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TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto IUI/IVF/ICSI -part 2

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bluebird3 · 10/01/2017 19:22

We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

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JessicaJones1 · 06/06/2017 21:01

Hi Bluebird3, Jamon, justtheonethen and Geeup. I hope I haven't missed anyone.

Hi Vox I'm so sorry to read what you're going through. Hugs. xx

Hi Star I've had two definite miscarriages and one suspected. Which according to the docs doesn't count (but it did to me. Sad).

I know Maple - starting on Election Day! I wonder if I'll get any symptoms on day 1? Did anyone else? I'll be using Buserelin.

Welcome Angel. I'm very new here too! Smile

xx

voxnihili · 07/06/2017 18:36

Hope everyone is getting on ok.

Thanks for the wishes. I saw a doctor today who confirmed I was no longer pregnant. She is sending me for a scan to make sure everything has gone.

I'm not sure where this leaves us now as we're technically not infertile now.

angelazul · 07/06/2017 19:29

I'm sorry vox take good care of yourself Flowers

Gee we all need a pity party every so often, hope you're feeling a bit more positive now. I got baby bombed on my 1st day back at work on Monday - as if going back to work wasn't bad enough Angry I'm so blooming jealous, even though or maybe because she's a colleague I'm quite friendly with.

Jessica good luck for tomorrow.

Just I've already pre-warned dh that he'll be on injection duty - needless to say he's not enamoured with the idea.

justtheonethen · 07/06/2017 21:03

Does anyone know if I take cetrotide at same time as menopur or if I need to space it out?

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bluebird3 · 09/06/2017 17:24

Hi everyone. Sorry..I've been away this week with work.

I'm so sorry vox. There's nothing I can say to make it better so just take care of yourself. I'm not sure where you stand with the NHS but maybe you can go ahead and have the initial tests to rule out any issues. If there's nothing there then it probably is just a timing/ frequency thing. That's good news really to know you can get pregnant naturally although it doesn't make this easier. Take all the time you need to grieve. FlowersFlowers

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bluebird3 · 09/06/2017 17:26

just I'm on gonal-f and certrotide and I take them at the same time. I do one in either side of my tummy then swap sides the next day.

I've been having some headaches from the certrotide that hasn't been super fun. I've been drinking loads of water so it's not dehydration. Oh well, could be worse. I'm going in for a scan tomorrow. Hoping the follies have been growing.

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geeup · 09/06/2017 17:29

Good luck with the scan blue!

justtheonethen · 09/06/2017 20:40

Good luck with scan blue.

I called the clinic and they said the same! I just did them both in the same side and I'll swap each day.
The menopur is giving me awful headaches so won't notice if the cetrotide does! I'm also drinking enough to drown a small pony.

Jamon · 10/06/2017 10:33

Gee I can imagine it must be an emotional rollercoaster. Please look after yourself. Did you see your pregnant friend in the end? My best mate is coming to stay this weekend - she text me two days ago with a 12 week scan picture. I'm so happy for her and love her so much but it absolutely floored me. They started trying a year after us and will be having a baby before us. It's so hard to get your head around.

Hope your DH mans up with your injections angel

Hope you get started with it all okay Jessica

Fx for your scan blue

geeup · 10/06/2017 12:03

Hi jam. No I didn't see the friend and to be honest I don't intend on it. She's actually the wife of my dhs friend so it's. It like we're close and she veers rather close to being smug at the best of times so now she's pregnant, it'll be unbearable.
It's incredibly hard with your friend being pregnant. My actual best friend stared trying about 6 mths after us and fitted in a very early miscarriage (she wasn't that affected by it as got pregnant the next cycle after) and now has a 8 mth old. In that time we've naturally grown apart a lot which I've really struggled with but I've told her that I hope it's temporary and if/when I actually manage to have one, especially if by then she's on number two, hopefully our friendship will recover. I always (horribly) feel an anger towards her though which isn't her fault but I just do. Everything seems to have been so painfully easy for her. I suppose I'm saying be open and honest and both of you should prepare to be a bit distant at some point. It's hard. Good luck Flowers

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bluebird3 · 10/06/2017 12:16

Hi everyone.

