybe pregnancy via actual shagging!! (I hear it does happen)

Intro- roule, age 36 (37 in March- I am OLD), TTC#1 for 9 months with no BFPS- I know this is not long at all compared to many of you, and I’m certainly not here to say ‘just relax hun’ or chat about fucking baby dust. We are very lucky that our problem was identified early on. We have MFI- asthenzoospermia to be precise. Basically, OH’s swimmers don’t swim, the buggers. So far, my tests and bloods have been ok. Famous last words.

At our infertility appointment in December we were told (and I shit you not): ‘it only takes one’. Utter dickheads- OH’s last sample had 1% progressive motility. You don’t need a degree in medicine to know that we are fucked! It’s going to take us a non-existent unicorn miracle for us to get diffed. Fuckers.

Next apt will be in March, and then we should start ICSI in the late spring/summer. Unless OH swimmers suddenly decide to wake up, and then it’ll be IUI and then ICSI. OH is on the proxeed, vits, loose boxers etc. etc.. I am wondering whether to book a consultation with Dr Ramsey in the big smoke. He’s the godfather of MFI I hear, but it’s more £££. OH actually asked me if I regretted marrying him due to us not being able to conceive naturally, which was quite possibly one of the most devastating questions I have ever been asked. I feel so sad that he felt he had to ask that. People don’t get infertility and the utter despair of it all.

As we have a MFI diagnosis, the NHS are refusing to check my tubes/ do a HSG etc. Has anyone else read the Robert Winston book? I’m going to insist on these tests next time, as I don’t want to set up the ICSI to fail, considering the odds are already statistically shit. I also read your post about DNA frag Pyjamas- will look into that too.

Final question- has anyone had their cycles any of the Care clinics nationally, or Nurture in Nottingham? Will prob be looking into these for our treatment.

I apologise for this very long, self-centred post. I will also be supportive- promise!

It’s good to have a place to rant. Fucking hate this shit.

Hi @roule! Sorry you’re in this boat with us and also welcome aboard

I know where your husband is coming from asking about regretting marrying him. I said something very similar to my husband as it’s me that has that problem. It is mentally hard to get though IVF and it can wear the hardiest woman/man down, you just have to try and keep each other propped up when the other one starts to slide down the bar.

I went to CARE in Nottingham through the NHS for the first IVF. My experience with them is that they were really friendly and happy to explain anything and answer any questions you may have (I asked a shit load of questions!). For the scans and bloods, did those at Derby Royal as I use to work in Derby and I could nip up quite easily.

This board is full of great advice and lots of knowledgeable women who have been through all shapes of IVF so someone will more than likely have any answers to any questions you might have.

Hi Antonia, thanks for the welcome.

Really helpful to hear about your experiences & feelings being similar to my OH. This business is a bugger. Glad to hear you had s good experience at Care too, we have the one NHS round also. Such a fecking lottery.

There seems to be a wealth of knowledge & experience on this thread- hopefully I might be able to share some info too

I hope your injections are going well & not too long before you fly out to Czech I believe

First day back at work today- I think some is in order! So much for that post Xmas high protein diet!

Hi ladies

I hope it's okay for me to post this because I don't want to seem like a dick or just disappear but I got a shock natural BFP today

We were due to start fertility treatment in the next couple of months but I think the HSG I had in December must have cleared things out

I'm very happy of course but also terrified

I really hope I am still welcome to follow this thread because you have all been so lovely to me

Ahhh the mythical post-HSG BFP does exist after all!!!
Congratulations @polkadotpixie that's fantastic, hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy ☺️

@passmethewine123 Thank you & yes apparently they do, I always thought they were a myth too tbh!

Not sure if it was the dye clearing my tubes or them prising open my cervix during it that allowed the sperm to actually get in (the dr told me it was clamped unusually tightly shut) that did it but either way I'm very glad I had it done despite being terrified at the time

Congrats @polkadotpixie!! I'm probably getting mine scheduled soon and your news is giving me some much needed hope! Happy and healthy nine months to you xx

That’s fantastic news @polkadotpixie, congratulations on the surprise BFP! I’m really chuffed for you!

