TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto IUI/IVF/ICSI -part 2

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We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

maple that's amazing!!!! Congrats congrats. So pleased for you. Happy to have you stay as long as you like.

As for NHS IVF mine was actually really fast. I had my first fertility clinic referral in Nov and because my dh sa was so low they said straight to ivf, no other tests or things offered. We did our first ivf in Feb. That was at 2 years of trying mark as you had to be trying for 2 years to qualify.

I started round 2 today. First injection this morning and I full out fainted in the kitchen. Not sure what was different as I was always fine last round. I hate fainting...have felt rubbish since and now feeling anxious for tomorrow.

Fantastic news maple congratulations and here's to a healthy happy 8-9 months ahead

Maple thats fantastic! Congratulations! I hope everything goes well.

Blue exciting to be starting again! Hope you didnt fall badly whats tomorrow?

It looks like my doctor was just dragging his arse with a referal then... im annoyed now as its almost like he didnt give me the correct concern because of my age . We tried for 15 months before any bloods even though i told him at like 10 months that nothing was happening and i was starting to get worried and 18 months before referal to hospital. The hospital tests were quick enough and I was told 2 years and then you are put on the list that is then another year on top of that so to start would be about/just over 3 years in total i think. Might be diffrent in scotland i mean we are all offerd the same amount of goes at IVF no matter where you live in scotland.

Hi everyone
I'm fairly new to this forum. I hope you don't mind me joining in. I've just been recommended by ScottishJaggyNettle. Thank you!
This is a massive thread so I need to have a good read!
Congrats to all the bfps.

xx

Me: 36
DH (to be): 38
TTC: 3/4 Years
Previous Pregnancies: 2/3
Diagnosis: Unexplained Infertility.
IVF Treatment Cycle: Long Protocol.
First Cycle: Starts on 8th June on the NHS.

Congratulations maple.

I think the last time I posted I'd just had my GP appointment. I had my day 21 test a few days later and then sat cursing that AF hadn't started so I could get the day 2 one done. It then occurred to me that maybe, just maybe, there was a reason. 15 BFPs and I finally believed it and had a little chuckle to myself about the 'lovely' timing - waiting for the start of my infertility tests. DP was over the moon - I think I told him by saying he could cancel his sperm analysis appointment.

The next week was the happiest ever. But then reality came crashing down when I started bleeding heavily. I saw a doctor when it started but it wasn't my doctor as I was on holiday, I'm waiting for a GP appointment now. I had one day of heavy bleeding and the rest has been lighter, I can't work out whether it has been as much blood as my period would be.

I don't know how to feel or where to go from here. I'm clinging on to the fact that maybe it was just a bleed and everything is ok, but it feels like it was too much, and my only symptom (sore boobs) is disappearing. I know I could take a test but at the moment I'm clinging on to the hope that I could still be pregnant.

I know I should feel happy that it shows we can at least get pregnant but it is little consolation. The only hope I'm clinging on to if I have miscarried is that it happened so quick after starting using OPKs, but with DPs ED it isn't as straightforward as it should be. And with my 'low fertility' I know it won't be an easy journey.

Oh my goodness vox, what a crazy week you've had. Firstly though, congratulations on your bfp - you thought it would never happen so please do take the positive from that.

Where exactly are you in your pregnancy now and what did the first gp say? I feel you really need to be scanned to determine what is going on. If you are miscarrying you need to be sure it has completed properly and get the all clear to go again. But if not, you need to know what is happening and what is causing the bleeding. Do you have an early pregnancy unit near you? You can contact them and hopefully they'll get you in for a scan. I wouldn't bother taking a pregnancy test as it's likely to be positive but won't be conclusive.

I'm so sorry this is happening. Please look after yourself and dh

Welcome Jessica, best of luck with your first cycle- it's an exciting time getting going after trying for so long. Was quite sure how many previous pregnancies you've had?

Thanks all, still feeling very cautious about it, but equally hard to not get caught up in the moment. Still obsessing over symptoms which are likely due to cyclogest.

Blue I hope you were ok this morning after fainting yesterday, not a nice way to start.

Welcome Jessica not long until you can get started then, Election Day!!

Vox I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time. It's great that after everything you and DH have been through that you got your BFP - how many days late are you and when was the last time you tested? Ive heard that it's common for symptoms to come and go this early on.

I'm just coming up to 6 weeks. The first time I tested was the day after AF was due - clear positive. I last tested last Monday which was 5 days ish after AF was due.