Scan was not as good as I hoped. I only have 8-9 follicles where as last time I had at this stage. 2 more days of stims and another scan Monday. I'm hoping maybe I will get quality over quantity.

jam and gee I feel your pain. Every single one of my friends has had 1-2 kids or is currently pregnant since we started trying and some are on their 3rd. I hate being left behind and increasingly isolated from my peers. It's hard to keep up friendships once others are mums. It's just too painful to go out with groups of mums where the conversation is all about their kids and I'm sitting there dying inside. One on one is a little better. Flowers

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geeup · 10/06/2017 13:25

Hey blue sorry it wasn't the news you hoped. If it helps last round I only had 6 eggs but all of them fertilised and we ended up with 2 blasts so sometimes it really is quality over quantity. Good luck. Get drinking that whole milk!!!

Jamon · 10/06/2017 13:44

Those posts made me so sad Sad I'm so sorry that's been your experiences. I'm determined to not let this come between me and this friend, she's too precious to me. I'm reminding myself that having a baby is daunting and life changing and she's probably as nervous as she is excited and she will need her friends too. DH and I will eventually conceive somehow so I can learn from my friend in the meantime.

I just don't want to let this whole experience make me bitter and lonely as well as everything else Sad it feels like that's how my life has been going with it.

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bluebird3 · 10/06/2017 14:16

That's the right attitude jam and I'm sure you can do it. It will take work but it sounds like your friend is worth it. Flowers

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bluebird3 · 10/06/2017 14:17

And thanks gee. I'm hoping you're right.

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geeup · 11/06/2017 18:24

How did it go jam? Hope you had fun together.

Jamon · 11/06/2017 18:37

Thanks for asking lovely, she's here until Tuesday. It's fine, hard but fine and I'm actually feeling better than a did a few days ago. I need to keep turning off the voice in my head reminding me she started trying a year after us and will be having a baby before us, and think it's a lottery - it's not her fault and could easily been the other way around.

God I want to be pregnant so so very much though. If possible it's actually made me want it more.

justtheonethen · 12/06/2017 07:20

You're a hero jam!
I've tried really hard to keep pregnant friendships strong, for the most part I've managed. by sobbing my jealous heart out after any meetings. Just one friend who is being odd after knowing about ivf.

I feel like utter shit. Headachy, bloated and sick. Got my follicle measuring scan today, I really hope they are big enough to come out weds. I'm so over this part.

angelazul · 12/06/2017 08:04

Blue sorry it wasn't better news, everything crossed there's more today

Good luck for today just

Jam I echo just Star

AF was due Friday, no sign of her yet, but bfn yesterday

geeup · 12/06/2017 08:05

Jam - well done. You're clearly a very good person and a great friend. Enjoy your long weekend together.

Justtheone - sorry you feel so unwell. I didn't experience that so can't help but hopefully it means you have lots of good eggs!

Jamon · 12/06/2017 08:25

I can completely see why you said it's so hard though. I woke up this morning my first thought was "we can't get pregnant" and cried. It isn't usually this bad. The contrast of having my easily impregnated friend in our home definitely makes me feel worse about what we're going through.

justtheonethen · 12/06/2017 09:20

Bloody fertiles Wink

justtheonethen · 12/06/2017 09:21

angel I'm totally hanging out for you kittening this thread. Would be amazing news!

angelazul · 12/06/2017 17:14

I hear you jam, been there quite a few times myself.

Just amazing as that be would be, I really doubt it. We were on hols & I wasn't really tracking, so there's a very good chance I just ovulated later than I thought. And feeling quite pms-y today

Viletta · 12/06/2017 17:46

Hi everyone,

Hope you don't mind me joining.
Ttc 1
13+ months
Both 31
DH has very low sperm count and none with normal morphology..

Will have to retest to confirm and then proceed with infertility clinic appointment. Not sure what to expect. I'm guessing he needs to change his lifestyle as he is a heavy smoker, also drinks coffee and drinks quite a bit..
On my side everything seems to be fine.