TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto IUI/IVF/ICSI -part 2

[bluebird3]

We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

Well I didn't fall under the lucky 20% of people who iui works for. Got my period this morning. Gutted. Cried on the way to work and here now smiling and acting like a normal person. Ah well, better give it another go I suppose.
Hope everyone else going ok

So sorry to hear that where. Vent here to your hearts content. Hope you're holding it together. I'd say I felt unwell and slope off to pick my wounds if I could?

Thanks so much gee. I'm actually holding up ok now, work is a good distraction. I work on a crisis mental health team so it's fairly full on and busy, which I guess is a good distraction. How are you doing?

Sorry where

Sorry to hear where hope everyone is doing good!

Sorry where

Does IUI work for 80% ? That seems incredibly high, I had no idea it was so successful.

No quite the opposite! I was told it has a 20% success rate, I was saying I'm not part of that lucky 20%.

Oh so sorry where I should have re read your message properly.

congrats on being pupo kct hope your tww is going well.

Geeup - hope you're doing OK with the DR. I saw your question about side effects - I had really bad headaches and light bleeding all the way through. At the end when I stopped stims and was on progesterone and buserelin I was really emotional and weepy at the slightest things.

Welcome meadow - welcome to the club no-one wants to be in So sorry for your loss. I think it's OK that they've referred you for IVF - my theory is that if they're able to say there's a reason for infertility then you don't have to wait 2 years. Of course there can't be a problem with your tubes as you've been pregnant before, but if it helps reduce the wait I wouldn't complain. Also, there's every chance you'll fall naturally before treatment, esp since you've done it before. Maybe you have mild male factor so it's just taking a while.

So sorry where, it's a real bummer. Glad you're feeling a bit better and ready to go again. Fingers crossed for round 2! How many rounds are you planning?

Blue, hope you're doing OK?

Nothing to report from me I'm afraid. Currently CD18 of my first cycle post cancelled IVF. Two weeks til my appointment to work out what my next protocol will be and when I can get going. Time is dragging!

Where Sorry .

Star Hopefully it wont be too long. Would it be a few months ? Fingers crossed time flys in and this time no over stims.

I second that star. I was going to ask if anyone had heard from blue possibly on another thread ? she has been AFK (Away from keyboard) for a while. Understandable if she needs a bit of time.

Hi all, thanks for the warm and understanding welcome.
Where, so sorry about your cycle. I hope you can take some time for yourself after work.
kct, congrats on being PUPO. When will you test?
London, yes, I think we may have similar situations-mild MFI and are being referred to Guy's ACU. Maybe you are one of the gals I've seen in the waiting area. I find myself feeling strangely akin and foreign from them as I know we are all members of this rubbish club , but I don't know anyone in real life who's been through this.
Scottish and gee thanks for your kind words. Yes, I would think my tubes would be okay but cannot complain about a quick referral of course.

Messaging from my phone so hard to flip back for everyone's updates, I apologise if I've missed some names.

No news here. My period is due today and nothing has come yet...I am not feeling hopeful as I had my hycosy on day 16 of a 28/29 day cycle and hadn't ovulated yet. The consultant told me I would O any minute but I don't know if t happened...if so, probably too late in my month to make a pregnancy happen. What do you lot do to keep your head on? I no longer let myself feel hopeful but I still don't want to give up hope! But I have spent so many days crying this past year when my period came after I'd convinced myself that was the month we finally did it...

Sorry for the moan...this is always where my mind lands when AF is due...

to you all and thank you for the kind and supportive words here.

Thanks meadow,
Not too sure when too test to be honest. Not feeling like this cycle has worked for me :-( trying to get some success stories from a 5 day transfer not a blast at a morula stage which has also apparently split? So yeah not feeling 100% about it.

More moaning from me! Went for a baseline scan today to get the second round of IUI going- of course a cyst showed up so we can't do anything this month. I was so disappointed. Felt like the nurse didn't really care either.
This will sound a bit paranoid but I have a feeling I had a cyst last month and that it was a wasted round of iui (and of €1000). When the same nurse was doing the baseline scan she mumbled something about a shadow on my left ovary, but it might be a "collapsed cyst". She then said we could go ahead. Thinking back now, I'm convinced it was a cyst and this round was a waste.
Just feel so disappointed and back to square one again.

Oh god I'm sorry where. What a nightmare. I am terrified of getting a cyst having worked myself up so can only imagine how you feel.
Injecting going ok. So far done it at home, in the loo at a friends house and in the loo at a work do in a snazzy London venue. Glamorous.
DH pissing me off as he's off on a lads long weekend tomorrow (boooed months ago) and expect there'll be loads of drinking despite the fact I've given up booze for lent/IVf cycle. And he's it for a beer now to celebrate finishing work. And it's MFI that's our problem!! Grrrr. How is it me making all the effort. Why can't they invent something to fix bloody sperm. Argh. Rant over.

*booked months ago, I meant

Hi everyone. Sorry I disappeared for a while. It just got to be too much, the bfn on my birthday. I kept getting messages saying 'hope you're having a great day' and 'have you had a good day?'. It was awful. I just cried for 3 days, but I have felt better the last couple of days and am looking forwards now.

