IVF September/October 2017

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Hi Ladies! Finally I will have my first IVF treatment as soon as my next cycle starts which I expect it to be more or less end of September/beginning of October. My periods are very irregular so I never know exactly. My consultant suggested antagonist protocol which I will receive in post soon. I am extremely excited but then realistic about the fact that it might not be successful first time.

How are you feeling ladies? When are you due to start your Ivf Journey? Fingers crossed for all of us fighters;-)

Don't feel silly about anything, I'd rather know too!! It's better to be safe than sorry, hers is at home dye done by a hairdresser friend so I wonder if that's different??!

We planning on taking my friend & her family for a nice lunch afterwards with and even one glass of bubbly as a hoorah we made it this far let's hope it's the last!

Hello all,

Things have been hectic here so haven't had chance to pop by.

I hope everyone is ok.

Sunshine - how are you after ET. Massive congrats, send you lots of positive thoughts.

Hanim - how are you feeling?

Minster - I'm so excited for you.

I'm having a bit of an emotional day. Getting a scan at 8.05 tomorrow to see how things are progressing and get a better idea if it will be Wednesday or Friday EC.
I'm feeling a lot of pressure now. Did you ladies feel like that?

X

Scotslass - from about day 6 I felt more and more bloated for lack of better word. Totally normal, just really uncomfortable! I couldn't wear any of my trousers - and ended up buying a pair of black maternity jeans just so I'd be comfortable - they are under bump ones so you can't actually tell.

Transferred just the one top quality embryo today. The other one wasn't doing so good and may not be ok to freeze either. They're going to let us know tomorrow. I felt fine after and stayed out for lunch for a few hours. But having mild cramp like pains now.

Hope the scan goes well tomorrow

Sunshine have everything crossed for little embie, and that the other can be frozen

Did you have lunch with your friends? Here's hoping the cramps are signs it's nestling in to get cosy!!

Positivity to everyone, Is there anyone else on the wait?

Scotslass hope the scan goes well tomorrow.
Where is everyone else up to? Shall we have a little check in maybe?

My friend has a scan on ties to check her down regulating is going to plan for FET end of oct what about everyone else I've not mentioned?

Sunshine - it's a strange feeling isn't it. Twingy, bloated and pressure.

Fingers crossed the 2nd one catches up and is a good wee embie 🤞

Thanks Minster.
Awww how exciting.

X

Hi all,
How you all doing??

Got good news at the hospital today. Have 7 follicles just about ready and my womb lining is looking good. Back tomorrow and looking like Thursday for egg collection. My blood results are indicating there are definitely some eggs maturing. The nurse thinks I'll have between 4 & 7 eggs. She said I am responding really well for someone with a low AMH. X

Thats great news scotslass! Great to hear you're almost there.

Back at work today for me after ET. Just trying to distract myself - going to be a long wait until test.

Also, sadly the other embryo wasn't good enough for freezing so all hopes this cycle on the one in me.

Fantastic news Scotslass, keep doing what you're doing!

Sunshine it only takes one, fingers crossed x

I'm totally deflated. Was back for another scan today and they measured fewer follicles and measured a couple smaller. What's going on! Is that possible??? It was a different nurse and when I questioned it she didn't really give me an answer 😞

Oh no scotlass - that must have been really hard to hear today.

This cycle on my second scan they seemed to count less than the first scan - as it was my second cycle I was trying hard not to focus on numbers/sizes too much because of the disappointment the first time. At the time I put the difference down to the imprecise nature of measuring via the scans.

But if you didn't get an adequate response from the nurse, I'd encourage you to call and ask to talk to a doctor to clarify if you can. Sounds like the nurse isn't the best person to ask.

Did they say what the plan is from here - next scan etc?

Stay positive mate x

Scotslass I agree with sunshine maybe call or email to see if you can get more info or ask is this normal?

The one thing I will say & I've said if before is try not to focus too much on the in between scans as mine were rubbish with not many responding & looking like it was failing the week before EC then all of a sudden in the last week a batch more follies put in a growth spurt & made it past the collection line so all is not lost, have faith in the drugs & keep going, it's not over until they pop those little follies out xxx

Hi all!

So I feel like a total moron today. I had my first scan, but have no idea how the follicles are doing, because most of the time was spent trying to come up with an action plan... I FORGOT TO TAKE MY ORGALUTRAN. I was meant to start on day 5 but just totally forgot, and didn't look at my treatment diary. ARGH. Got a telling off, and had to run straight to the blood test room to test my LH. If it's high, we'll have to cancel. Going back tomorrow morning to find out.

