3rd or more time lucky - IVF cycle buddies October

[Hobbes39]

Hi Just wondering of there are folks on here who are about to go through their 3rd + time of IVF who want a cycle buddy? I dont mean it badly towards anyone who is starting their IVF journey for the first time, (i was there just this time last year after all) but I feel a bit like I cant be as optomistic about it as I was, so dont want to drag any first timers down? Hope that makes sense!
Anyway, just to explain about me:
TTC #2 for over 2.5 years now
Unexplained Secondary Infertility (have 4 year old DS)
Age 40.5
AMH: 15.4
2 failed fresh and 1 falied FET (with single frozen 3BB embryo we got from 2nd fresh round)
about to start 3rd fresh round when my period starts in approx 7-10 days, so will probably be late october EC.
anyone else a bit jaded, but still vaguely hopeful want to join me?
xx

Hi all. I'm ok thanks. Trying to stick to my plan to change my focus during this long old wait like I told you about and it's going ok so far - eating pretty much on plan and runs on plan. Lost some good weight already so just need to stick to it for another 3 months - eek! Ordered and received my next batch of Zita West vitamins so will start taking them again religiously (ish) along with my vitamin d spray. Just trying to treat this 3 month delay as prep time to increase my chances.
Hope your scan goes well @Decafplease - remind me which day it is?

Hi all, sorry i haven't been on for a while the joys of wifi abroad!!

hobbes sorry to hear about your run in with the cupboard, it must be hard seeing all that stuff. Very tempting to take it all to a charity shop, but i'm sure very hard to let some of it go. Fingers crossed you will be needing it all soon enough.

lulah thats great news that your tests came back fine however i understand your frustrations with having no more answers, will make your next cycle more worrying as if its not bad enough in the first place.

geeup well done for sticking to your plan, sounds like you have it all under control, the waiting is hard but having a focus like you have is a good way of at least holding on to some control and preparing yourself.

wanda and weedance hope your both holding up ok.

decaf i cant believe your holiday has gone so quick, i hope you have managed to relax and had a lovely time although i understand the panic is always there.
I have got sore nipples, been nauseous on and off and felt tired and my worry is that they are either just because of the progesterone or like last time i still had symptoms regardless so i dont think you can win really. I'm trying to relax but I'm panicking over any twinge i feel and carry an emergency stash of pads everywhere with me just incase.
Hang on in there your scan day will be here soon x

Hello! Just wanted to gatecrash the thread as so many familiar names in here coco lulah hobbes geeup and wanda I was on the march/April thread with you. Hi to weedance and decaf too. Since our last round I have been obsessively reading these boards and wondering what to do (amongst trying naturally to no avail) then I lost my job at the end of August, not helpful. Anyway my amazing parents have offered to lend us the money again of which I am so grateful. I think we’re going to wait now until after Xmas so I can (hopefully) get a permanent job - i’m Just temping at the moment. We’re changing clinics too -geeup - I think the one we’re veering towards is the one you’re at - in Woking? So any tips be great!
Also any other tips - what to take- I only took folic acid last time. Scratch? Acupuncture?
Congrats to those who have got BFP’s and unmumsnetty hugs to those who haven’t. It’s rubbish we’re all in this situation. Take care ladies

Hi bjones - was only thinking a couple of days ago how lovely it was that so many of us who didn’t get successful BFPs on the March/April thread had ended up together on this thread (thanks again for starting it hobbes!) and was wondering how you were getting on. (Obviously it would be even lovelier if we were all on a pregnancy thread together but hopefully we will be soon!) Am so pleased you managed to get funds for a second cycle and so hope it’s your lucky cycle. So sorry to hear you lost your job though - hope you find a permanent one soon.

Sorry I’ve been out of touch for a while - have had a sinus infection which made me feel really rough for a couple of days. Sorry also for my moan about the test results I read it back and realised how utterly self-absorbed it was - thank you so much for all your support and will try not to be such a drama queen!

How is everyone? Hope you’re feeling a little less down hobbes and your nose is recovered! How are you getting on wanda and weedance - hope you’re coping OK. Sorry you’ve been having non-IVF stresses too wanda - really not what you need right now. Hope your holidays have been fab coco and decaf - remind me when your scans are? Well done on the weight loss gee - what’s your secret? Have been trying really hard with food and exercise but haven’t lost an ounce

Finally on CD1 today so will be booking in for my first scan tomorrow to check everything’s as it should be for the FET.