We had a medical review appt on Wednesday. The doctor basically said everything went really well with the cycle it just didn't happen, which is the harsh reality of IVF. Even with the best of times, it's only 35-40% chance each cycle. I did find out we actually had 3 blasts on day 5 (I thought it was only 1). But the other two weren't good enough quality to freeze. I'm sort of upset they didn't give me the option of putting 2 in. She said they would do the same protocol next time as I responded so well, but maybe would put 2 in if its the same situation. We're self funding now so I will definitely be having 2 in if we can't freeze. We have a family wedding in the USA in May so we will try again in June.

I'll still be cheering everyone on and popping by time to time, but I'm going to try and just live my life the next few months away from infertility. Best of luck to everyone.

So sorry where. Well done for making it into work today. It hurts so let yourself have a wallow when you get home.

gee I hate MFI too. It feels so unfair we have to put our bodies through IVF when there's nothing wrong with us. I don't resent dh because I know he can't do anything about it and I do really see it as our problem, not his. I just resent the medical world for not solving this yet!

Oh blue, I can only imagine how rotten it is getting that news on your birthday. Glad the fog is clearing and I think it's a good idea to try and forget about all this stuff for a few months. Hope all goes well and enjoy the US trip

Where, how annoying about the cyst. They can come and go though, so no reason to think it was the same last month. Are they doing anything to get rid of it or do you just have to check it isn't there next month? I had cysts on my ovaries when I had a scan back when I was just 30 (36 now ) - wasn't trying then but when I went back for a fertility scan 5 years later there was nothing there. It's odd isn't it.

Gee, mfi is a real bugger isn't it. You're into your second week DR. Not long til you start stimming - funny the things you get excited about in this game hey.

Hope everyone has a nice weekend coming up.

Can I just say cruellest trick of ivf so far - I have never ever been late for my period by even a day. Not I'm downregging, I'm waiting for my breakthrough bleed and nothing has arrived yet, not even spotting. If I hadn't already done a pregnancy test I'd be fantasising...

Meadow I hope you ovulated okay and gave things a good go. With managing hopes - I don't really to be honest but I have made a pact with myself that I'm not allowed to even consider I might be pregnant until my period is actually late. My cycles are so regular I'm never really late. It's still so hard though our poor brains just want it so much. I'm not at Guys hospital we are up at the Homerton in north east London so I'm afraid i can't give you a wave in the waiting room

Where so sorry about the cyst how frustrating 😔

Bluebird sorry you're feeling low, no need to apologise for being away. That's the beauty of this place - no judgement. Do what you need to do. If we do a private cycle of IVF it would be June or July at the earliest so I may be cycle buddies with you if you come back. Take care of yourself.

Geeup ugh to booze and MFI and all that shit. Right there with you. DH vigorously defends his right to drink and I constantly feel like a nag asking him not to. It's so annoying. What's the deal with the down regging and bleeding? Sorry I'm totally ignorant about the ins and outs of it all. That does sound bloody annoying that when you are actually meant to bleed you are not 🙄 I hope you aren't waiting long.

Not much news from me. I'm fertile next week so we will try again but I feel like we're going through the motions for the next few months this until we can save enough to pay for a cycle of ICSI.

London - I'm certainly no expert but apparently I'm supposed to bleed sometime around my usual AF day which would be yesterday but the downregging can delay it. Really don't want to be too late though or it'll affect my stimming and then egg collection etc which falls well for Easter currently.
COME ON AUNT FLO. Never thought I'd say that!

Hi all, please can I join you?

I'm 34, TTC #1 for just under 2 yrs. An HSG found a blocked right Fallopian tube, but other than that it's unexplained primary infertility. Think I had a chemical pregnancy in Oct but not sure, it was very early if so. Since then I've had three months on Clomid, and - following a return visit to gynae clinic on Friday, have a prescription for another three months which I'll start next cycle.

Gynaecologist has also referred us for IVF, likely to have it at Care Northampton. Is anyone else being treated there?

Finding it all a bit frustrating, and boring. A bit like I'm trapped between two phases in life, and - as a natural control freak - I'm wishing I had a bit more 'say' in making it happen! DH is great, supportive etc but it's kind of hard that it's me that the problem is with. I'm generally an optimist though, so am hoping for great things for all of us on the thread.

Right, off to read the full thread!

Welcome jelly. Sorry you find yourself here but you're in good company. Are you have monitored clomid cycles i.e. With scans? Good luck - hope it works for you!! I'm in Surrey so don't know about Care im afraid.
My AF call worked as breakthrough bleed stared today - hurrah - so all on track for baseline scan on Friday. Another hurdle cleared. Now praying for quiet ovaries and no cysts...

Thanks gee, and fingers crossed for you now AF has arrived.
Not being scanned with Clomid, just cd21 bloods. It definitely seemed to work (ie I ovulated) on the three months I took it before (prog of around 110 each time); whether you're scanned or not seems to vary by NHS area as far as I can tell.

When I first did clomid, I paid for a private scan just to double check it wasn't thinning my lining (a common side effect) and to see how many follicles I was growing. Only £99 from ultrasound direct I think it was called incase you're interested.