IVF Cycle buddies March/April

[Hobbes39]

I know we are only partway through February, but I'm down to start our 2nd round of IVF once my period starts at the end of this month, so thought I'd start a cycle buddies thread now as I gear up..!
Our history is that we have a 3.5yo DS, naturally conceived, but have been trying for a sibling for 2 years now... we had an ectopic pregnancy just over a year ago, but after that nothing... so as I'll be 40 next month, we decided there wasn't time to waste anymore and had all the tests last year but we are 'unexplained'... so we had a cycle of IVF in November/December but sadly was unsuccessful as ended in a chemical pregnancy. So here we go again - fingers crossed it's 2nd time lucky...! If anyone else is starting soon then would be great to have the support! Xx

Great news Hobbes & Bjones!!! So pleased for you both 😊

So much to catch up on but hope everyone else is ok x x

Hey Jody - sorry you are having a tough time - when is your OTD? I wouldn't give up hope yet, as even if you bleed more heavily, with 2 being put back, there is a chance that one won't make it but the other will, so you never know. Look after yourself xxx

Thank you everyone for good wishes. So lovely to have support on here - randomly feel like I know you all now!!
hope good luck for the morning
dippy and lulah good news on scans, when do you both go again
jody poor you, roll on Thursday for you.
ozzy good luck for scan tomorrow
silver good luck for scan tomorrow too
wanda hope you are ok, are you going to wait until Friday??
blackcherries hope you are ok
Sorry if I have missed anyone, thinking of you all. (Secretly wondering if a spreadsheet would help to see what stage everyone is at 😂) xx

Heya xxxx OTD is Thursday. At least I'll know for sure then. We only get 1 more try on NHS. Basildon cancelled all fertility services in their recent cuts so we would normally have got 5 goes at it. We were lucky as we'd already in the system so they gave us 1 fresh cycle and 1 frozen. So next go is our final shot

5 nhs goes?! Wow! You only get one in my area, however we didn't even get that as my partner already has a child from a previous relationship!

Am holding up ok Hobbes but struggling with the not knowing. Also confused by differing advice re OTD (have started a thread about this today) - for example Jody and I both had ET the same day (26 March) but she's been given Thursday as OTD while mine is Sunday. Really torn between feeling lots of symptoms and wanting to test, and not wanting to test in case it's a BFN and the "symptoms" are just side effects of the drugs.

Hope everyone who's currently stimming or waiting for EC or ET is well. DP says she still doesn't feel quite right after the stimming and EC. EC was 21 March so quite a while ago now. She's had a period since so I'd have expected her to be back to normal. Not sure if we should be worried or not. Maybe it takes one complete natural cycle to feel "normal"?

My ET was on Friday 24th March. They decided to put them back in as a day3 transfer and not wait till 5 days as they'd only split into 4 and not the usual 6. Xxxx was supposed to put them in on the 26th but they put them back earlier than planned x

Forgot to say, Jody am thinking of you and really hoping you get a BFP on Thurs. Some bleeding is def not necessarily the end, especially if it's only light and not red. Must be so hard to concentrate on anything else though.

Wow to 5 goes. Only one in my area but stupid NHS turned us down - their website said you had to be under 40 but they rejected me as I wasn't under 39 and 6 months. My dr appealed on my behalf but with no luck. So we are self funded

Ah I was confused about your dates!

Maybe I got it wrong but I know we got at least 3 before. I'm worried though as my next try is FET but I didn't have any frosties as they put in all those that had worked. Does that mean they won't do it and this is our last shot? We can't afford to do it ourselves so can.only do the NHS ones

you probably didn't get it wrong. jody every county is different though. dont know the answer to your question I'm afraid but sure someone will be along soon that will.

thanks silverlinings that's helpful!
Lovely to hear the good news about all the embryos today too.

How does anyone manage all this last-minute stuff (scans and transfer) if you have to travel for work? I have the odd travel day booked and a couple of days holiday too and I'm sure they'll be right when I need to go in. I really don't know what I'd do if it was a work one. At least i could cut my holiday short if needed!

They know about my ectopic last year so I say it's to do with that.. Follow ups, tests etc.. but before that I just said hosp app and they never asked. They're quite good at my place really x

I struggle with it too blackcherries. I have some work commitments booked months in advance and it's hard enough to rearrange them when I have plenty of notice. Almost impossible when it's a short notice appointment.