Hi @bjonesreborn welcome back. I really like Victoria Wing where I'm at. The nurses are so lovely and accommodating. It's quite conservative though so don't expect any new fandangled treatments to be on offer! Scratch is obviously worth doing and if you're doing fresh again, I'd ask about embryogen - I haven't done it as wasn't eligible but would do if I did fresh again. And ask them about aspirin if you don't take it already. They don't recommend it but defo no harm at the right point in the cycle.
@lulahbelle no secret so far to the weight loss but I'm trying to do a loose version of the blood sugar diet (but not doing 800 caps a day!). So far it seems to be having an effect but I miss sugar...

Thanks geeup I had the embryogen last time, so prob would have it again. It will be a fresh cycle as we didn’t get enough to freeze last time. Well done on your weight loss

Hi all!
Back to work after hols, but being very unproductive! My scan is on Wednesday morning, and frankly its all i can think about.
bjones welcome, sorry you find yourself here, but hopefully this is the time it works!
geeup well done with your fitness project! lulah hope you are feeling better. And dont worry about venting here, this is the one place where everyone understands!
Hope your holiday is goong well coco.
Hi to everyone else.

Hi all, bjones so glad you found us, lovely to hear from you, sorry to hear about your job, fingers crossed you find something permanent soon enough. Thats lovely of your parents to lend you the money though.

lulah sorry to hear you've not been feeling well. Great that you can get booked in for a scan thoughfor your FET.

decaf i'm not suprised your scan is all you can think about with less than 2 days to go, mines still a week away and i'm on count down.

I am enjoying my holiday and trying to relax but woke up to another bleed this morning which has left me worrying more than ever. Everywhere says try not to worry its common but thats easier said than done, its happened twice now a week apart and so i cant help but worry that somethings wrong. I cant even have a scan any earlier as we aren't back in the UK till late thurs so just got to wait it out again.

Hello all, feeling a bit down in the dumps today and been a having a right moan to anyone who'll listen. Nice to meet you bjones what a lovely thing for your folks to do, hope this is your lucky cycle!

Can I ask, what is embryogen? I've not heard of it. And someone mentioned baby aspirin, what's that for? I have clearly missed out on these nuggets of information!

Oh coco what a stressful situation! I really hope they can shed some light on this for you when you return to the UK. Try not to stress too much, it could be implantation bleeding or the pesky progesterone x

Hi all! And hello BJones - nice to see another familiar name and I'm so pleased you are able to go ahead with another round, but sorry that any of us are here on this board at all... x
Re your question on what to take/ do - I did do acupuncture until recently but I've lost faith in it and was expensive, so decided to just leave it now and just try to use the time I would have been driving to and from it to relax...! It certainly won't do any harm to anything other than your bank balance and I know some studies say it can help if done immediately after transfer (I think) but I got annoyed last time that despite telling them my transfer was that week and likely to be day 3 they didn't make much effort to fit me in, so I only had it 2 days after transfer and so felt that was too late, hence feeling a bit defeated about it all. Supplement wise it looks like consensus on here is folic acid & coQ10 and vit D... any others might be useful for specific situations, but who knows! Good luck xxx
So my nose is thankfully not obviously bruised, but it is still sore and I'm full of cold at the moment, so no escaping it! 🙄. Typical isn't it? So feeling a bit sorry for myself and generally just grumpy and glum. Oh well...
Lulah that's great you are now CD1 and on the countdown - must feel good to finally be getting there?

Decaf - good luck for Wednesday - will keep everything crossed. And Coco - am thinking of you - hope the bleeding subsides again and you can relax a bit (I know, impossible!) fingers crossed that all is ok - I had a small amount of early bleeding with my DS and know how terrified I was then and this was before experiencing this secondary infertility shit, so I had more blind faith then, hang in there as it is probably just one of those (scary) things, and all will be well.
gee, hope the waiting isn't driving you mad and sounds like you are doing great with the diet!
wanda and weedance - thinking of you both xx

Good luck today decaf xx

Good luck today decaf!

Also, coco - hope the bleeding has eased off and you’re not stressing too much and still enjoying your holiday x

Thanks everyone. Unfortunately, they could not see a heartbeat. The sac and embryo are there, but measuring small. We have been told to come back next week, and if it has grown, then we have a chance. But i felt the sonographer was warning us that because the sac+ embryo measures behind actual date, the chances werent good. Trying to stay positive, but its so hard. Not sure how i am going to survive the week.

oh decaf sorry to hear that. Its truly horrible not to get the news you were hoping for.
This week will be tough but there is still a chance of some good news at the next scan. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this

Oh god decaf. How incredibly worrying. I don't know what to say other than I'm thinking of you in this limbo land. I can't imagine how tough this week will be until you know more. Well done for being so strong.