The GP said if I lived there he would refer me for a scan (he was lovely, if only all doctors were like that). He basically said there's 3 possibilities - threatened miscarriage, miscarriage or ectopic. He told me to get an appointment with my GP (I'm booked in but not for almost 2 weeks as my surgery is crap) but go to hospital directly if it gets worse. There is an EPU at the hospital, but need a GP referral.

The bleeding has pretty much stopped - it was heavy ish and crampy Friday, medium yesterday and just spotting today so no idea what's going on.

It seems like you've done all you can then vox and maybe just need to wait til your appointment. How annoying they don't have anything sooner. Good news the bleeding has stopped/slowed. If it starts up again, I would go to a&e or if you feel the need for some info sooner then you could consider a private scan. However, now the bleeding has stopped, my advice would be to wait til your GP appointment. Good luck, I really hope everything is ok

Hi ladies, mind if I join?

Name: Angel
Age: 35
TTC #1 for 2 years, lost count of cycles a while ago
No bfps ever
MFI (antisperm antibodies)

We're on the waiting list for icsi since Dec, but the list in our area (NI) is 10-11 months long so still while to wait yet - kinda feels like I'm limbo tbh. Been on a thread on the conception board for a while, but it's not really the place for me anymore. So taking the bull by the horns & dipping my toes in here

Welcome jessica and angel. There are some really lovey and supportive ladies on here so hope you feel you fit in with us. Many of us have moved over from conception too, as it's hard to watch ladies come and go from the thread while we linger on and on and on.

vox so sorry you're going through such s confusing thing when you just want to be happy about your bfp. Really hope it was just a bleed and things are progressing. Fx for you!

I'm on day 3 of stims. Go back to the acu on Saturday to see how things are going. So boring to wait. The days are passing so slowly!

Tentative congratulations vox I really hope it all progresses okay now

Welcome new people, I'm 19 months into this nightmare and currently on clomid whilst waiting for NHS IVF to start in 5 months time.

Gee how are you doing?

vox fingers crossed for a positive outcome.

angel! Hi

First injection done! Was really nervous as I'm needle phobic but I used Emla cream and then iced it before and I didn't feel the needle go in but the menopur hurt going in.
Feel like I can manage it now the first one is done.

I just did a test as I couldn't face the waiting until I can see the doctor. It was negative. I can't describe the pain, well I'm sure you all know. I can't believe that life can be so cruel that I'd find out I was pregnant the month we were having tests and then it could be snatched away. To rub salt into the wound, my initial EDD was my birthday.

Vox I'm so, so, sorry please take good care of yourself

Oh vox sweetheart that's crap. Sorry

Oh vox, I'm so so sorry to hear this. Please look after yourself and dh. Life can be so cruel and unfair sometimes, it's horrible.

Blue and Just, congratulations on getting going. Fingers crossed for you both

Welcome Angel

I have the most horrible headache, think it's the menopur. I can take paracetamol right? I'm drinking loads of water so I'm not dehydrated.

Thanks for the welcome, felt a bit daunting posting on an infertility board, but here I am anyway.

Vox so sorry to hear what you've been going through, it is so so cruel. Take care of yourself

Hi just how are you? Good to hear that your starting treatment now. And well done on the injection I think that's one of the things that's freaking me out the most, I can't imagine being able to inject myself

angel I used Emla cream and ice and then got DH to do the injecting as I don't think I could do it myself. Honestly didn't feel it and was fine.

Can I have a bath during stimming?

Justtheone - yes I don't see why not. You just can't after egg collection due to infection.
Vox - im so sorry. I cannot imagine the pain if I got pregnant now and lost it. My heart truly goes out to you.
Jam - thanks for asking. I waver between being really quite chipper as I approach the scratch and starting downregging on Friday for cycle 2, and desperate lows. Just got baby bombed so feeling raw. I guessed she was pregnant at a wedding in march and she just whatsapped to invite us to dinner. I knew it'd be an announcement so asked if they had any news and quelle surprise she messaged back to say she is pregnant. I'm so glad I asked so I don't have to deal with that face to face. Now I'm just deciding whether to message back and explain I don't really feel up to meeting up to celebrate as we're struggling or just "forgetting" to give her a new date for dinner.
I hope the rest of you are doing ok. I'm having a major pity party for one at this conference I'm at. Loneliest in a crowd and all that...

Vox i cant imagine how you must be feeling right now. Im sorry for your loss .

Oh gee . Sending a virtual handhold.

vox still thinking about you lovely