Congratulations polkadotpixie!

@Babipotjam how are you doing darling?
The is a fcuker of a journey and it does not help if you have to deal with nasty people.

Welcome @roule
You are a spring chicken compared to me.
Dr Ramsay is a legend, or so I have been told.

@polkadotpixie CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Miracles can happen! So happy for you!

I had my lining scan today - 6.8mm and a lovely triple line. If bloods (progesterone and oestradiol) come back fine FET should be on Monday!

Welcome @roule - when we first discovered DHs morphology was sub par we went to Mr Ramsay for his thoughts. It is expensive (consultation about £250 and tests were £1-2k I'm afraid depending on which ones you go for) but we were massively reassured by his comments and helpful advice. He actually told us to try naturally for another 6 months as it should have happened for us. It didn't but I liked he didn't try and flog us unnecessary treatment. I'd go and see him - he's the best there is.
Massive congrats @polkadotpixie - a natural bfp must be incredible. Very pleased for you and glad the op worked!
AFM I'm 4dp5dt of 2 non-hatching frozen embies. Did a test this morning against all medical advice!) and while I would absolutely put it firmly in the BFN space, I'm hopeful there's a glimmer of hope from the faintest of shadows. Could be a shadow or an evap - internet cheapie - but I'm saving my first £10 piss stick for when there's more of a chance there's something to see later in the week. So for now cross your fingers for me please!

Cross post! So pleased to hear lining is coming along @kwick massive hug for you. We're in it together!!!

@geeup I definitely see a hint of something on your test and I'm blind as a bat so fingers crossed it's the start of your BFP!

Thank you all for the congratulations & yes a natural BFP was a real shock even more so to my husband as I had a slight inkling the day before when AF didn't turn up!

I got strong lines on my FRER and Pregnant 2-3 on a digital yesterday at 13dpo so I'm hoping it's a strong baby in there and the cramps I'm having are just it burrowing in 😊

Sorry, totally forgot to say @kwick, great news on your lining. Fingers crossed for transfer 😊

Hey ladies, hope you’re all doing well.

Super lining kwick everything crossed for you with egg transfer!

Oh gosh geeup I can’t imagine how nervewracking this must all be for you! I’ve got my fingers crossed that this is it and your transfer is a success (I think I see a faint shadow on there, too!!).

Congrats polka - great news!

Hello roule sorry you find yourself here, but welcome! This thread has helped me so much. Hope you manage to get the tests sorted and I agree that it’s ridiculous the extent to which you need to become an expert yourself in all of this shit, just to get some answers.

well once again a mixed bag. Egg collection went great, 15 eggs. However we have a case of multiple fertilisation which has rendered 9 of them useless. Next time they’re going to try ICSI to prevent this from happening. Anyone else had experience of multiple fertilisation? Didn’t know it could happen. So we’ve still got 6, but I’m not hopeful because the 6 have to survive until Saturday...

@geeup I am as blind as a bat! I won't tell you off for testing way early, promise!
I really really hope you get a BFP!

@FrauNeuer wahoo 6 embryos!!! Amazeballs!! FX they all make it to blasto.

I have FET greenlight for Monday. Flights booked!

Evening chaps

kwick- I used to think 90 was on the older side, but this fertility lark has spooked me into feeling like a pensioner! Great news that your flights & FET are ready to go.

geeup- fingers crossed for the digital piss stick! I rang Dr Ramsey's secretary today- he's currently at a fertility conference (oh the irony) so I'm calling back tomorrow, even if it's pricey. OH wants to turn the appointment into a weekend trip, as it's quite far- to fucking LEGOLAND. We need some laughs, so may as well eh?

Frau- Also hope your 6 do the business & become blastilicious (as Beyoncé would say). I'm not sure if I've heard of multiple fertilisation before.....as you said, we end becoming experts- so I might read into this! That'll add to my other exciting reading- local CCG funding guidelines.

Babipot- hope you've had a better day today

Well, I'm going to dust of my lingerie in a vain attempt at conception au natural this week....new resolutions and all that. It's not going to fecking work though. Booo