IVF Cycle buddies March/April

[Hobbes39]

I know we are only partway through February, but I'm down to start our 2nd round of IVF once my period starts at the end of this month, so thought I'd start a cycle buddies thread now as I gear up..!
Our history is that we have a 3.5yo DS, naturally conceived, but have been trying for a sibling for 2 years now... we had an ectopic pregnancy just over a year ago, but after that nothing... so as I'll be 40 next month, we decided there wasn't time to waste anymore and had all the tests last year but we are 'unexplained'... so we had a cycle of IVF in November/December but sadly was unsuccessful as ended in a chemical pregnancy. So here we go again - fingers crossed it's 2nd time lucky...! If anyone else is starting soon then would be great to have the support! Xx

Looking like Wednesday but they will confirm on Monday at my next scan 😬 excited/nervous!! X

Good luck Hobbes. It's so hard to keep up appearances when you're surrounded. Hopefully it might take your mind off things for a little while to have to put on a brave face? I've found that works for me sometimes. I unfortunately suffer from Recurrent Miscarriage (that's why we're having PGS) and have found that sometimes when you're forced to wipe away a tear and pretend to be okay that it actually does make you feel better.
Geeup sending you good thoughts.
Happy Good Friday everyone.

Congrats on the scan results musha and ozzy - all sound great and fingers crossed for EC on Weds for you ozzy!

So sorry again geeup - must have been so horrible having to officially test when you already knew what the result would be. Hope you're feeling ok and can look forward positively to a FET very soon.

Hope you're ok Hobbes and having a lovely time at your in-laws.

Hope you're feeling better Hope - easy for me to say but try not to symptom spot and hang in there - when's your OTD?

Afm, have a provisional appointment for ET tomorrow but am hoping they might end up moving it to Monday.

Happy Easter all! 🐣

Fingers crossed ozzy, nearly there!
lulah hope your little embryos fight on until Monday, but you can still get good results from a 3 day transfer (presume that's what tomorrow will be?!)
laurel sounds like you've had a tough time but hopefully with the testing they will choose the right one to go back in this time.

Wow folks, this thread had moved fast in the few days I've been offline and lots of new people too. Welcome bee, lullaby, laurel and anyone I've missed. Am on phone so can't scroll.
geeup sorry to read your news, hope you're okay.

hope, Hobbes and bjones I think you're all on tww wait...good luck and hope you're not going too crazy symptom spotting.

AFM, i now have a blast on board. It 'looked good' apparently with more than 90% of the cells surviving the thaw (the embryologist said 50% was minimum required for transfer) and had started to re-expand. So I'm feeling cautiously optimistic but also trying to prepare for the worst.. my self protection instincts are telling me not to expect success on the first FET. I'm lucky you've off next week so plan to rest as much as possible. OTD is Monday 24th but that's my first day back at work so I'll test on Sunday. That'll be 11dp5dt, should be enough right?

Am going to go catch up on the full thread. Hope everyone has a nice long Easter weekend and manages to relax a bit 🐰 Xx

Congrats on the transfer silver - hope your blast is settling in nicely!

Thanks bjones - yes, tomorrow would be a day 3 transfer.

geeup so sorry about your result, must of been hard having to test when you knew already. Hope your looking after yourself.

Congrats on your scan results musha and ozzy all sounding really good!

lulah fingers crossed your transfer will be monday! My OTD is 21st April x

hobbes i hope your getting on ok at your in laws, lots of distractions and no AF!

silver congrats on your blast, hope it settles in well, my clinic have told me to test on 11dp5dt so you should be fine!

Tried to keep busy today with some spring cleaning to take my mind of symptom spotting and worrying!
bjones yes it is hard to get the right balance of being positive but not getting your hopes up.
Regarding no symptoms i just dont know, i think everyone is different, some feel no different whilst others get some symptoms, either way we worry! Trouble is any symptoms we do feel could just be the progesterone anyway! Its so mean xxx

silver congratulations on being Pupo!! Welcome to the hell that is the 2WW!!
Hope everyone else is ok x

Hi all, haven't had a chance to read through everyone's stuff, but came on in desperation - I think AF is coming ... this evening I've started to get some very light pink spotting when I wipe.. it's barely there, but it's there. I'm 8dp3dt. I've also not got sore boobs anymore and getting stronger cramping. Just feel devastated. I expect tomorrow will be a repeat of last time where I find red blood on the crinone applicator and I'll know it's all over. I could scream I'm so frustrated and angry and sad and just gutted.
God I hope I'm wrong, but I don't think so sadly. Hope everyone else is doing rather better... x

hobbes what's happened this morning? Got everything crossed for you that it was just a one off last night. Take care xxx

