TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto IUI/IVF/ICSI -part 2

[bluebird3]

We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

Sorry you're having such a hard time vox fertility is a bitch - double whammy of low amh is rubbish but not insurmountable. As you said, you have lots you can try to counter it and it may not even make a difference if ED gets sorted. I am sorry though. It feels like there is always something just waiting to knock you down again

Congrats on your promotion though - that's fab news and well deserved I'm sure!

Sorry i have been away for so long. I have been reading but i have not been commenting. Nothing is happening and treatment is so far off and strangely enough the more i talk about it the worse i feel. Good days and bad days i suppose. Some days i think it just isnt ment to be for me and the next day im buying a car with isofix (in the hope).

Has any one used fertile check fertility gel/pre seed? and is it any good?

Gee I think you are right - I will feel "normal" again if I get pregnant and lucky enough to get a take home baby at the end.

Blue I feel the same about how awful my life would be without children. I know surrogacy or adoption is not for everyone but I would pursue it if IVF doesn't work for me. I hope you get to enjoy your holiday - I think the counselling sounds like a good idea to investigate - I would definitely consider it.

Vox I'm glad you managed to speak to DH again, despite how hard emotionally it must have been. I'm sorry to hear about the AMH - did they say what it was? Congratulations on the promotion though - great new!

Scottish sometimes it's good to take a step back from it all. I'm hoping to buy my first car soon (when I pass my test!) and I've been checking for isofix and boot size too in hope I'll need it. Ive used both conceive plus and pre-seed but we've always used lube so that was the only reason why we've been using it really.

Scottish we've tried preseed as a fertility help or using the applicator pre sex but it didn't work for us so now we just use instead of normal lube. We've always used lube for sex for seems sensible but DH doesn't like it much and prefers saliva.

I was thinking...since it's hard to keep tracking where everyone is at, should we start a list with dates for our next steps...like on the conception boards when you can see who is due to test. Mine could be...

Blue...ICSI cycle #2, start stimming end of May

If you all agree do you want to send me where you are up to and I can put a list together?

Hey blue, that's a nice idea.

Star, 36, ttc 2.5yrs IVF#2 (first cancelled before egg collection due to over response). Start pill-May, stims mid-June.

Little potted history there!

Maple, how you doing with the injecting?

Yes nice idea blue.
Gee, TTC 2 yrs, MFI (but was good enough to do IVF not ICSI on the day for first cycle), waiting for first "normal" period after failed IVF cycle to start IVF cycle #2. Expecting AF this weekend, then I'll book in my appointment at the clinic. Expected to start downregging third week of May, with stims mid June so similiar to star. So over all this but dusting myself off and trying to get excited/enthused again.

Good idea blue - no idea how to create one though!

Maple, 31, ttc almost 2.5yrs, IVF #1, stimming should begin imminently as AF/withdrawal bleed after pill started today so waiting for my baseline scan!

Star injections are going fine thanks, a little stingy but otherwise ok!

I'm feel very sorry for myself today non IVF related, but I had my very first driving test today and I failed. I'm SO disappointed with myself and l can't shake the feeling off. Keep replaying the moment I failed (right at the end of the test - clipped a car and the examiner grabbed the wheel). Up until then I only had 2 minors! Feeling absolutely pants!

Oh maple how annoying! Better luck next time. I don't know about anyone else but I seem to have less tolerance or patience for other areas of my life since long term TTC. It's like I just want to be able to do shit and get it done and not have more bloody hold ups!

Gee do you try between IVF cycles or is it straight on with it once you've started? Do your meds change this time?

Bluebird I'm a bit behind you guys but I've just started cycle 18, had all the tests and slight MFI , now in normal range but not a whiff of a BFP. I've got my HSG booked next week and then I'm looking into a private prescription of clomid as our consultant wouldn't prescribe it. We're on the waiting list for IVF , starting in October

Thanks London - just keep thinking, great another thing I can't do! Woe is me.

Hospital called and have my baseline scan tomorrow so hopefully can start stimming tomorrow evening!

Good news maple. Feels like you're really doing something when you start stimming!
London - we have one cycle (this one) to try naturally before starting again but it is up to the person - we could have a waited a few months if we weren't mentally ready but I just want to get on with it. I'm not convinced I ovulated this month - didn't get a positive OPK for first time ever and no ovulation pain but to be honest I was fairly lax about testing and I symptom spot less these days so maybe I did and missed it.

