IVF September/October 2017

[Filipinam]

Hi Ladies! Finally I will have my first IVF treatment as soon as my next cycle starts which I expect it to be more or less end of September/beginning of October. My periods are very irregular so I never know exactly. My consultant suggested antagonist protocol which I will receive in post soon. I am extremely excited but then realistic about the fact that it might not be successful first time.

How are you feeling ladies? When are you due to start your Ivf Journey? Fingers crossed for all of us fighters;-)

Minster2012 December?! Lol no way! I am expecting all to post until the birth of our babies and then just rename the thread 😤 I haven’t checked my Facebook or read news for a few days now bcoz of this forum 😂 taking over my life!

Dinks! I am sorry you feeling low but I don’t see why. You have a little peanut in there, I don’t even understand how it can have a heartbeat at this stage. Its way too early. Also take it one step at the time! In fact you knew you probably won’t see heartbeat just yet. You main worry was “ectopic pregnancy” and you don’t have it. There you go, it’s another little victory for u! As for arguing with hubby, what Can I say? It must be full moon or some magnetic storm, bcoz I just had a massive go at mine partner. Or maybe it’s coz men r dumb asses. Don’t take it close to heart, they rule countries, build ships and rockets but clueless when it comes to closing curtains 😂

Ladies I am afraid I am going to be a winner in MIL story 😆my darling partner haven’t spoken to her for nearly 4years after what happened 🙊

Why I can’t attach a picture anymore 😤😤😤 google says “””The best time to have a scan is from about 7 weeks' gestation when it should be possible to see the baby's heartbeat in a normal pregnancy””” so Dinks calm down and don’t stress. Also not sure where is “high maintainense” rubbish coming from. You seem pretty great

Dbear, that's a great collection - you've got a good start. I took off between egg collection and embryo transfer and felt better the day after collection than the next day - I think the pain relief had finally worn off after 2 days. Working from home would work, especially if it saves you a long commute.

Dinks, sorry the scan didn't give you more clarity but at 6 weeks it may well just be a bit too early. A couple of days can make such a difference at that early stage which is why they bring you back in a week. Try not to worry and see what next week brings, x

Starlumiere Hey. Happy landing 😁 landed and straight to work do, you sound like an energiser. All I think about is my bed 🙃 it’s not straight to transfer for me. I have month worthy of injections and pessaries too, don’t have instructions yet.

Dbear. Well done. Now we’ll deserved rest for you. I was really unwell sat/Sunday after EC, but went back to work on Monday (I am not an office worker) so had be on my feet 10 hours. Felt bit faint now and again, but was ok. Some girls as u can read here were a mess. So all depends on you x

Also Dinks, it can be doctors hands growing out of his/hers bum and that’s why they couldn’t find heartbeat. Depends how professional they r. Like today, I have to work tomorrow (that be 60 hours a week 😭😭) bcoz my colleague in hospital. She got pregnant and started bleeding. Went to hospital and been told she is miscarriying. 3 weeks later still bleeding. Went back to hospital, had scan, been told to F off home bcoz bleeding is normal for miscarriage. Now 5 weeks bleeding and in pain been admitted to hospital for surgery bcoz it’s evtopic pregnancy and even urin test show strong double line. So don’t think about it, it can be 100 reasons why they couldn’t find heartbeat. They will next Thursday x

Dinks I take all I read, apart from on here, with a pinch of salt and focus on my goal. They did mention the PGS to me when I saw the Planning Nurse, but I did not like the cons so I knew I wouldn't go for it. I will be fine, we will be fine because we are women!!! I really believe in this despite my age, I trust myself (remind me of all this when I am cropping myself!!! 😂😂😂😂😂). I will deal with my emotions as they come, I have them because I am human and a lot of women out there have their babies so why not us hey?

Aliona well you should see me now, I am on the sofa can't move because of all the dancing yesterday, sometimes I think I am still 18 years old! 😜

I have to say my DH is quite sensitive and sensible - BUT since we started this whole process he has changed into, how can I describe it, a morron, yes that's right a total morron. I love that morron though, I just think they get overwhelmed and don't know how to deal with it all sometimes.

On another note I am trying my meds tomorrow morning from ASDA as kindly recommended. It is getting nearer!!! Eeekkk!!!

Hitting the gym, running and a lot of Yoga, amongst other things. That's my normal life but I reckon I won't be able to do any of that while on the stims and the rest, right?

Starlumiere Haha moron! That’s my partners second name!! And yes some days he amaze me with his thinking and being all sensible and caring and some days simply “moron!!” Can’t be helped. Most of the days he would just listen and say “yes master” and does as he told 😆

Ohhhh ma MIL story is the best lol basically it's only cz am Polish/white so no u lot cn imagine he my relationship survive another hahahahah nd omg ma partner is a "princess" maybe cz at home every1 always did everything around him BT a did teach him he to clean bath after he he shower or bath hahaha BT dis tym he sed dat from transfer he guns clean all house nd feed me etc am scared cz he don't know even hw kettle work or hoover.. Lol a fink cz of all dis stress hormones etc a argue about wid him sumtyms he not fink Wat he saying nd dat rly hurt bt then everything it's perfect nd den a cn explain him 1000 tom's dat he don't understand Wat am going tru, hez not De one taking all injection, medicine having scans, transfer nd after worried cn he bend ova to pick summa up cz maybe summa will happen to Lil embryo... BT it's like talking to a wall cz few days after again we argue lol obviously dis invitro is rly emotional... Xxx

evening all!!

Rose I know I struggle to keep up!! We are obviously a chatty bunch!! How are you doing?

Minster I randomly googled training gun dogs and oh my gosh it sounds hard work!! I guess worth it though, esp if the gin plan works out 😎 Like a St. Bernard!!!

