IVF Cycle buddies March/April

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I know we are only partway through February, but I'm down to start our 2nd round of IVF once my period starts at the end of this month, so thought I'd start a cycle buddies thread now as I gear up..!
Our history is that we have a 3.5yo DS, naturally conceived, but have been trying for a sibling for 2 years now... we had an ectopic pregnancy just over a year ago, but after that nothing... so as I'll be 40 next month, we decided there wasn't time to waste anymore and had all the tests last year but we are 'unexplained'... so we had a cycle of IVF in November/December but sadly was unsuccessful as ended in a chemical pregnancy. So here we go again - fingers crossed it's 2nd time lucky...! If anyone else is starting soon then would be great to have the support! Xx

Brilliant news ozzy well done

How are you getting on bjones? Hope things are looking better today.

Thanks lulah things are not good. Loads more bleeding (sorry tmi), dreading doing the test tomorrow as then I will see in writing what i already know. Find this whole thing so f@*&ing unfair. All I ever have wanted is to be a mummy. I have done everything I was supposed to during this process and still, it seems, it's not enough. Finding it hard to understand how we got to 9dp5dt with 2 on board before it started to go wrong - almost worse that we fell at the final hurdle. We didn't get any Frosties and had to borrow the money to do this round (as the stupid nhs turned us down due to my age, I'm only 40) and not sure we can borrow that amount again. I'm a nanny (don't care at this point if it outs me) so not easy for me to take time off at short notice for scans/appts etc so when the family went on a long holiday we decided to go for it so that getting time off wasn't an issue and they wouldn't know. So to get a block of time off with no questions asked would be hard. It's probably the hardest job in the world for me at the moment.
Anyway don't want to bring the tone of the thread down. All you ladies have been wonderfully supportive and I couldn't have got through it without you. I have everything crossed for all of you still in the process and really hope your dreams come true xx

ozzy great news on the call, thats an excellent number!

bjones so sorry to hear about your bleeding, i really do hope that it isnt what you think. Thats really unfair that the nhs turnt you down because your 40, the ccg's are all so different but all have their own aspects the seem so unfair.
I can sort of sympathise with your line of work i am a room leader of a baby room in a childrens nursery and whilst the holiday isnt an issue caring for other people's babies everyday is so hard and heart breaking xx
Sending you big hugs

Oh bjones, am so sorry. Infertility is hard enough emotionally and physically without having to overcome the additional hurdles of time off work, financial strains and quite frankly stupid NHS rules. If you do have to cycle again (and am still hoping you don't need to), would a clinic abroad be an option? I know several couples who have had success abroad and it has been much cheaper. Obviously doesn't solve the work problem but might help on the financial front. Sending you a huge hug

so sorry bjones I can't imagine the turmoil you are going through right now and with the kind of work you are in adding to it all, emotionally, financially and time-wise. Still keeping positive for you but as you will be thinking ahead, perhaps as lulah suggests, maybe an overseas clinic might be an option and something for you to look into.
Thinking of you tomorrow, facing the test hug

Oh BJones - I'm so sorry. Nothing can make you feel much better I know, and knowing your work situation i can't imagine how hard it must be. I find it hard enough going into my DS nursery to see a new little brother or sister almost weekly at the moment, and I don't work there and I'm v aware I'm incredibly lucky to have DS, and it's heartbreaking enough for me. Sending you lots of hugs and . I will cling on to the tiny hope that tomorrow might still bring good news xxx thinking of you xx

Feel sorry Jones. Nothing more I can add except miracles happen so I'll just keep my fingers crossed till tomorrow for you.

bjones

So sorry Bjones 😞 I'm heartbroken for you I really am x x

Morning everyone,
So i am cautiously announcing that i have just got my first ever BFP!!!!!!!
I can't quite believe it, we are in shock!
I thought i would never see one but looks like it was second time lucky for us! X

Amazing news hope very many congratulations. Everything crossed it works out for you.
Afm, as expected a BFN. I knew it anyway but was clinging onto a glimmer of hope. I wonder if they'll be able to give us an indication of what went wrong, probably not.
I'm going to bow out gracefully but will check back in from time to time to see how the rest of you are all getting on. Wishing all of you all the luck in the world and a massive thank you for being such a support. Xx

Such mixed feelings, so happy for you hope that's excellent news, congratulations. So sorry for you bjones, it's so heartbreaking but at least now you have the confirmation you can concentrate on moving forward.

