IVF Cycle Buddies July/August

[BiscuitBill]

Hi all! I know there's a June/July thread but I've started this one as I'm so far behind everyone else and wanted to find others at the same stage as me!

We're due to start a FET after a failed fresh cycle in march resulted in a CP. We got 5 Frosties which I'm so pleased with and we're putting two frozen ones back this time.

AF came yesterday, so I'm booked in for scratch on 24th of this month and start DR on 22nd.

I joined a thread on my last cycle and it helped me so much as I am very private with all of this. So I'm hoping to find others to share with again 😊

Cross posted with Leanne - who has given probably better advice 😂
I now feel bad for warning off the dtd though. It might be different for others!? I had no cramps at all before! I don't want to be cursed by all your DPs!!! 😂😂😂

Aw cho that's hard missing out. I hate missing out. I have proper FOMO even if it's something I don't want to go to or can't be arsed with.
In a year from now let's hope this misery is a distant memory and we are all frazzled from
Lack of sleep but have little baby cuddles and wine!!!
I have a meeting with the bank! What's that about? They want to tell me how I can look after my money?!

Welcome finding, sorry youve had such a long journey but hopefully this FET will be the one for you. Got everything crossed for you.

Thanks ladies, sorry for being a debbie downer just having one of those days! floof i can be an avoider too sometimes, just depends how im feeling on the day! Not going to cancel as its people we only see a few times a year, so going to put my smile face on leanne then probably have a cry when i get home. Hope you were ok last night with your friend. gamblers i have major FOMO today!

floof that will be a fun day today for you! Do most of them not know you got married?! Defo let us know how that goes!

Welcome finding, so sorry you find your self here, sounds like one hell of an emotional roller coaster you've been on! But how exciting to be in the 2ww!! Everything crossed for you 🤞🏼

I spent last night babysitting my niece, the only baby I don't mind being around. I say baby, she's 6 😂

I have arranged a surprise party for my OH who is leaving the marines next week, so I'm not looking forward to not drinking and getting 101 questions! Was thinking have lemonade and say there's vodka in it?

I hate missing out, it really gets me down 😣 but I just have to sit back and think it will all be worth it. It also makes me quite bitter to other people who can just get pregnant and haven't had to put their life's on hold for 3 years! My BF recently got pregnant and was so shocked because 'they weren't even trying' 🤦🏻‍♀️

Cho you're allowed to be, it's far easier saying it here where we understand you. In the grand scheme of things you're reacting to a situation and not being a downer.

I said the words I never thought I'd say today 'what can my treat be when this is all done!' Wtf? Am I child that needs praised and a gold star? What a brat. Luckily my DP didn't think like that and just asked what I'd like!
I said a weekend in gleneagles and then I realised if things go well I wouldn't be able to use the spa or drink the champagne and that it would just be a night away in a fancy hotel that would cost the earth so I opted for hunners of pistachio Turkish delight today instead! 😂😂🤗

Bill I sound like such a Jakey but it's the alcohol thing that gets me so bad and I barely even drink! Pisses me right off annoys me that 'normal' people get hammered and conceive. The people I have told are so insensitive to it and shrug it off saying it's nonsense re the alcohol and that I can just drink and continue to try and encourage me to have a drink. Rant over!!!

Gamblers sorry but ur Turkish delight comment actually made me properly laugh out loud, I then had to explain y I was laughing to my hubby 😂😂 my hubby is being quite cute and not drinking either while going through this so I'm not finding that part too tricky! My friend who didn't want to reveal she was pregnant had a good plan, she went to the bar to order first round at a party and told the bar man her drink and said to make it virgin so he knew whenever it was ordered it couldn't have alcohol in it xx

Leanne that's a good idea. I drank a lot of 'virgin' bloody Mary's at a recent hen do as most people dont ask to try that cocktail and then my secret remained.
My DP was told he wasn't allowed to drink by the clinic!

We're using a donor so doesn't affect us if he drinks or not 😂😂 yeah not many people like bloody Mary's so that's a good choice 👍🏻

Oh yes so you are. Totally forgot!

In the hairdressers listening to people moan about being pregnant...kill me now 😩😤

cho you can be as moany as you like! I spend most of my days moaning now!!! It's therapeutic! I had a right bitch with a good male friend of mine the other day, and because he listened instead of mostly ignoring (as DH does) it made me feel a lot better!
I had a very very quiet wedding, only immediate family knew, and only had the 2 witnesses with us. We did then do a meal and walk with parents, siblings and my gran, but other than that no one was told or invited!
It was a lovely lovely day, and it got the job done - but I didn't really think about the fallout!!! Luckily eloping is kind of a family tradition and my dad and one aunt got married with no family present, and the other aunt had a very simple affair. Unfortunately mouthy aunt had a big wedding, as did cousin so they might be annoyed!
Uncle is unmarried and has moved to Spain away from now ex-boyfriend so he's probably not bothered about tradition either!!!!
My main fear is being asked if pregnant, being offered alcohol and having no real excuse, and now not being able to show any pics because of broken phone!
(Sorry for filling you in with unnecessary family details!)