Aliona You’re so right!! I still have my BFP, I’m just being a drama queen!! Nurses don’t help when they’re all “oooh you should see the heartbeat” then no heartbeat :/ But I think everyone is right and it is too early. I’m feeling much better, and gave OH a beer as a peace offering!!

I’m so sorry about your colleague that’s awful!!! It took the doctors a long time to figure out what was wrong with me when I had my ectopic, I got turned away from the early pregnancy unit hospital a few times because they said I wasn’t 6 weeks so they couldn’t do anything. So I called my GP in tears I couldn’t breathe at all and they brought me in, then sent me straight to hospital in am ambulance and when I got to the early pregnancy unit they told me off for not calling them first... If I wasn’t already in so much pain I would have been banging my head against a brick wall!!

Sorry you have to work 60 hours, too, that’s crazy. I haven’t done that since my 20s... I feel too old to still have that work ethic. I just accept less money lol.

Star I mostly carried on with my usual activities when I was on stims, but slowed down a little bit as the bloating was a bit sore for running.

Atik We just had a log burner fitted in the house, I am so excited to be warm again. I don’t have thick blood, I am just cold. I wonder what you could try to help you few warm... maybe the reflexology that Star mentioned? Or get a cat to sleep on your feet!!

Hardy Thanks I think you’re right it is too early!! I need to chill out lol. How’s it going with you? Hope you’re doing ok in the TWW. Sending sticky wishes to the bean!

Laddies I totally get the moron description for OHs!! My OH is scarily clever but just has a total departure of common sense sometimes. Thankfully he is very hard working, especially in the house, but he has a very delicate ego so I have to make sure he feels like he is clever... so when I had to stare at him to close the curtain he felt silly, and that’s where the argument started. But I think it’s really hard for them because all they do is w*nk in a cup as you say Minster and then they just have to wait and watch :/

Right I’d better go. I’m at the in laws now and being rude by writing to you guys and not talking to them lol. Night night ladies!!! xxx

Dinks - cat wudnt help, a fink a will put ma partner on ma feet so he can keep them warm loll

😂😂😂Atik yes!! Good luck telling him that is his new job ;)

Tbh he is lyk a heater... A call him ma personal heating lol always on fire even at nyt he try cuddle me nd a pushing him away cz a literally sweating even window open BT wen he at work am just freezing lyk ryt nw :( a need sum1 to cuddle... Lol xxx

Looks like I'm out girls - AF started yesterday evening and is in full flow this morning complete with cramps. I've been prepared for it, especially since the spotting started on Thursday night. I cried sore that evening and feel a bit numb now and to be honest, looking forward to getting back to normal. Life has been on hold for over 4 years of TTC and I think we need to concentrate on how lucky we are to have our amazing 8 year old dd and start properly living our life again.

I'll be dropping in here so see how you're all doing and have everything crossed for you all, x

Morning Ladies-it's BFN for me after my first fresh cycle, had some light bleeding every morning when wiping since day 8 so kind of expected this result. I also had some light brown discharge even now but I guess it's because of the progesterone pessaries. Now I just need to contact my clinic and find out about next steps...onward and upwards!!!!! Good Luck Ladies the game is not over yet!!!!

hardy so sorry for you, sending lots of hugs, take care of yourself, hopefully things look up soon xxxx

Oh shoot Hardy I am so sorry sweetie. Yes maybe a little break from this and focusing on what you have will bring you joy. Let us know how you are getting on and what you decide. Big snugly hug and lots of love 🌟

Filipinam what a bummer. I am glad you are taking it in your stride and moving forward. Sorry you have to go through this....curious to know what the clinic's feedback will be.

I am now off to get my meds....the whole thing is getting real! 😮

Filip, I'm so sorry - it's such a crap feeling.

I was thinking of phoning the clinic but to be honest, it's NHS, contact has been limited apart from scheduled appointments and I know they'll say to carry on with the progesterone until Thursday and test then as instructed. They put two embryos in so I suppose there's a very small chance that one of them is still holding on. I very much doubt it but I know they'll say I won't know for definite until testing day.

I was saying to DH that I just want to get back to normal, go to the gym, drink coffee, have a glass or two of wine. But, if there's the smallest chance that one of our little embies has clung on then I need to hold out for another few days - I couldn't forgive myself otherwise.

Well..........they have just told me that probably my urine was not concentrated enough! It should be at least 6 hours! Well I went to the toilet at 1am and then tested at 5.30am... I hope they are not giving me false hope...I am supposed to carry on with meds as normal and test properly tomorrow morning....It's never simple.

Hardygirl78 making me cry here😭 I am sorry it looks bad and you think it’s all over, but as you said, there is slight chance of one holding on, so do as you told and keep up with your meds’!! Xxx

Filipino. I had negative in the evening after holding it for over 5 hours and then in the morning was positive but very faint. Same as hardy, don’t give up until the final No from clinic. Not saying have your hopes high, but it’s not easy for anyone of us, so just have hope XX

Star my meds were delivers and actual box packaging was just as big as me 😅 massive box x

Oh Filip that's rubbish, fingers crossed a better wee helps but at least u are prepared for bad news if it's still the same xx

Oh no, Hardy, I’m so sorry If they gave you two there might be a chance? Is your clinic open today? I would still give them a call. They probably will tell you to carry on but they may have other advice or guidance. Thinking of you lots xxxxx

Filip I guess the clinic want you to be extra sure before you count yourself out :( Horrible if they are giving false hope, but if it helps I was told the same thing, it has to be first morning pee where it’s been at least 6 hours. What type of test do you have? l hope it is a positive tomorrow morning, sorry you’ve got a day in limbo xxx