IVF Cycle buddies March/April

[Hobbes39]

I know we are only partway through February, but I'm down to start our 2nd round of IVF once my period starts at the end of this month, so thought I'd start a cycle buddies thread now as I gear up..!
Our history is that we have a 3.5yo DS, naturally conceived, but have been trying for a sibling for 2 years now... we had an ectopic pregnancy just over a year ago, but after that nothing... so as I'll be 40 next month, we decided there wasn't time to waste anymore and had all the tests last year but we are 'unexplained'... so we had a cycle of IVF in November/December but sadly was unsuccessful as ended in a chemical pregnancy. So here we go again - fingers crossed it's 2nd time lucky...! If anyone else is starting soon then would be great to have the support! Xx

ET went well today, though was surprised by what the embryologist said. Of 6 fertilised eggs, there were 4 blasts. He described one as excellent, one as average, and 2 not so good. He wanted to transfer the 2 best ones. This was a real shock and a decision we were totally unprepared for as throughout the whole process, all the doctors and nurses have said they would only transfer one. I have a terrible fear of having twins. I just don't think I could cope with 2 babies. Anyway, he said that the chances of success putting a single blast back were 40-50% but that rose to 60-65% if they put 2 back, but then the chance of a twin pregnancy was 20%. We only had 5 minutes to make this decision so it was quite a shock to the system. The strength of my reaction to as high as a 20% chance of twins meant that we went for one, and they froze the other one. The other 2 less good ones, they said they would leave another 24 hours to see how they developed and if possible, would freeze them. So we have one in the freezer and may get another if lucky tomorrow.

Hobbes, try not to worry about not "feeling" anything growing. DP kept saying she couldn't either, during stims, but all developed ok.

Congrats on your ET Wanda! Yes the conversation about embryos was so rushed for me today too, that's why freaking out tonight! I think it must be so routine for the clinic but so massive for us!

Wanda I was worried we would have a similar decision - DH couldn't come to ET but I wanted to phone him in to embryologist's discussion but couldn't because no phone signal!! But they said first thing that they'd only be putting back one so no decision to make.

TBH I also dreaded the idea of twins and would have done exactly the same in your shoes. I can't believe they only gave you 5 mins to decide though with no warning - that's really hard. And good that you have at least one in the freezer!

blackcherries I almost told DP not to come, but am so glad she did as I would have felt awful making that decision alone. There have been quite a few important differences between what the embryologists have said and what the nurses/doctors have said - quite confusing for the non-medical-specialist patient.

Anyway, starting the 2WW now. They actually said wait 2 weeks to do test but I think you can test sooner? What is the earliest a test would work?

Hopefully we all get lucky this time.

I was told 12 days from ET today but that's almost 2 weeks I suppose.. they warned me that would only be a very faint line, if any, on 12th day though.. we will see how long I can last!

I had a double embryo transfer and my dad is a twin! Watch this space! Xxx

I was told 16 days from egg collection..! I wouldn't test sooner than you've been told as it'll just do your head in wondering if that's right or not... but that works ok for me as it's next Saturday. If it was a Monday morning i might have other ideas!

I was told 16 days from EC too and to do it at a time I'm "emotionally ready" when would that be?????

Good luck to everyone now in the tww. Will be keeping everything crossed for good news for you all. Well, not everything since I have my first scan on Tuesday I'm feeling left behind by you lovely lot so hoping I get good news and can start progesterone.

Holding out for official test date is hard, but the thought of a false negative and the crushing disappointment was the thing that helped me wait last time around.

Hi all - wow - a few of you in 2WW now... like you Silver I fee left behind!
Wanda - I'd have been surprised by that too - last time I had 2 put back - but that was all I had and they were not great quality and so made sense to put both back, but if you have an excellent one on board, then it seems an unnecessary risk to put more than one back IMO, with odds that high - not cos I wouldn't be happy with twins if you could guarantee they'd be healthy, but because of the risks to the babies associated with twins. So I think you did the right thing, but it's such a personal decision. I was complete wreck at transfer last time as I had been told they weren't great quality and it was only day 2 transfer... so was all over the place and was in tears as I think I'd convinced myself that being poor quality meant there was potentially issues with them if they did survive (which I know isn't the case) but it's such an emotional time! AnnaB - I don't understand how different places have such different policies on freezing - it's very confusing - I think blackcherries is right tho, that they just don't want to say anything until they are sure.
Re test date - Last time I didn't get to test date, my period came 2 days before my OTD, which was 14 days post EC... if you think of EC as being ovulation, then most pregnancy tests would pick up a pregnancy by 14DPO, so I think that's why they had my test then. So, for a day 5 embryo, you are actually only just over 1WW until testing really. Hope everyone is ok, and hope the week ahead is positive xx