I'm SO pissed off with myself. But also pissed off with OH who is really disengaged because he's busy at work. We both work full time, and I'm busy at work too, plus doing all the IVF stuff, plus trying to project manage major building work, plus running the house as usual. I'm the main earner, yet he won't take time away from work... Rant over. I know its not his fault.

Starting to get huge headaches, and lots of pressure, and random twinges that make me acutely aware I have ovaries. Never thought about it before. They are not where I thought they would be lol. Sorry, really grumpy today. I'm all me me me.

Scotslass - that sounds really confusing! I'd be miffed that the nurse did not answer the question, it's a totally valid thing to ask and distressing not to know why your follicles were apparently disappearing or shrinking?! Def call them.

Sunshine - yay on the ET! Got everything crossed for you.

Minster - how did your friend's scan go today? Hope everything is looking good!

Hamim - Hi! We've not "spoken" before. Hope you're doing ok!

Off to watch bake off and dream about eating cake.

Oh dinks that's rubbish, it's all so confusing it's very easy to get muddled & it is unfair if your DH is disengaged. We missed one of our maturing shots (we didn't realise there were 2) so I know how scary it can be to think you've messed it up & we called the emergency line, thankfully most ppl just have one so it was ok & I have everything crossed it will be the same for you & all work out but we were crapping ourselves thinking we'd come so far & overlooked one thing & f**ed it up 😩 I started shaking & DH went white.

Maybe your DH is throwing himself into work even more as he doesn't feel as much part of it as it's happening to you? Sometimes the men can be detached? And pbviously don't get all of our emotions

Hanim how's the wait? Did you get an answer on the hair dye?

Our scan went well, my friends scan was great, she's down reg'd perfectly so all systems go but similarly we realised after we left that she doesn't have have enough injections to last to next scan & she lives 1.5 hours from me & the clinic so we were trying to avoid her coming over again- surely they should have known that & had a list to check off & given more!?! So that's frustrating!

Hello all

Hope it's ok to join this a bit late?

I am due to start ICSI on Tuesday. I have the scratch that day, and they said I could start the medication straight away. Has anyone else had the scratch?

I feel a bit apprehensive about the whole thing. But also a little bit eager to just get going with it.

Good luck to everyone :) And I@m keeping my fingers crossed that you get on ok dinksandbinks

xx

Morning all,

Appt this morning went ok! Thank heavens for that! LH isn't too high, though is higher than they would like, so they're going to bring egg collection forward to Fri or Sat. they didn't say how many follicles but I saw the number 7 written in one of the boxes so that's promising!

Minster thanks so much for the understanding. I feel a bit thick for getting muddled up, it is awful when you think you've screwed it up! Glad it worked out for you! Annoying about the medication though, can they get it delivered, or send the prescription to a closer pharmacy? You'd have hoped they would check before she left!! Grrr. Hope it gets sorted

I think you're right about DH. He said the other night that he's not really recovered from the trauma of the ectopic. It did sound pretty crappy for him, everyone was focused on me and he got to just stand and wait. I get quite upset thinking about the impact on him. I think he'll have to be more involved soon as I don't think I'll be able to do the intramuscular injections myself!!

Rose welcome :) I'm a newcomer here too. I felt really apprehensive too!! Major cold feet. It passes though! I had a huge panic attack the night before but now I'm jabbing myself like a pro lol.

Thanks for the welcome dinksandbinks :) glad to hear your treatment is back on track.

I'm weirdly feeling ok about the injections (please remind me of that when I'm a crying wreck on Tuesday!), I'm more concerned about how to cope with it all emotionally. I think ivf/infertility/icsi is the only thing in life that you can do buggar all about. I could have sent myself mad with all the guidance - eat yams, sweet potato, pineapple, drink booze, don't drink booze, rest, don't rest and carry on as normal, acupuncture, green tea, take every supplement in boots... when there is no evidence behind any of it. It feels so odd having something so important taking place and having zero control over it.

I guess the next few months will teach me patience. And how to inject myself...!

Good luck with the next few days :)
X

Hey all,
How are you doing??

Dinks - don't beat yourself up. Alls well that ends well and it domino have disastrous results. Re: OH, I think it's hard for them. They are on this journey with up with but are almost bystanders. Their input is minimal. I know my OH is struggling a bit with the balancing act of being supportive without understanding what I am really going through. I'm on a crazy emotional rollercoaster and he's trying best to say and do the right things.

Minster - glad all is going well. That is very frustrating. I have been a bit annoyed that nurses etc can be a bit insensitive to how much this affecting the people involved. The hassle of that inconvenience can be stressful.

