IVF Cycle buddies March/April

[Hobbes39]

I know we are only partway through February, but I'm down to start our 2nd round of IVF once my period starts at the end of this month, so thought I'd start a cycle buddies thread now as I gear up..!
Our history is that we have a 3.5yo DS, naturally conceived, but have been trying for a sibling for 2 years now... we had an ectopic pregnancy just over a year ago, but after that nothing... so as I'll be 40 next month, we decided there wasn't time to waste anymore and had all the tests last year but we are 'unexplained'... so we had a cycle of IVF in November/December but sadly was unsuccessful as ended in a chemical pregnancy. So here we go again - fingers crossed it's 2nd time lucky...! If anyone else is starting soon then would be great to have the support! Xx

Thanks silver stupidly thought getting to 9dp5dt (as I was when I went to bed last night) that all would be ok. So tempted to test now but worried for the result so going to hang on until Friday, only 3 more sleeps!! Never realised when I embarked on this sodding ivf journey it would be so hard on both me and my oh, he's been brilliant but think he finds it hard sometimes to find the right words.
Found myself wondering today if maybe 1 of them hasn't worked (as I had 2 put back) who knows?!
Will see what tomorrow brings - hopefully success for ozzy and bee
Ahhh annoying visiting relatives, they always scupper plans!!

Bjones - sorry you are having this stress - brown blood could be a good sign though as could just be blood making its way out from implantation - I'll keep everything crossed for you. If it makes you feel more positive, my spotting was def pink, then full on red not brown, so it's still all to play for.
If you can't hold out any longer you will prob get a pretty accurate result if you tested tomorrow with fmu- I know I should be telling you not to, but I know i would cave! Good luck xx

Thanks hobbes v kind of you to pop on and say that as I know you are having heartache of your own. Hope you are feeling a little better today xx

Hi all, hope the return to work hasn't been too horrific!

bjones don't panic - like others have said, it could be old implantation bleeding. V impressed with your willpower not to test early - hang on in there.

hobbes so glad you're back home - hope AF finishes soon and you can start planning your FET.

bee and ozzy good luck for ET/EC tomorrow!

irishasia congratulations on your BFP!

wanda and gee - lovely to hear from you! Hope you're both doing ok.

silver am only one day into the tww and am already losing the plot! Amtrying really hard to just forget about it, but then panic when I do forget that I've accidentally done something that might damage the embryo - was even worried today I was sneezing and coughing too hard and might push it out

Called clinic today and we ended up with two frosties which we're really pleased about.

Morning ladies! Still lying on the bed in my gown but couldn't wait to tell you all how many eggs I got!
28 eggs!!!! I can't quite believe it! I don't want to get my hopes up too much and take each step as it comes.. But I'm so chuffed 😊 !

Hope everyone else is ok x x

Hope you ladies on the 2ww are doing ok and holding on till test day hope bjones lulah Silver

Good luck for your ET today Bee

Wanda gee hobbes hope you are all ok, any news on FET?

Congrats on EC Ozzy that's an amazing number! Rest up now.

Final scan for me this morning. The doctor called a number out before the follicles, would this be womb lining? It was 10.4 anyway. Follicles are left side: 10, 11, 16, 17, 18, 20, 20, 21. Right side: 10, 11, 12, 17, 18, 20, 21. EC booked in for Friday, fingers crossed I get some good eggs.

Congrats ozzy - that's incredible!

Your numbers sound great too musha - good luck for EC on Friday. And 10.4 sounds like it could well be your lining thickness.

Hope ET went well bee!

Wow ozzy thats an amazing number!

musha your numbers sound really good, sounds like your all set for friday, good luck!

bee hope today went well!

Still holding on till test day friday, determined not to cave purely on the fact that if its negetave i dont want to face it yet!

Thanks all 😊 I'm trying to stay level headed as I'm well aware it could all go wrong at any stage but I was so shocked when she said 28! Hopefully I'll have a couple of Frosties too!

Musha them numbers sound great! Fingers crossed for EC Friday 🤞🏼

Bee hope ET went well today x x

Well done ozzy and musha brilliant news!
bee hope yours went well
hope well done on holding off
Afm - I think I'm out, it's a definite red now. Clinic said it doesn't sound great but to try and stay positive, easier said than done. Just going to wait until Friday as to be honest until I see it on the pregnancy test I can cling onto the hope that something is still ok.

Ozzy - those are amazing numbers - fingers crossed for you tomorrow x
Bjones- I've been checking in to see if you've posted- I'm sorry you are getting red blood. It really might still be ok, but I don't want to give false hope. I have everything crossed for you & hope the bleeding stops asap. X

Thanks for the thoughts, ladies. My ET went smoothly today. So I'm feeling realistic positive & taking it easy now. 2ww, here I come! Joining you bjones lulah silver hope. Don't give up just yet bjones - stay positive.

