3rd or more time lucky - IVF cycle buddies October

[Hobbes39]

Hi Just wondering of there are folks on here who are about to go through their 3rd + time of IVF who want a cycle buddy? I dont mean it badly towards anyone who is starting their IVF journey for the first time, (i was there just this time last year after all) but I feel a bit like I cant be as optomistic about it as I was, so dont want to drag any first timers down? Hope that makes sense!
Anyway, just to explain about me:
TTC #2 for over 2.5 years now
Unexplained Secondary Infertility (have 4 year old DS)
Age 40.5
AMH: 15.4
2 failed fresh and 1 falied FET (with single frozen 3BB embryo we got from 2nd fresh round)
about to start 3rd fresh round when my period starts in approx 7-10 days, so will probably be late october EC.
anyone else a bit jaded, but still vaguely hopeful want to join me?
xx

I'm really sorry @Decafplease to be so close must be incredibly painful. I'm so so sorry.

decaf that’s so sad to hear. I am so sorry. Hope you can have some time with your dh to get through this together. Take care of yourself xx

Morning everyone - how are people doing?
Just had my baseline scan and am starting stims now. Showed 5-6 follicles in one side and 7-8 on the other, so fingers crossed a decent number of those respond 🤞.
Had a moment of utter frustration with my DH this morning - I was slightly nervous about today (I know, I should be used to it by now!) and said to him I was and he asked “is it transfer day today?” I just felt so deflated that he is SO tuned out this time that he seemed to think we were at embryo transfer stage???! When we haven’t even had the whole week of stress where collection / scary phone calls re numbers etc... how could he get that so wrong?? Ug. Think he’s feeling bad about it, but it just makes me feel so glad I’ve got you guys as you’d think after 2.5 times he’d have got the hang of where we are!!

Hi all, hope you and your DH doing ok decaf

That’s great news about starting stims hobbes and it sounds like a good number of follicles to work with. So frustrating about your DH though - mine’s exactly the same. I don’t know whether it’s because they feel they have even less control over the process than we do but they just seem to zone out. I got given a load of paperwork to complete and get signed by both of us and mentioned to my DH that there was some stuff he needed to sign that evening and he rolled his eyes and said “not more paperwork” which really annoyed me as I fill out all the paperwork - all he has to do is sign his name Hope your DH makes it up to you with something nice!

Thanks everyone. I’m at work, trying to distract myself. My IL’s have decided to stay a couple of nights with us. They mean well, i think they feel they are keeping us from dwelling on our loss, but i really would have prefered to be alone with DH. Ah well, at least MIL will have house spotless and dinner on table by time i get home tonight, and tomorrow DH and i will be alone again.
Really good number of follicles hobbes, one more step forward.

Hi everyone, hope you had had good weekends? How are you doing Decaf? Hope you have had a bit of space after PIL visit?
Honestly, it’s part of the reason why I haven’t told my family about this whole thing - they’d probably try to ‘help’ in some way, but actually make it worse (especially my mum, who would end up making me comfort her no doubt 🙄) but it does sound like your ILs are better and at least make themselves useful!
How’s everyone else doing? When do you think your transfer will be Lulah? Won’t be long now... hope you are doing ok Gee & bjones? - the waiting to get going again seems so long sometimes, hope it’s passing quickly for you?
AFM - I am shattered! I’m beginning to feel twinges slightly and feeling quite bloated already... hopefully that means something is happening down there. I’m mega thirsty again (remember being so last time) and just feel so tired and slightly achey. I’m hoping I’m not coming down with something as that would be just my luck! Scan to see what’s happening so far is on Tuesday, fingers crossed a decent number of the follicles respond - I’m being paranoid probably, but slightly concerned that there were more follicles on my left hand side and that’s the side that barely responded the last 2 times... but maybe it’s woken up... 🤞.
How you doing Coco? Hope things are very uneventful for you!
...thinking of you Wanda and weedance hope you are ok xx

Hi all, hope you’ve had a great weekend.

We’ve ended up telling more people than I’d like - mainly because they’ve bluntly asked if we’re doing IVF and I don’t like outright lying to people (although I have in a couple of cases where I really really didn’t want them to know we were doing IVF!) Telling people makes it easier in some ways - not having to hide not drinking and having to pretend to be happy when you’ve just had a failed cycle, but it definitely makes it harder in others.

All your symptoms sound positive hobbes - will have my fingers crossed that you have lots of nicely developing follicles at tomorrow’s scan. Sorry to hear that your mum wouldn’t be as supportive as you’d like if you were to tell her!

Hope you’re doing ok decaf and things are ok with you guys too weedance and wanda. Hope you’re not getting too fed up waiting for things to start gee and bjones and hope all is nice and relaxed with you coco.

Transfer for me is booked in this Friday and start the clexane injections today - was slightly horrified by the size of the syringes and am very glad my DH is doing them for me - almost makes me remember the Gonal F injections with fondness!