Welcome Rose. I was really apprehensive about the injections than after day 1 I was totally fine. The thought of it was worse than the actual doing. I'd built it up to be such a big thing. Omg I know what you mean about what is the right things to do. You could actually drive yourself nuts.

Sunshine - how are you doing?? How are you feeling after ET?

Hanim - how are things going? How long now till you test??

I'm triggering at 11.30 tonight and going in for EC on Friday morning. Eeeeek. I'm cacking my pants now. I really hope there are some good quality eggs there.

Sending lots of PMA x

Evening all!

Dinks so glad it went ok earlier (how do you bold ppl btw?!) really pleased for you. 7 would be great, roll on Friday or Saturday! We heard from Our clinic & we can get the extra injections sent in the post so that's all good!

Rose hi! Welcome, it's tough emotionally there's no lie but we all get through it, & if you have a bad day there is always here! I am the same thinking we have no control over it so I just tended to eat healthily & drink moderately & sensibly & life went on! Like you say the horrible things are knowing it's so very important and knowing it's all you want & yet feeling so helpless & then of course the waiting, I do often think it's worse for our OH's cos at least we get to do things, I feel a bit more useless now it's all on my friend & I know how my DH feels.

Positive thoughts to all!

Morning all!

Thanks so much for the support. I'm such a numpty sometimes. But I guess they've seen it all before and have backup plans!!

Rose - I totally hear you on the lack of control. One of the nurses unhelpfully said to me I would have to get used to it as once you're pregnant your body is never your own again. Hmmmm. Raised eyebrow to that one. TBH other than take folic acid and vitamin D I have done nothing different, but I don't really drink anyway. I've cut down on sugar slightly but only because it makes me bloated and the IVF drugs are doing enough of that already! It's a total nightmare trying to unpick what's best. And worse accepting that there's bugger all we can do to influence the outcome :(

Scots I'm triggering tomorrow night for egg collection on Saturday!! So not far behind you. Also bricking it. Did you get any resolution on the number of follicles you had in the end?

Minster - so glad the medication hiccup was sorted!! Hurray for post! Btw you bold people by doing a * either side of the name. There may be a better way but I mostly use my phone to post and this is the easiest way I've found!

I feel kind of guilty about complaining about OH now. I spent a few days thinking about it, and it must be really hard for them being on the outside. I've booked us a weekend jolly in November as a surprise, something to focus on!

Dinks /Scots - exciting that you are at ET nearly!! I recommend taking an extra snack for afterwards (my clinic had something but not enough).

This wait is agonising. Struggling with the hormones I think. Mild cramps/soreness/bloating still and hot flushes. Doing my best to keep distracted but it's soooo hard!

I know Sunshine it's come around really quickly!! I can't believe it. Great advice about the snacks! Any other pearls of wisdom you can share? I'm pretty terrified tbh! And had a nurse tell me to get over myself when I asked about sleeping pills for the night before. Why are some nurses such jerks?! Most are lovely but the few who are aren't are really insensitive. Anyway I digress!

How long do you have to wait?

Hi xxx
I am new on this forum, well ive been on
May/June But i did miscarriage.. Our first transfer cudnt have cz of OHHS, so the tried FET but first didn't work (I think cz we wasn't bcareful end end up having bedding straight away after transfer.. Then 2nd go FET everything was perfect but miscarriage in 6th week don't know y.. A gues a did all cleaning house etc, and now gonna do again, but this time just laying down ;) already started period so just rang hospital to make app.. Feels better to have contact with ppl which going tru the same X do any of you have sum tips/trick to make it work? ;)
Hope on this forum every1 guna hv gd news xxx

Dinks - that's soo rude of the nurse! Can't believe that. The first time I was really nervous and the nurse was really nice despite me looking like I was going to puke while waiting. It wasn't really anything to worry about - the pain hours later and following days was the worst part. Make sure you ask what pain mess you can take if you need to. And wear comfy trousers as I was quite sore around my ovaries and didn't want anything too tight. Other than that, there isn't anything else you need to worry about. It will be over before you know it and you'll be another step along this crazy ride.

I'm in for a blood test next Tuesday so will have the result by the end of that day. I'm lucky I'm out of the office tomorrow on a volunteering day so that's one less day I need I be able to concentrate and be productive. Definitely struggling on that front!

Welcome to the newcomers too!

Hello ladies, I have been confused as thought no one had posted as I didn't get a single alert so come here to post well wishes and ask how your all doing and blimey so much I've missed!! 😦 Xx