Go ozzy 28 is super!! I was thinking of u today in same building as me with our different procedures. Trust everyone there was lovely to you. Take it easy now as u may have some discomfort or swelling. But I'm sure u will heal nicely for one of the many eggies u've created.

Great numbers musha - those are good high numbers for your embies. Fingers crossed for your EC on Friday.

Glad it went well bee.
Amazing - 28 ozzy. You must be thrilled.
Good sizes musha.
I'm so sorry jones. I know you must be feeling really scared. I hope you're one of these implantation bleeders!
Hobbes - thinking of you. I'm back at work and feeling very despondent. Trying to go for a promotion to give me a focus but all I want to do is quit and stay and home and think about getting pregnant! Am trying to make out that I'm all about the career at work in the hope I can get this promotion but inside all I care about is becoming a mum

And good luck the 2ww-ers!

I'm in the same position at work geeup with opportunity to take on additional work responsibilities which would reflect very well on me in future, but I'm so not focussed & I don't want to take on extra if I'm not going to be around to follow it through as I'm only thinking about getting pregnant and being a mommy. But... we need to have other things in our lives or we will go crazy. And what a great possibility for promotion. They must think highly of you there, which is a compliment and you've obviously earned it. I say go for it! It's a great distraction through this long process and can only see you in better future light. Good luck!!

Reassuring it's not just me. However, just to be clear it hasn't been offered to me. I work for a big global company and therefore would still have to apply and jump through a million hoops just to be considered like everyone else. So stressful it puts me off but I'll do it as you say incase it helps me build a better future. Wish I could just leave and find a nicer job with a shorter commute but still desperately hoping to use the Mat leave I'd be entitled for. Feel like they owe me that after so long!

I got offered a promotion last year and turned it down as my main focus was on ivf and didn't want to take the job and then let everyone down! We were due to start in Nov and end of Oct I found out I was pregnant with my ectopic. They offered me the promotion again just after Xmas and I took it! Fed up of putting my whole life on hold so I thought about myself instead of everyone else and well they will just have to deal with it!

Geeup - I feel for you - it's hard isn't it? I find it really difficult in a totally different way... Both my DH and I are self employed and should be building our business, but since we started this ivf journey I haven't really been contributing all that much as I just can't commit to taking on large projects with all the appointments we've been having and with the dream of actually needing to go on mat leave. It's so hard as the nature of our business is very full on so it's quite all or nothing - so instead of helping DH to grow the business (which would generate much needed funds for all of this!) I am doing contract work for other people as I can do as much or as little as I have time for. It however means I am earning much less than I could be and any day I don't work, I'm not paid... . While it's a different set of circumstances it's the same thing - life on hold while going through this shitty depressing journey! Not sure how much longer we can do this, but I feel like time is running out for us anyway fertility wise, so career can be focus once in out of time! X

Wow ozzy 28is an amazing haul. Fx for good news tomorrow on fertilisation rate.

Congrats bee on being pupo and welcome to the rollercoaster.

musha those numbers sound great.

So sad to read your update bjones; thinking of you and still keeping everything crossed.

Geeup I could have written your post 4 years ago when we started our infertility journey. My advice, especially in a big organisation, would be go for it and feel no remorse when you finally get your bfp and go on mat leave. The company has no loyalty to its employees so don't feel bad.

Afm, I'm in a tailspin of headf**kery at the moment. Getting all the usual signs that AF is on her way, including insomnia, which just gives me even more hours to obsess about the tww I know progesterone can mimic pre menstrual symptoms, but I don't remember this from my fresh cycle, so suspecting the worst. Gah, hate hate hate the tww!

So sorry bjones - keeping everything crossed for you x

Congrats on being pupo bee - welcome to the tww!

Fingers crossed for excellent fertilisation news today ozzy!

Totally agree with you all that you should just go for the promotion gee - you've obviously proved yourself to your employers or this opportunity wouldn't be coming up for you so they shouldn't have any problems with you going on mat leave. Plus, if you do get it, it's inevitable that you'll get a BFP straightaway

I know what you mean silver - am trying v hard to ignore any potential symptoms or lack of since everyone seems to have different experiences and symptoms or lack of don't seem to be any reliable indicator of a BFP or a BFN.

Any news ozzy? Got fingers crossed for you!

Not yet! I kept waking up in the night thinking about it and dreaming of it as well. The crazyness has started..

Just had a phone call - 16 out of 28 were fertilised ☺️

Congrats ozzy - that's amazing!!

That's a fantastic number! Fingers crossed for next call!