Oh no Hobbes 😞 hoping AF stays away and it was just a bit of implantation bleeding!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

As expected - I had some red blood on applicator this morning - history repeating itself exactly. Why can't I get past 12dpo? Am praying that it might just be irritation or implantation, but as this is exactly what happened last time, I'm not holding out much hope. They were both decent embryos this time, I really thought it would work. Heartbroken is an understatement at moment x

Oh hobbes you poor thing. Don't give up just yet, really hoping for you that it is implantation/irritation. Try and Stay strong x

Oh hobbes i'm so sorry you poor thing, like others have said there is a chance its implantation/irritation so don't give up yet, take care xxx

Oh hobbes I'm so sorry. There's nothing to say in this situation. Just we're here and I know what you're going through.

Oh hobbes, so sorry. It's just so shit xx

Am so sorry Hobbes - am keeping my fingers crossed it's just implantation/irritation bleeding. Will be thinking of you xx

I can't say anything that everybody else hasn't already said 😞 I'm so sorry, and praying it's a false alarm x x

Thanks everyone, sadly I'm pretty sure it's def period as I'm cramping badly and while it's not that heavy yet, its definitely bleeding rather than just spotting. I feel so fed up - I feel like there must be a reason why I can't get past this day - I asked them last time if I needed more progesterone and they said no, but no one has checked my progesterone level at any point during the process. I felt so good until the day before yesterday but then felt my mood shift, so fed like something hormonal changed. I guess I'll never know.
Anyway, am trying desperately to hold on to the fact this time we do at least have that one lovely frozen embryo...
Good luck everyone else, hope there's some good news to counteract my shit mood x

hobbes I'm so sorry. Not much we can say really to make it better but really do feel for you. Definitely if this round is over you need to talk to them about progesterone levels for your frozen one. Hold on to the thought of that little one, although am sure it's not much comfort to you at the moment. And it may not all be over for you yet. Take care and a very big un-mumsnet hug to you.
lulah how did your little ones do, are they holding on for Monday?
How's everyone else?
Afm nothing to report really, still don't feel any different so no idea what's going on. Still thinking positive thoughts though

Oh hobbes im so sorry, it really is shit. Definately worth asking them about the progesterone before using your frozen one. Big hugs and look after yourself

Nothing to report here either, trying to keep busy to keep my mind off it, my symptoms seem to be going now, boobs are still sore but only a bit and the AF feeling is going so who knows what that means but trying to stay positive and keep thinking of my easter miracle! X

So sorry Hobbes - I know it doesn't make it any better but am hoping it's just a false alarm and that if not, your frostie will be successful. Definitely definitely demand more progesterone if you do have to do another cycle. Take care of and be kind to yourself - a big un-mumsnet hug from me too xx

bjones - 8 are still developing well so they're doing day 5 transfer on Monday. Have never had the faintest sniff of a BFP so am no help to you or Hope on the symptoms front but hang on in there - not too much longer for either of you until OTD xx

lulah thats great that 8 are still going strong and you get to go to day 5, hopefully you will have some frosties too, good luck for monday!

I've never even had a glimmer of a BFP either, can only dream what it must be like to see one and the wondering is driving me mad, but at the half way point now so will know soon x

Brilliant news lulah that's a great number. Fingers crossed for you they continue to grow until Monday (and after of course!!)
That makes 3 of us then - I've never even seen a BFP, can't imagine how I'll feel next week if I see one!! Yes hope think we test the same day so over the halfway hurdle now, fingers crossed xx

Great news Lulah - that's brilliant - hopefully you might get some frozen too . Good luck to bjones and hope too - not long now xx
AFM - well I've had to tell my SIL about it all, she was really lovely, but I just didn't want them all knowing - but was left with little choice after my period has come with the full force of hell last night (TMI WARNING) and I woke up in a pool of blood which has stained the sheets and mattress... 😢. Had an enormous clot come out which seemed to be the issue, but really horrible and just adds insult to injury - not only am I not pregnant, I have a constant reminder on SIL mattress... ug. Trying to clean it off this am. Anyone any tips?! I feel there's no point taking the progesterone still after that clot, but I know the clinic would tell me to... what would you do?