TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto iui/ivf/icsi.

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We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

That is excellent news about the heartbeat MPP.

I know what you mean about taking failure badly Banana. I am quite like that too. And right now running myself ragged and stress throught the roof at work trying to achieve something nigh on impossible.

Regarding that article I posted I know that plenty of women do conceive and carry successfully in far worse situations (e.g. syria right now) but I do wonder if it is having an impact on me, if maybe if your system is robust enough if makes little difference, but if youa re prone to problems already that it might make it worse. I am kind of glad to see something in black and white that might make me slow down a bit and put myself first until we have either had a family or given up on it. It is like it gives me a reason why I should, other than gut feeling. DH and I had a long talk last night and he is really keen on me going back to uni and having something to enjoy and look forward to. It is a slightly scary thought to walk away from a job with at least a few years funding but at the same time so exciting and means that I will have achieved something with the next few years if we never do conceive. Like trixie I feel like I am getting nowhere, except I am not treading water. I am swimming frantically kn order to stay still, or possibly go backwards and it is really getting to me.

Uni application starts this weekend.

Thanks banana you're so knowledgable. I've already reduced my BMI from 40 to 25 but through general life and the joys of PCOS its crept back up to 29 - I've managed to maintain that quite well for a few years though - I actually looked gaunt and I'll when my BMI was 25!

I really am so grateful for all of your help and advice! Keep thinking positively for yourself - I've not been on this thread for long but it sounds like you've done so well already!

Yep type A also....

Brenna that's so exciting! What will you study?

Lozza - I take Folic Acid and have taken Zinc for years to help with eczema - I'm thinking of Wellwoman though if this month is a no. DH is on Wellman since we found out about his sperm issue

That is amazing Lozza. I forgot to say before that bloody woman is unreasonable. Well done for even going. I take Wellwoman before conception and Ubiquinol all month and DHEA up to ovulation. I have some inositol I took for a while, when I was in a Take All The Supplements phase, and I may start taking that again too.

Agriculture MrsRen. In a few years time we are moving to Italy and taking over one of the family farms. DH has arthritis and is unlikely to be able to do much in the way of work on it (plus he grew up in Rome and has literally zero experience). I grew up in sheep farming country and used to do the lambings, plus we grew our own veg and I have had horses for years. So I have some experience, just none relevant to the type of farming we will be doing there. Plus no experience of running it as a business, or following EU regs. etc. So I am goign to go back and fill in the giant holes in my knowledge.

I wanted to be a vet growing up, didn't get the grades and would have happily transferred my ambitions to working with animals. My parents did not approve and I went to uni and got a degree and a PhD in Biochemistry to keep them happy. They were convinced I could do that and have animals as a hobby - not if you are working 14 hour days for stupidly little money!!! After being miserable doing this for years I am now really excited about having my dream life come true by accident. All we need is the family to fill our home with. Adoption is oging to be difficult because we will be moving at some point, and we need to move as DH's arthritis is getting a lot worse living here. We would have to wait until we got to Italy, then we would need to have most of our references translated from British people here, so would be an absolute 'mare. I am not against adoption in principle, I just think that it would be hard for us, so we really need having our own to work.

Banana I am so, so sorry for the bfn. I can't imagine how you must be feeling but I am crossing everything that it is a little bit too early and you will see different results in a day or two. Thinking of you xx

Trixie checking out properties on rightmove is weirdly addictive, isn't it? I was still looking even after we'd had our offer accepted on the one we wanted!

Lucie how are you feeling today? Has it sunk in yet? What did your DH say?

Wow, Brenna that's fab about your dream life coming true by accident! I hope you enjoy studying again. Its funny how life works out sometimes.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Brenna that sounds like the dream life!

I've just spent.the afternoon with my 7 month son and husband. Had a lovely day but I could see the look in my husband face the look of sadness that we don't have a family of our own and there could be a chance we can't!

So unfair the one thing you want in life is the one thing you have no control over. X

Is does sound fab Brenna!

Aaw Paige big hugs x

Hugs. Paige. It is so hard.

Oh gosh I meant to.say nephew* not son! Even my auto correct is having a dig!

In limbo land.

hCG is 5. Which is neither pregnant nor not pregnant. Under 5 is negative. Over 25 is positive. 5-25 is grey zone

It could be just on a go slow
Or it could be a chemical

Going back on Sat for a repeat - but I don't think this will be a viable pregnancy at any rate.

Oh banana, fingers crossed for a late implanter and that your hcg starts doubling up nicely!

God banana I'm sorry you're in limbo - hope Saturday brings you better news xx

Sorry you're in limbo banana - still got my fingers crossed for you!

It won't be viable so am hoping we can just put this one to bed quickly. We had discussed the next step after a failed cycle would be to go back to the hysteroscopy and copper IUD plan. I assume that will still be the case.

Would start progynova and pentoxifylline on day 2 to prep the lining for the hysto.

Looks like I'll be on contraception for my due date after all it seems...

Banana. That really sucks.

I was assuming something like that Paige.

I love looking on Rightmove too. we are hoping to move next year as well.

Oh banana - it couldn't just be one way or the other for you could it? Sorry your stuck waiting again. I hope obviously that it is just a slow one and your levels have doubled on Saturday, but if not then fx this is all quickly resolved for you and you can start the next plan. Xx

I'm sorry banana, big hugs to you xx

Hi All

Hope you don't mind me dropping in again. I posted earlier in the thread that we were waiting for DPs divorce to come through so that we can start IUI (legally has to be divorced before treatment starts here in Switzerland). Thankfully it is finally through so contacted the hospital to let them know we can begin, typically the professor is on holiday when I am due AF this month so unless the 2 be in command has time we may need to wait another month! Soooo frustrating! I just want to get going!

for banana

Banana and big hug to you brave lady.

Sorry to hear the blood test wasn't conclusive Banana

Today's squinter. Because who doesn't love pissing on things??!!

I can see a line!!

I can see a line banana! Are you hopeful? Surely 13dpo is a very sensible time to get a slight positive after bfn at 12dpo (I hear this is a thing after reading a lot of mumsnet!) and I for one am cautiously optimistic that that line will get darker and darker over the next few days.
Good luck!!

Ooh, I can definitely see it without even clicking on the pic- FX very tightly Banana!

Omg yes I can see something too banana! Go get frers!!!