Hi Lulah - thanks for the good luck wishes - they seemed to work as we had a good scan today I went in thinking if I just can have 6 that would be good.. anyway, trying not to get my hopes up as I know follicles don’t always = eggs and I know that some of these might not get any bigger, but I had 16 follicles in total, which is double the best I’ve had at this stage before!
You know when bitter experience tells you not to get carried away, but that glimmer of hope makes you get over excited? I’m in that battle now. Please please please let this be the time . Hope everyone else is ok? Lulah you must feel excited it’s all happening quickly? I have another scan on Friday, so will be thinking of you while I’m there! X

Great news in all those follies @Hobbes39 keep drinking that whole milk!!

Thanks gee - I’m currently eating at least 3 eggs a day and snacking on nuts! Who knows if it’s helping or not, but I’ll do anything!
One thing I forgot to mention - the consultant found an endometrioma on my ovary... I’ve long suspected I had some sort of endo and seems I do. She said it’s small and not to worry about it at the moment, they just need to be mindful when they go in for eggs to go round it. I do wonder if endo has been part of my problem tho... never had a lap to check for it, as doc said it would take time etc so f baby was priority we should just crack on with the ivf....

great news hobbes thats fantastic. am going to buy a huge supply of eggs and nuts (how ironic!!)
arm I have a new job which starts in a. couple of weeks. They seem a really lovely family so need to get over the guilt of not telling them what we're about to embark on again! Nannying isn't the easiest career to arrange ivf around but we will work it out and if I have to take a day "off sick" then thats what I'll do (goes against my principles), but I realise from last time I need to be working during the process to take my mind off things. Last time I had 3 weeks off work (the family went away) and although it was great as they didn't have a clue I think I went a bit bat-shit crazy with too much thinking time.
Good luck for Friday lulah.
Hope everyone else is ok

AFM, not arm!!

Can any of you COQ10 takers tell me if this is the sort of thing I am supposed to take?

Ubiquinol 200mg 30 Softgels EAF CoQ10 (Enhanced Absorption Formula Coenzyme Q10 as Kaneka QH)
by Health Thru Nutrition

(I can't seem to post the link, they were on amazon)

Also do you take folic acid on top of your pregnacare, I seem to be getting in a muddle with what I'm doing so hope you lovely ladies can help me!!

Hello everyone,
hobbes that is great news on your follies, sounds very promising, i really hope this is the one for you, keeping everything crossed for you!

lulah all the best for friday, i hope your transfer goes well.

decaf i am so sorry to hear your news, i hope you and your DH are holding up ok, it is so cruel.

Things are all quiet with me, i've got my private scan next week. We decided to tell our very close family last week, i'm sure they all mean well but funny how everyone suddenly has an opinion on when you should be doing what!!!

Hope everyone else is doing ok xx

Congrats on the follicle numbers hobbes - that’s great news! When’s your next scan? Good news too that the endometrioma won’t cause any problems - it may well explain why ttc naturally hasn’t worked this time.

Also congrats to you bjones on the new job! That ubiquinol sounds identical to what I was taking (not taking it currently as my clinic said I should stop taking it a few days ahead of the transfer - I can restart taking it if we don’t get a BFP). I’m not taking extra folic acid - the recommended amount is 400mcg which my multivitamin (Pregnacare Before Conception) already has and my clinic said it wasn’t necessary to take extra.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Good luck with your transfer lulah! Its today right?

Good luck Lulah! Am sat waiting for my scan and thinking about your transfer! Hope it all goes well xx

Good luck lulah and hobbes for scan

Woohoo good luck @lulahbelle hope it goes really smoothly.

Thanks gee, hobbes and bjones! Off to get my progesterone levels tested and then to cross my fingers the embryo thaws ok.

Good luck with the scan hobbes - hope your 16 follicles have developed nicely!

Hi everyone - scan was good - about 11 of my 16 look a decent size, so triggering tomorrow, EC late Monday morning... trying to manage my expectations as that’s a lot more than ether of the last times, so suspect that will prob only get a similar number to last time (7) in the end, but I can dream for more! 🤞 hope you are ok Lulah and hope everyone else is doing ok too? X

That’s great news hobbes - I know it’s easy to say but try not to worry about the number - there’s nothing you can do to control it so try and relax and enjoy the last few days on not either injecting progesterone or using the pessaries! Have they upped your progesterone dose this time?

Hey Lulah - have you an embryo on board now? Hope you are ok?
I haven’t spoken to them about the progesterone by I think I’ll be begging them to give me the same as they did for the frozen transfer (2x a day) as that’s the only time I’ve not bled before test date.

Hi hobbes, yes one embryo safely on board. Had a total panic when I was waiting to go in and a nurse came up and said could she have a quick word - thought she was going to say it hadn’t survived the thaw but she just wanted to give me my progesterone results! So just have to get through the next 9 days till my OTD. In a rather pessimistic move I’ve booked a consultation at the clinic we’ve decided to try next if this transfer doesn’t work

Definitely get them to give you the progesterone 2x a day again - especially since you didn’t bleed early last time.

Hope everyone else is OK - have a lovely weekend.

Congrats @lulahbelle am thinking positive thoughts for you and the embie!