Aw, Hope - congratulations! That's fantastic news, am really chuffed for you and wish you a healthy and happy 9 months!

Bjones - there's nothing I can say, it's truly shy and unfair. I think you did amazingly well to hold off testing and I'm so sorry it wasn't positive, I was clinging on to the chance. Look after yourself and try to do some nice things just for you this week.
I'll keep everything crossed for you that you get another chance soon... if our Frostie doesn't work, we will be going massively into debt to do it all again, so I know the financial worry won't help. I'm so sorry xxx

I'm so sorry bjones i was really hoping there was still a chance, it is heartbreaking. Look after yoursef and i really hope you can give it another try in the future
Thank you for all your support on this thread xxx

Congratulations Hope - such lovely news! Likewise wishing you a very happy and healthy next 9 months!

bjones am so sorry - it's all so unfair. Hope you and your OH are OK - take care of yourselves and hope you can find a way of doing another cycle

Jones I'm so sorry. I know it's heartbreaking. I'm thinking of you.

Hope congratulations. I hope all goes well for you and your first scan comes round quickly. Remind us, did they change anything between your first and second cycles that maybe helped this one work or was it basically luck? Starting my second cycle in May so trying to hope I could be lucky second time too.

Huge congratulations hope!!!! X x

So sad bjones; I hope you're doing okay.

Congratulations hope

Huge congratulations hope! I'm sure you are cautiously optimistic, but you must enjoy the feeling of joy and relief to see that BFP come up.

As geeup asks, did you do anything different second time around?

Being in 2ww of my second round too, my mind is whirring constantly. I've personally done a couple of different things this time to my fresh cycle... 1) taking baby aspirin, 2) didn't lie about for 2 days like last time post ET, I chilled on day of ET but then got back to normal up and about the day after and 3) of course the medication is different this being a frozen cycle, so I'm on Progynova tablets 3x per day.

I'm still munching on pineapple with core, drinking loads, and no caffeine (or even decaf, only tea I'm drinking is Red Bush).

Trying not to stress and keep positive.

Hope other ladies coming to end of the dreaded 2ww are doing well? lulah silver when is OTDs?

Just got a call from the clinic, I'm booked in for ET on Monday! This is good right? She couldn't give me any indication of the quality or if I'd have any to freeze, but I'm thinking the fact they've gone for 5 day rather than 3 day is a good sign?!

ozzy a day 5 transfer is definitely good news - congrats! I wouldn't worry about quality now as I don't think it means much - I was supposed to have 8 'above average' quality embryos on day 3 but by day 5 only 3 had made it to blastocyst whereas others have had fewer embryos on day 3 but more of them have made it to blastocyst iyswim?!

bee OTD is next Wednesday - its only 9dp5dt which seems very early compared to everyone else When's yours?

Exciting to have your ET booked in for Monday ozzy. You just need to get through the weekend, of distractions hopefully, and have a calm start to the week for your transfer. All the very best!

That does seem like early OTD lulah but if that's what they've said, only a few more days to go and you can test away. Yay!

My OTD is Monday 1 May. It was supposed to be the Sunday 31st, but nurse said as it's a weekend and I'll likely want to chat to them straight after the test, they said I should wait till Monday (even though it's bank holiday, there will be some nurses in Victoria Wing). So that will be 12dp5dt which feels WAY too long already. I don't think I will wait until then, probably do test on the Sunday as originally confirmed.

Well that was an experience I hope I never have to repeat. I started crying in the anaesthetic room, I was so nervous! Got 11 eggs so not bad, fingers crossed for tomorrow to see how many have fertilised.

Ah bless you musha it IS an emotional process and definitely not 'fun'. Great on the 11! Keep us posted tomorrow.