Also we were meant to be there 45 mins ago... luckily we only live 5 mins away!

Re: drinking, oh still has the occasional bottle of beer, maybe I should clarify with clinic, although it's not going to make much difference now what with EC hopefully only being about a week away!
I'm going to a hen do with cocktail making on the 12th - I'm just going to say I'm taking antibiotics!

gamblers in terms of a reward once this is all over, if it fails DH and I are buying a boat (after we do-up and then sell our clearly unnecessary 4 bed and move somewhere considerably smaller!) and I'm giving up teaching and living for travelling instead!!!
On a more day to day basis, yesterday I ate an entire Terry's chocolate orange to try and make my shitty day less awful!!! Then I cleaned the fryer for over an hour! Scrubbing is so cathartic.

Right I've been super rambly, so my apologies. I blame the coffee that I probably shouldn't have consumed!

Omg Leanne!!! Kill them, kill them with fire!

definitely too much coffee

Ohhhh Leanne I HATE that 😤 one of my friends is a single parent to 2 boys aged 5&6.. and while I can understand that they can probably be a handful and it must be very hard & tiring for her.. I just cannot sit and listen to her moan. I have to walk away. I would give anything to have that messy house with boys fighting in the background and me screaming at them to pack it in while making dinner for all of us on 4 hours sleep 😂 that's the dream ahy girls!!!

My Saturday is complete!

Ooh yummy! I organised a charity auction event in my small village to raise funds for a defibrillator last year, was a really good night raised enough for the neighbouring village too, anyway I knew we were going to donate some ££ and of all the prizes I picked 'a cake a month for a year' donated by the local WI, so I was going to get that whatever (didn't want to get something I didn't want, but knew was going to give ££). Long story not so short, this months cake arrived this am! Perfect timing 😀 Carrot cake. Boom!

That was before I had a go at it 😂😱

That looks amazing!

Nice choice ladies yum 👅 we're going out for Indian soon I'm too excited not eaten all day so I am soooo hungry! Xxx

Thats cake looks soooo good. Carrot cake is the best!

Well lunch was fine. Not really much baby talk at all, its their second so perhaps thats why, or maybe they have suspicions about us (they dont know) and are being sensitive, but either way it was fine, and nice to catch up. And I really am very happy for them!

biscuit could you be designated driver for your OH's party, to explain the non drinking? Ive only used the antibiotics excuse once floof but it seems to be code for 'Im preganant but not ready to tell yet' in my friendship group, so I try to avoid that one and the knowing looks that come with it (while screaming internally Im honestly not f*cking pregnant alright!)

Gamblers i think its totally important to treat yourselves and not just when its all over. This is such a long drawn out process and full of heartbreak at times, that if I didnt have other stuff to look forward to I think I'd go insane. Your Turkish Delight looks good!

Hope your family afternoon is going ok floof!

Cho I'm a big fan of treating myself! Probably too much.

Who was it that had the thirst? I love salt. I don't cook (I'm terrible at it) DP does all the cooking and made some homemade soup tonight. Oh my goodness the ham was so salty but as I love salty things he gave me extra ham. By the end of it I thought he was actually trying to poison me. There's now not enough water in my tap. Even when I'm drinking the water I don't feel like it's hitting the spot at all!

Family gathering was lovely, no awkward questions as we didn't actually tell the, we were married (some know already, and it just didn't come up!) I think dad told the, after we'd gone though, so at Christmas I'll get an earful, but hopefully be big fat, round and pregnant so not care 😂
gamblers I've been very thirsty - at family gathering I only had the one drink and I was gasping at the end (I could have got myself more water the, I was just distracted!)
biscuit I also have a friend who continually koans about her two children, who n ver wanted children, and who constantly warns my friend and I not to have children. She knows all about my trouble, and my friend who has had two miscarriages trouble too. Sometimes I want to throttle her, and actually it's really affecting our friendship unfortunately! She would be the first to be sensible if I brought up how much it upsets me though so I don't say haha!
Everyone's treats look a,aging! After lateish family gathering snacks we're just cooking now (and chocolate brownies in the oven) - normally my life revolves around food, but I haven't been feeling hungry since starting mess - just feeling awful if I haven't eaten - anyone else experiencing that?

Floo yes! I love food but feeling like I've not much interest in it. Normally I'd be delighted and take it as an excuse to try and lose some weight but since I know I can't starve myself I'm eating anyway and feeling a bit nauseous.

Yeah if I didn't feel like absolute death when I realise I'm hungry I'd be avoiding food, but as it is I'd do almost anything to avoid feeling like I'm turning inside out, so I eat all of the things.
Chocolate brownies are now done, so I'm gonna cover those in cream that is only a little bit out of date and eat myself into a food coma!!!