Thanks gee - just had my scan and although lining was thin, I had a 20mm cyst on my left ovary. Back for bloods and a scan on Friday but if it hasn't collapsed by then I have to postpone for a month feeling really despondent.

Oh god how frustrating. I'm sorry to hear that. Did they have any advice as to how to get it to collapse?

No I think I have to just hope it disappears on its own! If not I think I stop the buserelin and I go back on norethisterone and that's meant to shrink it? She said we would talk about it on Friday but hopefully we wouldn't need to! Munching on chocolate now obviously!

Urgh maple how annoying Fingers crossed it buggers off between now and Friday. It's not simple this ivf road is it?!

And sorry about the driving test too. Do you do little deals with fate? Like maybe failing the driving test stores up your luck for ivf working?! I mean it's totally stupid, but I did it with my last ivf as I'd applied for a job just before and if I'd got the job and ivf worked I'd have lost my maternity benefits from my current place. Fate screwed me over as I didn't get the job and I didn't get a baby either! So y'know - don't listen to me!

Vox, glad you managed to have a good chat. And don't worry about your amh, your level's fine for trying naturally so no need to worry.

Hope everyone else good. Nurse's appointment tmrw for me and then starting pill a week after that.

Hi everyone. I will try to find a good way to list all our updates. Might be a few days as I'm currently away for my sister's wedding this weekend.

Maple...hope the cyst collapses asap. And sorry about the driving test. There is so much pressure I wonder how anyone passes.

Will respond more tomorrow. I'm practically falling asleep. to everyone

Thanks star and blue. It really sucks!! Keep thinking what the likelihood of it collapsing in 2 days is. I've been googling (of course) and most say they still went ahead and their cysts have been bigger than mine! Grumble grumble.

Star I do make those kind of "trades" but needless to say it's never worked unfortunately!! Hope the nurse appointment goes well today.

Blue hope you have a nice time at the wedding!

Oh maple how frustrating. Keeping fx it goes 🤞🏼

Do any of you listen to the fertility podcast? You might be sick of hearing it but a recent episode is with Jonathan Ramsay who's fairly famous in the MFI field. It's an interesting listen.

Ooooh no I haven't heard of that. If I go into the podcast thing on my iPhone what do I search for? We had two consultations with mr Ramsay :)

Thanks London, just downloaded it for my commute. Gee it's called the fertility podcast and it's episode 79 called 'Poor Sperm...'

Nurse appointment all fine. I'm starting metformin today. Any pcos-ers on here taken metformin? I've taken it before and it gave me a horrid tummy. I don't have pcos but high AFC and apparently it can guard against ohss, otherwise it does nothing treatment wise. Protocol is start pill on day 5, baseline scan around day 21, wait for 5 days for a bleed and start stimming. So that should be stimming early June all being well. Getting excited now...

Maple, got my fingers crossed for your scan tmrw. Really hope the cyst has gone.

Waves to everyone else

Hey all. Still not much news from me - I had my scan and the cyst was still there. I was then sent for a blood test (which I had to wait an hour for) and then go back to them for them to tell me my dosage (IF I can start). I'm now waiting at the pharmacy for my prescription for Norethisterone (if I can't start stimming). Been away from the office for 4 hours! Thank goodness for understanding bosses and it being quiet as it's Friday!

Star if I can't start tonight, I should be stimming end of May/ beginning of June! I've never been on metformin so can't help I'm afraid. Hope it doesn't give you a horrid tummy this time round.

Thanks for the heads up about the podcast London!

Just had the call - bloods showed it was good to go ahead so I'll be starting on 300iu menopur tonight! Excited but also feeling nervous. First blood test on Monday then in for bloods and scan every other day

Sorry to be a massive downer but can I have a bit of a sad vent? I'm really fed up. It's Friday night and I'm sitting on the sofa watching Netflix. I can't remember the last time a girlfriend asked me to do anything at all on a Friday night. All my best friends (and I'm lucky to have some lovely ladies in my life) have babies now and most of them have second ones on the way so doing something in a Friday just isn't on their radar. It doesn't help that I don't live that near them anymore so it's harder for us to meet up but my god I feel so left behind. I don't want a baby because I'm lonely, but my god I'm lonely without a baby.
Ps DH has gone out with his male friends but did check if I wanted him to stay in with me but I said no. I miss female company :( sorry to be a misery guts.

Sorry I meant to start that with congrats on starting stimming maple! Sorry I was so self involved I forgot!!!