Today i am travelling 90 miles into London and leaving at 1pm to travel back for my 3:45 appointment. If anything goes wrong with trains or motorways today I'm screwed. Added stress I could really do without

Sorry, no solutions there! xx

I'm actually off work for the whole of this. I work with children so last minute time off is not an option for me. Suited me as well as work have no idea about all of this. But can imagine with an office job and appointments must be hard.
Sorry no help at all either.
Good luck to all of you that are having scans etc today

Hi all - hope everyone is ok this morning?
Good luck Silver & Ozzy For your scans & Good luck Hope for your EC - may you have many lovely eggs!
Anyone I've missed I'm sorry, but hope you are ok too?
Keep hanging in there those of you due to test soon - I know it's a long few days.
I'm feeling slightly odd today as I didn't get this 'day off' last time - as I only had 2 not great quality embryos they put them back on day 2, so having a day where I don't phone them and don't do anything (other than squirting the lovely crinone gel in ) feels v odd. I didn't get a chance to think about it much before, but it is all rather weird to think of our embryos being in the hospital not in me..! Anyway, re the time off thing I'm glad in many ways I'm self employed, so I've given myself the week off as the last minute thing makes planning work so tricky - my issue is childcare for my DS tomorrow or Saturday as he's only in nursery Monday- Wednesday. in some ways it's great being self employed, but the real downside is that as we have DS we are self-funding and when I don't work I don't get holiday/ sick pay, so it's a double hit on our now v tight finances... 🙄. Can't be helped though...
fingers crossed for everyone - I'm told spring is the best season for conceiving...! (I'll cling on to anything!) x

I told my boss straight, he's really supportive and is totally fine with me coming in late if I have scans, I've not had to book any holiday they're just giving me the time off for EC and things like that. I'm really lucky they've been so good. I don't think I could've gotten away with not telling them, I'm a terrible liar! Plus if the drugs make me super emotional and I start crying in the office for no reason at least they'll know why!

I'm fine with getting time off from the office for appointments (luckily!) it's more when I've got a day in another city that I can't move as I'm responsible for the whole day. What do I do if I need to go in that day?

Good luck with it today silverlinings!

I feel exactly the same hobbes strange that my embryos are about 60miles away from me. Roll on that phone call tomorrow, my clinic said they couldn't tell me when they'll call so I'll be on tenterhooks all day!
Hope everyone has good news today x

Anyone else scared to test? OTD is Friday so could probably test tomorrow but at the moment I just don't want to! My womb area feels very heavy and like a stitch sometimes but absolutely no other symptoms at all, if it's negative my lovely PUPO bubble will be burst and will have to deal with a negative and all that it means.. I can't face it! 🙁

Ahhh good luck anna. I literally feel nothing since being PUPO so a bit envious that you feel different. I thought I'd feel different knowing there is something (a hatching blast!) inside me but I just feel oddly like any other 2ww. I just cant believe anything will ever implant inside me. I went for a walk today and chanted "I am pregnant and everything is normal" for a whole ten minutes out loud and that helped a bit for that time but have kind of gone back to feeling nothing again. If you are enjoying this time, I'd try and hold off to make it last longer.
That said I'm a horrendous early tester!! Will keep everything crossed for you.

21 follicles, didn't measure this time think that will be next time apparently! Starting fostimon injections tomorrow eve and have gave me a rough date of 19/4 for EC providing everything goes well 🤞🏼 Lots of bloods over the next week or so but 2 of them fall on bank hol Friday & Monday so won't have to take time off for them.
Looks like the hen weekend I've paid up for on 28/4 isn't happening.. I'm MOH aswell 🙈 have to think of a good excuse.....

Ah congrats Ozz. That's an amazing number. Does your bride friend know you're going through IVF?

She's my absolute best friend in the world & I've told her everything goes up until the day we started the actual IVF. I just wanted it between me & my partner (and all of you lovely ladies of course 😂)

I've pre warned her that I may have to go in for a 'minor op' before we can start the IVF and will be on anti biotics so hopefully I'll be able to go and just not drink or take part in the activities due to my 'op wounds'

All the lies really get on top of me but I'm sure she'll understand when (if) it all comes out.