Hey everyone, good luck to all those on their 2ww. No one has started a April /May thread and I don't fancy doing it myself so I thought I'd jump back in here. Started on progynova on Thursday night, 4 2mg tablets each evening. Will be taking these for 2 weeks, going in for first scan on 6th April. Felt very teary this morning, no idea if thing is because of the pills or just my normal self, I'm a pretty emotional person anyway! Also been very hungry the last couple of days, today I demolished a large pizza, and a roast dinner, and a big bar of chocolate. Is this normal??

ET done (I'm in Australia). Disappointed to find out the thaw failed so they used the second one. Means this is the last chance
I wasn't ready for that...

Sorry you lost one, kmmr. I guess you just have to keep looking forward and thinking positive thoughts about the one transferred.

Clinic called me back just now to say the other embryos they had left for another day didn't develop well so we just have the one in the freezer. Immediately I am now fretting about only having one transferred yesterday. But I still know I would be terrified if I were to find out I was having twins. Just really really hoping this one will stick.

Kmmr don't worry it only takes 1! And it's never the last shot you could go again? That's what we did and from the fresh batch have 6 1 in me hoping it sticks and 5 left over
Wanda I hope yours sticks! I'm starting to freak out now Day 5 of tww and I don't know what to feel what's a good sign and what isn't I could cry at the thought of it not working but trying to stay positive

Good luck Wanda and thanks for the nice words. I'm 40 now and my husband isn't keen, nor is it financially easy, to go again. I'm hoping I'll be ready to move on if this fails. But, I'm being very ungrateful! Maybe it will take.

The one that failed to thaw was always going to fail. Better to know now than go through another cycle and find out at transfer, which would have been tough. And I'd have to pay for the cycle anyway.

Doctor called me after and apologized for only telling me as I went in. He said he had checked and they said the embryos were fine, but must have meant it was fine to go ahead, and didn't mention that one failed.

I have a little boy, so I gave him a huge hug tonight and he was being especially lovely. I'd love to give him a brother or sister, but I know I'm so lucky to have him.

Feeling not great tonight physically. Boiling hot and sweaty (it is pretty humid) and after effects of the general. Early night I think.

And good luck hhno2! Only a few days to testing really. When's your OTD?

Kmmr thank you I have blood test on Saturday so nervous now!!!

Oh, I'm so out of the loop! I've been off social media, trying to keep my head space calm and quiet - and now there's so much to catch up on.

Well done to those who are now at the 2ww stage - it's now in the lap of the gods, and I have everything crossed for you.

I'm EC-ing today. Working with slightly less numbers than last time (Hobbes - I think I'm really similar to you) but hoping for better quality this time...

Hope everyone else is doing OK. xx

Hi, please may I join? I'm 36 (about to turn 37) and my DH is 37 - we're TTC1 with unexplained infertility and are starting our first cycle of IVF. I've been using downregging (Synarel nasal spray) since the Friday before last and have my first scan on Wednesday so should start my Gonal F injections then.

blackcherries, jody, Wanda, Anna and Hhno2 - hope the tww is going ok for you (sorry if I've forgotten anyone!)

Hope everyone else is ok.

Hope everyone on their 2ww is coping alright! I must say that's the part I'm dreading the most

Spoke to clinic this morning who told me it was fine to take the suprecur an hour early, so hopefully I should be able to sleep a little easier tonight! I let these things get to me far too much 🙈

Black cherries Jody Wanda Anna
How u feeling? I don't know what I'm feeling Day 5 only thing I have is massive boobs and I'm usually mosquito bites. Prob progesterone shots but I just done know??!!!!!
Ozzyboo glad you can relax now just alternate spots as much as possible!
Lullahbelle good luck with the cycle!

My boobs are killing me so badly! Feel really dizzy and keep crying. I'm a mess! And have like a triple fold appetite!

Jodybug haha! I can't stop eating but I know the eating is prgesterone! I pray this works for us!

It's literally ridiculous I might start eating my own arm!!!!!!

Jodybug I've already eaten a Easter hamper I was given! The amount of chocolate consumed is not good!!! Sometimes I get this sinking feeling I so hope to get a positive result this cycle has been 8 weeks on injections I just hope it's worth it!!