So sorry to hear decaf got everything crossed for you.
weedance embroygen is a kind of ‘glue bath’ they put the embryo’s in before transfer. I had it on my first fresh cycle, think it cost around £150. I figured the amount of money we were paying anyway it was a no brainer to have it, so would def have it again.
Hope everyone else is ok x

Oh god decaf - ug - sending hugs to you... just awful limbo to be in. I am willing it all to be ok next week - I have no idea if it will, but hang in there... hope is all we have isn't it? Xxxx

Oh decaf, I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. I know from my own experience how horrible the next week will be and I can’t promise you that it will all be OK, but when this happened to me, I googled like a crazy woman, and whilst there are stories that didn’t have a happy ending, there were others that did, so please don’t give up hope now. Hang on in there - will be thinking of you and crossing everything for you

Hi everyone. I've had so much going on in the past week or so with other stress going on, I have only just caught up with all your news.

bjones nice to see you here. How lovely of your parents to offer to help. I really hope this time is your lucky time.

decaf I'm so sorry to read your news. There is nothing that can be said to make it any less worrying for you and I know how long the next week will feel to you. I've been thinking of you and Coco and hoping things were going well for you both; it sounds like you're both having a stressful time. I am so sorry you're both going through this.

I've just found out today that one of the senior people in my team at work is leaving, as a result of which my team is being disbanded. Very unsettling situation and it's not at all clear where I will end up. This does not fit at all with my plan (dream) to get pregnant early next year. If I go on maternity leave when everything is so uncertain, I might not have a job to come back to. But I can't afford to not try again as soon as possible, which is early next year. It's a worry. Wouldn't it be nice just to be able to plan to have your baby at a convenient time, like other people seem to?!

Thanks for the kind words everyone. I am at work, trying to distract myself. Got a call from the clinic again, basically repeating the info given at the scan. Nothing to do but wait and see.
Sorry to hear about your job restructuring wanda. Added pressure on you. I wish any of us had the luxury of planning anything! Must be a different world for the fertile ☹️

Oh decaf i'm so sorry, it just really isn't fair is. After all we all go through to get to this stage and then be in limbo is just horrid and unfair, do we not go through enough.
There is nothing i can say, the next week will be tough but you are strong and we are all here for you.
There is still a chance so please dont loose all hope, i'm keeping everything crossed

What day do you have to go back? Xx

Sorry to hear about your job wanda it is a worry and one you could do without.
Both myself and DH got made redundant last year, me at the beginning, him at the end and i was so worried as i had our little plan that we would be pregnant by then.
A year on and both have new jobs and hoping it all works out ok this time!

We constantly put our lives on hold waiting and planning things around treatment or not just incase, i cant imagine how it must feel to not struggle and have it all work out when and how you want.

Hi all, how is everyone?

Hope you’re ok decaf and are managing to get through this week OK - have been thinking of you.

So sorry to hear you’ve been having such a rough time wanda - not what you and your DP need right now at all. Am keeping my fingers crossed it all works out OK for you.

How was your holiday coco?

Hope everything is OK with you guys hobbes, gee, weedance and bjones.

Having been all excited to get started on Monday, it’s all gone a bit pear-shaped for me! I sent my blood test results to my consultant only for him to say that the hospital hadn’t done the tests they were meant to So if I go ahead this cycle he’s going to put me on clexane anyway on the basis it won’t do me any harm. But this cycle may not now be possible since I had my first scan on Thursday and the nurse found what she thinks may be a polyp. She’s not sure so I have to go for another scan (& possibly a contrast scan) on Monday but she didn’t seem hopeful and thought it was likely it was a polyp in which case the transfer can’t happen until it goes away or is removed. It’s so frustrating - just seems to be one step forward and two steps back at the moment

Hi everyone - how are you all? Lulah - arg! That's so frustrating for you! It's so annoying when things totally beyond your control can delay so much. I'm so sorry you are having this & hope the nurse is mistaken 🤞.

Coco are you back from holiday? Hope your bleeding has gone again?

I'm 2 days into buserelin injections and started bleeding & cramping today so it's clearly doing its job - roll on Thursday next week when I should hopefully get to start stims and feel a bit less meh. Glad I made the effort to shed some of the weight creep I'd had after the last rounds as this week I've been so unable to eat healthily - ive craved chocolate - so I'm certain I've already gained weight before the bloat from stims starts! I have decided I'm going to allow myself this week, but as if next I shall be eating as healthily as I can with extra protein...!

Hi everyone else, I'm really grateful to have your company as I have looked at the cycle buddies for the next month and I feel I don't really fit, so appreciate you guys being around for hand hold! x