Failure stories

[BipBippadotta]

I'm far past the point where I'm interested in fertility success stories. Tales of lucky couples who triumphed over impossible biological odds to have their miracle baby make me want to self-immolate. Help me feel less alone in my utter irreversible barrenness by telling me about all the fertility treatments, supplements, folk remedies, voodoo, etc you've tried, that work for every other fucker on the Internet, but did bugger all for you.

I'll start!

Things that didn't work for us:
Grapefruit juice
Guaifeneisin
COQ10
Acupuncture
Vitamin E
Royal jelly
Wheatgrass
Pycnogenol
Low carbing
Inositol & melatonin
Cutting caffeine and alcohol
L-Arginine
Baby aspirin
Maca
B6
Starflower oil
Soy isoflavones
Clomid for DH (to increase sperm count)
Clomid for me
Clomid & injectables
High doses of antibiotics
Prednisone
IVF with ICSI

Bean I've got everything crossed for your EC tomorrow. Have you got some sexy IVF socks?

Blue hope the scan goes well tomorrow. Let us know?

Again that is so upsetting and frustrating. I so hope you have some better news soon.

Hi to everyone else.

Just popping my head in to say that I'm still here following the thread. I'm just keeping my head down and am in self preservation mode. Managing my anxiety recently has been really hard.

again, your story makes me furious and very sad. bip has nailed it in previous posts - care is just not joined up at all and there is no overall accountability. I'm so very sorry you've had to go through such awful sadness.

Waves to bip, robber and banana, you're all in my thoughts.

Good luck with EC tomorrow bean, thinking of you. Hope all continues to go well with your cycle blue. I'm impressed if you can hold out until OTD - mine was 16pt and there was no way I could wait that long.

I have awesome socks robber curtesy of banana. However I won't be allowed to wear them as having a GA and get forced to wear the sexy compression stockings. Thanks for good wishes folks. Am v nervous.

Hang in there, Tiger - the anxiety is dreadfiul, isn't it. Thinking of you.

Bean good luck for tomorrow - hoping for some nice plump eggs.

Someone needs to design lucky compression stockings, for those occasions when your lucky socks are forbidden. Banana how bout it?

Bean sock photo please!

Hey Tiger, I lurk on the 'after infertility' thread so I've been keeping up with your positive news and the same for the other ex-Mind numbers and Failure stories.

Bip I love the idea of lucky IVF compression stockings! Banana would be amazing at marketing them. We could put infertility slogans on, like 'Do I look 'relaxed' to you?', 'This is more romantic than sex on schedule', 'If this doesn't work I'll just go on holiday and get drunk'.

Good luck today, Bean

Thinking of you today Bean!

Thanks both.

Am home. 11 from one ovary. Right only had one and they couldn't get it becuase of risk of bleeding. Sperm sample not great today so I guess it's good we are already planned for icsi.

That's a good crop from one ovary! Hope you're feeling OK and got everything crossed for a good fert rate.

What a haul! Hope you're not feeling too woozy after the op. Fingers crossed for the next few days!

That's great Bean.

I love the idea of those socks Robber, I would buy them!

So I had my scan today and there are follicles! I think there are 6 on one side and 7 on the other. Some are large (17mm) but there are a lot of smaller ones that need to catch up, so they are going to increase my dose. I was waiting for them to call to advise my new dose of Gonal F but they haven't got in touch yet so I'll contact them first thing. I finished all the Menopur I had yesterday and was told I would be dispensed more after today's scan, and then I could take today's dose. I should have taken it at the clinic when the nurse dispensed it but I forgot. So I went to work and had to shoot up in the disabled toilet 😳💉 So dodgy! Next scan on Friday.

What a set of results! Congratulations Bean and Blue .

Bean when will you next hear from the clinic? Blue good luck for Friday.

I've just had a call. By some miracle Ok so I have 10 that have been injected. Range of qualities but 7 def looked good. Mr beanhunter's sample less good but they aren't concorned as they swam through the medium they use to challenge them. They are in the camera and I'll know more tomorrow. Shells look thick so likely having assisted hatching. Can't actually believe it. Especially only from one ovary and given that last Tuesday it looked like I might only get 3. So glad I pushed to discuss with the consultant even if it meant the nurses were pissed off. Not sure there's anything they can say now as the boss was clearly right.

Excellent bean!!! Such good news. I'm thrilled for you.

Keep us updated blue!

Bean whooop!! That's such good news, you so deserved some good luck

Yay for Bean and Blue !

Hope you're doing ok Bean, do you have a date for embryo transfer yet?

I'm staying in the same dose after all. The doctor I saw wasn't my consultant but they spoke afterwards and decided to keep it slow and steady. Hope things are looking good at the scan tomorrow.

Hi all. Basically I'm in complete shock. All 10 fertilised.
7 appear decent quality - some will need AH due to thicker shells. Some ok.
2 are very oval - will def need hatching and would be a lower preference but apparently can make blast.
1 very big. Has fertilised but embryologist is concerned the egg might not be great but watching to see.
Aiming for day 5 transfer but with daily updates and will obviously change that if necessary some hopefully she will hatch them on Saturday and transfer Monday.

Fingers crossed for you blue. Remember this time last week the consultant and nurse thought I'd be lucky to get 3 eggs and I couldn't believe how much difference the high dose made, especially as I didn't have any symptoms at all.

Yay Bean, that's fabulous news! Take it easy x

Fab news bean. Thinking all kinds of dividing and hatching thoughts towards your embies.

Hang on in there bluerose

Bean that's great news.

I had my first bereavement counselling session since my failed IVF and the counsellor said she was surprised I even went for IVF so soon after my son's death and wasn't surprised it had failed.

I'm just so desperate to be pregnant and I had all my happiness pinned on being pregnant when my due date in December rolled around.

We've decided to take a break with the baby making (both natural and artificial) and will start the process again in the new year.

That means I can be really drunk and out of it over Christmas

Bean Excellent news! I'm also amazed how much info they've given you about your eggs /embryos. I just got grades.

Again what a weird thing for the counsellor to say - IVF doesn't work or not depending on your emotional state. That's one of those annoying, unscientific ideas people are constantly wheeling out about fertility (see also 'just relax and it'll happen'). I used to get really pissed off when people would tell me I'd miscarried because I wasn't 'ready' or 'strong enough' after my daughter's death. The fact is I miscarried because the embryo had chromosomal abnormalities. Nothing could have prevented it. Feeling like people blamed me / my 'weakness' / my grief / my inability to wait just made me feel shittier than I already did. I really hope you didn't come away from the session feeling you'd done something wrong.

Some people feel a powerful urge to try again immediately after a late loss (I certainly did); others feel it's the last thing they can contemplate. It's a hugely personal choice & not anyone else's place to comment on.

Bring drunk and out of it over Christmas does sound nice though! Hope you're able to take it easy and look after each other when your due date arrives.

So the scan went well and I'm having egg collection on Monday!

Good news blue. And what a weird appt again?

Afm feeling a bit deflated this morning. Jus had the call and they want to do a day 3 double transfer. Apparently there are 2 that are much better than the others. 7 others are still dividing. 1 hasn't divided.
I assumed with the numbers we had we would get to blast and now I don't know how to feel.

I can see why you're feeling deflated, Bean - but though those 2 better-performers would be the most likely to make blast anyway, and they are better off in you than a petri dish. If the other 7 keep going there may also end up being some to freeze. When we had IVF we had 11 eggs injected and only 2 fertilised normally. So you're still very much in the running.

Excellent news, Blue