TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto IUI/IVF/ICSI -part 2

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We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

Hugs Gee don't apologise, sorry you are feeling crappy and this is the place to vent! none of my friends live near me but all drive and live close-ish to each other so often meet up for dinner etc without me. Slightly different as most don't have babies but I do feel like getting left out.

Do you have any female work friends you are close to that you could hang out with? Maybe someone you could confide in?

I'm also sat watch Netflix!

Ah glad I'm not the only one. What are you watching? I'm literally storming through the whole of the Girlboss box set!
No close gfs at work but one maybe I should try and invite over (although I live a loooooong way from work!).
Thanks for messaging! Feel less sad.

Well just finished watching 13 reasons why - it's really good! Not heard of girl boss - might give it a try!

I think even if just one person it's worth inviting over or going for dinner or something!

Glad you are feeling less sad

Oh im way behind here....

Scottish, TTC nearly just under 2.5 years. Unexplained, currently awaiting IVF which i dont think will be untill next year its a big waiting list.

Maple im sorry to hear about your driving test if it makes you feel any better i failed first time too. Next time you will pass it no bother just sounds like its nerves.

Gee up Please do vent honestly i know exactly how you feel its nice to know im not alone. I have never been more lonely in my life. Netflix has become a good friend of mine.. Its like everyone thinks my life is so great because im child free but i cant do anything ... i cant eat what i like, Complete ban on drink as the NHS waiting list says so I have not had a drink in 2 years not even a glass of wine i was never a big drinker anyways but thats not the point. I just want to be able to have a family .. Some days i think its just not ment for me.

Good on Netflix - Miss you already (Get ready to cry) , Santa Clarita Diet (funny), House (intresting) , and if you are having a really bad day Tommy tiernan always makes me laugh.

Hope you are all well

Ah thanks for the recommendations Scottish. Will give them a try. I'm sorry you're in the same boat. Thanks for making me feel less lonely.
Totally up to you but I wouldn't beat yourself up over a glass of wine if you want one. My NHS clinic said I could even have the odd one whilst downregging, just not during stims or 2ww. They said relaxing and trying to enjoy life and reducing stress and keeping your relationship healthy was the most important.

The NHS documents that were sent to me "neither partner should drink alcohol prior to or during the period of treatment" and my consultant told me that they recomend that both partners stop drinking now (when we were put on the ivf waiting list). I dont think i start ivf until next year. They really should put a time limit on it and tell you exactly when to stop random glasses of wine once a blue moon instead of being very vauge about it. I honestly dont want to risk it.

AF turned up today so i sat curled on the couch with a hot waterbottle, chocolate, and i watched the entire 1st season of Girlboss. It was quite a good way to cheer up a bad day.

Sorry you're feeling rubbish geeup - can I join you?

I've got a GP appointment this week, and then a appointment at a private clinic the week after. I decided to keep the GP one as I am worried about private clinics trying to sell me something I don't need (but also worried my GP will tell me everything is ok as they have no money!).

In the last week I've given up coffee, alcohol, starting taking proper pre-natal vitamins (was just on normal ones plus folic acid) and started using OPKs. DP was all on board with this and agreed it was stupid to be looking at tests while at the same time doing things that could be detrimental.

The OPKs haven't showed as positive yet but I'd expect them to at the beginning of next week, so I told DP this and that we needed to try this weekend. I hate the way I have to spell it out but he actively avoids sex because of his ED so it has to be done.

Despite me making the appointments this week, cutting out things I really enjoy and putting more pressure on myself he hasn't been anywhere near me.

I am so frustrated and upset. I know I'm going to go to the doctor this week and they'll refuse to do anything because we aren't having regular sex. I'm so fed up of this shit.

Vox sorry your are feeling shitty but surely doctors can still refer you / help with DP having ED? Although they may want to investigate that before I suppose. Either way I'm sure the private clinic will be fine to proceed so you have that option too.

Has DP cut things out / started vits too?

Scottish I agree with gee about allowing yourself the odd glass but you should do what you feel the most comfortable with. Sorry AF showed up too. I might have to investigate your Netflix recommendations!

Hope the metformin is going ok star!

I had my blood test today and they've increased my dose to 375iu. Scan and bloods on Wednesday. Have bought arnica cream in the hope it will help with the bruising, especially the ones from the blood test. The though of them sticking a needle in my bruise makes me feel 🤢

I hope you are feeling better gee xx

vox hope your appointment goes well, and that you and your partner are able to try this week. It must be an awful stress for you both. I don't suppose you could or have tried him ejaculating and you inserting it?

Good luck with your scan and bloods today maple, hope the arnica is helping

I had my HSG yesterday! It was actually fine. The speculum was a bit uncomfortable (not to mention being naked from the waist down high up on a bed with your parts on display and three medical professionals in the room... I guess if you want a baby then dignity goes out of the window) but I think I was lucky that it wasn't too painful. It was over and done with very quickly too!

