IVF Cycle buddies March/April

[Hobbes39]

I know we are only partway through February, but I'm down to start our 2nd round of IVF once my period starts at the end of this month, so thought I'd start a cycle buddies thread now as I gear up..!
Our history is that we have a 3.5yo DS, naturally conceived, but have been trying for a sibling for 2 years now... we had an ectopic pregnancy just over a year ago, but after that nothing... so as I'll be 40 next month, we decided there wasn't time to waste anymore and had all the tests last year but we are 'unexplained'... so we had a cycle of IVF in November/December but sadly was unsuccessful as ended in a chemical pregnancy. So here we go again - fingers crossed it's 2nd time lucky...! If anyone else is starting soon then would be great to have the support! Xx

Definitely two lines Ozzy, you're pregnant! Congratulations!
Don't worry about the strength of the line, it's not relevant as it is affected by how much fluid you've drunk and how far along you are.
You're expecting!!! 🎉🎉🎉

Ah congrats ozzy. It worked!!

That's absolutely two lines ozzy - congratulations!

And congratulations also to nemo - such lovely news!

Good luck with the injections laurel - geeup's instructions can't be beaten!

Hope you're doing ok Bee.

I know what you mean bjones about not being sure whether to stick with your clinic or move. We're going to stay with ours for our FET (hopefully doing one in June and another in July if the June one doesn't work), but would consider moving if neither FET works. ARGC sounds great but it's definitely very intense - a friend went there and they expect you daily and sometimes twice daily at pretty short notice. Sorry you, Hobbes and geeup are having to wait so long for your follow-up appointments - it's really frustrating. Hobbes have they definitely said they won't monitor your progesterone levels next time or give you any extra progesterone or was that what they said last time?

PS - hang on in there musha - not much longer to wait!

Congratulations ozzy. Super exciting! Wishing you all the very best now with your BFP . You and OH must be over the moon. So happy for you both! x

Congratulations ozzy wonderful news xx

Thanks lulah, 4 days to go....

Congrats Ozzy looks like a line to me! I'm sure tomorrow will confirm it.

Congratulations Ozzy! While I'm a green eyed monster that it didn't work for me, it's also reassuring that it does work and so I'm clinging on to that! And don't worry at this stage about it being faint, there's a lot that can affect it, so try to enjoy it! I personally would probably use a digital first thing tomorrow if I were you as I would feel reassured seeing the words.. but that's maybe just me!
Lulah - that's what they said to me last time, but this time I'm going to be less accepting! I think the problem I have is my clinic (edinburgh) is NHS but I'm self funding (due to having DS and now being 40). So while I'm paying, it's not truly 'private' as they slot people like me in between NHS people and they have NHS resources. So I suspect part of the problem is that they just don't have the time or resources to do exactly what I want them to, hence why I'm considering changing to a fully private clinic (Glasgow)... but will see what edinburgh say at my review appointment when I stamp my feet!

Thanks ladies! I'm trying to be excited but still also very cautious. I just think of my ectopic and how heartbroken I was when it all went wrong! Haven't told OH half yet until it's confirmed at the clinic tomorrow x

Definitely 2 lines ozzy! Really happy for you - congratulations! xx

Congrats ozzy and Nemo

So sorry for your bad news bee

Good luck musha not long now till you can test.

So it seems the headf**kery doesn't stop after the tww, even with a positive test. Not only have a been an anxious mess the past week but yesterday I started bleeding a bit as well and today have lots of AF cramps. Waiting for the clinic to call back but I know they'll say there's not much they can do. It'll either continue to be a viable pregnancy or it won't. I'm clinging to the hope that it's just implantation bleeding but I just have a feeling this won't have a good outcome. Although it seems particularly cruel to get a bfp after infertility only to miscarry, I'm sort of okay with that. What I can't cope with is the not bloody knowing. I'm in limbo and it's just so horrible

So sorry you're having a shitty time silver 😣 it just never stops does it! Like you said hopefully it's just implantation bleeding and it's just getting its self comfy! What's the bleeding like? X

Sux silver the not knowing is the worst. And during that time you are constantly stressed and anxious. Only hoping for the best for you and it's just the embie settling in and giving you those symptoms. Is clinic expecting you to just be 'on hold' until your first scan then?