The dye is still coming down today, and my OPKs are on the rise so I think we are going to try this week. The consultants at my unit both said don't try this cycle - but I've seen the total opposite advise given here to several people on MN. Have any of you had it, and tried straight away? What was the advice?

That is strange London. When i had my HSG they told me that i could try straight away. Are you sure that you didnt hear them wrong. Phone them and just confirm what they said to you. Yes the HSG really is embarassing.

Vox I second what london said "I don't suppose you could or have tried him ejaculating and you inserting it?" im sure that you have already tried this but its worth a mention. Also ED is a real problem and im sure your doctor will take you both seriously. I suspect he will address the ED first but i cant see why they wouldnt refer you as it is a known medical condition which prevents you from being able to conceive.

Hope that you are all well.

Absolutely Scottish, the doctor who referred me for it said you can't try that cycle and the one who carried it out reiterated it afterwards. I questioned him and he said we don't have enough evidence on the effect of dye on the embryo ... I think we will try though - everyone else seems to

I do find that very strange but i would be inclined to listen to the advice (might be a diffrent dye or something)??.

I think it may be because it's unethical to deliberately expose an embryo to dye and see what happens, so they just err on the side of caution. A lot of women do go on to conceive afterwards and I haven't seen anything they've had any problems. Quite a few girls on the TTC1 thread have had HSGs and been advised to try again right away, so I think it must be my CCG that are hyper alert.

Hi ladies, how is everyone?
Maple, how is the stimming going?
Anyone else in treatment at the moment?
So far so good with metformin, no dodgy tummy yet but we'll see. I'm just waiting for cd1 then I'll start the pill and book my baseline scan. Time is DRAGGING!
London, good luck with this cycle. If I were you I'd try this month as I've only heard of not being able to have the hsg post ovulation in case you are pregnant, but if you haven't ovulated yet I'd just go for it.
Gee, where are you at? Started DR yet?
Hope everyone else is plodding along ok.

Hey star. My period was late by 6 days (got my hopes up a tiny bit but on no) but cd 1 today so have emailed the clinic. Guessing I'll start downregging in about 3 weeks. Until then it's just life as usual.
Glad your tummy has reacted. You just count your blessings when you take all these weird drugs don't you!

Hi star I'm doing ok thanks! Starting to feel a bit sore and the scan was uncomfortable today. I don't think I have many follicles though and feeling a bit worried about it, although the doctors have not said anything. I'm having another scan on Sunday so will try and get an idea of numbers but I only seem to have 4 or so on the right (between 10mm and 14mm) and one or 2 on left. There are smaller ones too less than 10mm.

I'm on 375iu at the moment and hoping the smaller ones will catch up.

Glad your metformin hasn't given you a bad tum this time. When is AF due?

Omg gee, I would be convinced at 6 days late. What cruel things our.m bodies can be eh? Well, hope it feels good to be doing something now. Think we'll be on similar timetable as once af arrives, prob this weekend, I call for a baseline in 21 days.

Maple, the scans can get uncomfortable once you're a bit stimulated can't they? What day of stims are you on? I think slow and steady is good - the nurse told me some people stim for like 17 days, so there's still time for the smaller ones to grow. How are you feeling on the meds? You taking lots of fluids?

Period officially due yesterday but today or tomorrow would still be normal for me.

Hi all, not been on recently sorry

Hope everyone is ok.

CD1 today so started pill, they can't do baseline until day 20 (they book from 15-21) but should start stimming after that so early June.

My period was late by 2 days, obviously I got my hopes up but more was annoyed that it's delaying starting.

I am taking part in a study for the scratch so having that Thursday, thought it was meant to be on day 21 but maybe as it's a study they are doing it on different days? At least I'm getting it, can't hurt. In the long run anyway, scared its going to hurt being done.

Ladies, not sure how to say this but it's my last cycle before ivf round 2 - I took a test this morning and got a bfp. 31 months trying without a whiff of anything. I would say I'm in shock but actually I'm just numb, it really hasn't sunk in. Hope it's OK to post this here, I've been on this thread since October 2015!

STARRRRR!!!!!!!!! Omg congratulations - of course you're "ok" to post this! You were on here when I started posting and always asked about me - I'm so thrilled for you! Do you think all the ivf drugs from round 1 kick started things? Who knew - an ironidiff!

Fingers crossed for a sticky and an uneventful 9 months!

Gee I missed your post about AF being 6 days late - way to play with you mind, bastard!

Just great that you are getting going for June now, not long to go.

Congratulations star that's wonderful news 😁

star that's fucking fantastic

Oh my god Star. I can't believe it. You must be in total shock. Congratulations. You are that miracle ironidiff!!!