Thank you both. I honestly don't think I would have gotten through the past few months without the support here.

The bleeding isn't major at the moment, mainly when I wipe and also a bit on a pad. It started brown but is getting more pink/red now and some stringy stuff (sorry for the gross description). There are so many stories out there of this happening and being fine, but just as many of it being the start of the end.

So far I've only managed to speak to a receptionist at clinic who said a nurse will call me back later. They may want to scan me but even if they do and everything looks okay now it could still be the start of an mc xx

Oh silver you poor thing. Positive thinking and you know all of us are hoping for the best for you.
Re-iterate what you said too, you ladies are all an amazing support, I never would have thought I could have gained so much from a group of strangers (no offence!!) xx

Aw Silver I'm so sorry things are so hard for you at the moment! This whole journey is such a roller coaster of emotions. We all want that BFP, but when we get it it brings with it more worry/anxiety. I wonder at what point things get easier...?! Have you heard back from the nurse? I really hope everything works out for you! xx

Honestly is the best thing I've ever done joining this group 😊 I used to keep everything to myself and let it all get on top of me, where as now any little worry or concern I have I can come on here and know I will get a knowledgable response with out anyone thinking I am a crazy lady! Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart x

Ditto to that Ozzy xx

Thanks everyone. Totally agree ozzy; having a place to be totally open (and batsh*t crazy) is so invaluable.

So, the nurse called back and as expected said there's nothing anyone can do. I just have to wait until my scan on 16th unless the bleeding increases in volume or becomes bright red. If that happens I have to go to EPU to check for mc. She rated my chances as 50/50.

So now wrangling with what to tell work. I am due to travel into London for some big meetings tomorrow and several other days over the next few weeks. I can't face the thought of a mc starting in earnest whilst I'm at work, esp in a meeting when I can't escape to the bathroom. If I tell my boss she will say all the right things but I know she will actually be annoyed and it will affect my 'standing' as it were. How can I get out of going without telling her why?

Hi Silver, I'm so sorry you're going through this. After bfn, mc is my second biggest fear, but there really isn't anything you can do apart from trying to stay positive (easier said than done I know) but I really do believe that positive thinking helps your body get in tune with your mind.

As for travelling for work and meetings, how important are these meetings? If you called in sick do you think you'd be in more or less trouble than telling the truth? I know how you feel but I think being honest is the best call, companies really can't discriminate against you for anything pregnancy related these days or they'll be in big trouble. If in doubt could you contact your HR dept for advice?

ozzy congratulations, really pleased for you!

silver sorry to hear your having a tough time, i really hope it works out well in the end x

Things are all good with me thanks bee, yes first scan next friday. I hope your doing ok xx

Oh Silver, I'm so sorry you're having this worry.... it's so hard and horrible. I hope it is just implantation - if it's not heavy then there's still hope & I will keep everything crossed. If you have bad pain and get lots of very mucousy discharge tho, take yourself off to the EPU as that's how my ectopic started (sorry, I really don't want to scare you, I'm just hyper vigilant to it now). Regarding work, I know the theory is that you shouldn't be discriminated against for this kind of thing, but the reality is sadly still sometimes different, so I can totally understand why you wouldn't want to tell them about all this... I think what I'd do is lie through my teeth if I had to - say whatever you need to when you need to. So if you need to fake a home emergency then do it, or call in sick if that's an option. I hope you don't have to do either, as I hope all is well, but if you suspect your employer wouldn't treat you the same if they knew, then make sure you put yourself first. Xx

Started a new thread here for us all as now nearly at 1000 posts!
Hope the link works:
IVF cycle buddies March/ April cont.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/infertility/2920013-ivf-cycle-buddies-march-april-cont