Infertility Rant!

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Thread two moving on from infertility meltdown!
Feel free to join us to rant about any part of the infertility journey

An update..
The hospital just phoned and only one egg has fertilised, which is a bit disappointing. But it only takes one! They're transferring tomorrow morning, I hope it survives til then. I'm keeping all my fingers and toes crossed xxx

Thanks shellster. On day nine on uss my follicles were I think about 20 mms?? Basically at that point I think the consultant must have realised they had missed the boat as they couldn't do the egg collection for another 2 days. It is upsetting to have so much faith and money invested in the process and feel that they let u down isn't it. I am 40 every egg is precious!!! Fascinated to hear what they have to say. Excited to try again but the trust has gone a bit. Congrats on your bfp and thanku for some answers xx

Keep positive Tasha (easier said than done I know) and take it easy. Wishing you and your little embryo all the luck in the world xx

Thank you so much

Oh bollocks Tasha. I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed that this one survives until transfer too.

Yes, very very disappointing to feel that they let you down Entourage, and I can understand even more feeling like you don't want to wait a few more months to try again when you are 40 and time is precious. I totally agree that the faith and trust goes. I think with the first IVF, you know no better and just trust the clinic, but after my first IVF was a disaster I realised at the end of the day, the one who cares the most is us and I did a lot of my own research and made my own decisions. For example, I read studies like this one showing that FSH at time of trigger increases fertilisation rate. My clinic had no clue about this but I figured it makes sense since in a natural cycle the body gives you a boost of FSH along with LH before you ovulate, and this study seemed like the latest research and my clinic was just not up with it, so I just took FSH along with my Pregnyl without telling them!

Fingers crossed for your one embryo tasha

Sorry to hear about your crap treatment entourage and this was in the private sector?! Sounds like you need to find another clinic! You must be so angry and upset. Hugs x

Thanks chopsface. Yes it was the private/nhs clinic in leeds but I had to go private as am single!! I don't know how to handle it from now on. Seeing a different consultant this afternoon and hope I get some answers. Otherwise I will have to look elsewhere. Been so comforting to hear from u lot!!

Hello you lovely ladies,

My embryo made it to a 4 cell and was transferred yesterday it didn't want to go in (the catheter couldn't get through my cervix so they had to snip and clamp it open, not pleasant!) but he got in eventually! I'm now on that dreaded 2 week wait and test on 30th sept. Please all keep your fingers and toes crossed for me and I'll keep you posted xxx

Oh brilliant! I was relieved to have them transferred. U can take control now!! Be thinking of u Tasha xx

So glad your embryo made it tasha that's great news :-)

Hi girls. sorry I've been missing, mumsnet won't load on my phone for some reason and so I thought the website was down again!

How is everyone? Xx

Congrats on making it to transfer Tasha. I'll cross everything xox

Hello sammy :)

Shell! How are you? How far along are you now? Xx

I am well thank your sammy. I mean, I have some nausea but I come on here and read your stories and it brings to the fore all my past feelings when I was doing failed IVF cycle after failed IVF cycle. So I am grateful and just 'sucking up' the nausea. I'll be 14 weeks this Saturday.

I met up with 2 girls I have not seen in a while yesterday. They knew the basics of my struggling to conceive. Last time we met, one of them was talking about trying for a second. She was 40! I thought at last I would have someone in real life who understood. Yet it turns out she is pregnant and about to turn 41 in Feb. And the other was pregnant too and is now 40! Yet I struggled from age 35 and had to endure 11 IVF attempts and am now in debt to get my baby. I hoped I would be over the infuriation at the unfairness of it all but it's obviously something that is part of me know as I was still upset by this.

Tasha beautiful, how are you coping with the two week wait?

Goodness me shell did your friends have no trouble getting preg at 40/41?? I've got a 40 year old in my antenatal exercise group who had been TTC 9 years and had given up "and got cats" and a 39 year old who got married recently and thought they'd better try straight away and got preg straight away! It's so bizarre how people's journeys to parenthood differ.

Hope your 2ww isn't too bad tasha when is test date? Everything crossed!

There just seems to be no rhyme or reason to conception chops. When I heard my friend was trying for her second at 40, I knew the stats and her slim chances. But that threw the stats out the window with both of them conceiving. How do you find it chops when you hear of others conceiving easily? Are you totally okay with it now that you have your baby, or do you still find it a bit infuriating when others conceive easily while you went through month after month of tears. I guess my journey was a bit longer at 4 years and I endured 11 IVF's, so maybe I still hold more resentment than you.

I didn't have to endure any treatment thank goodness. But no, I feel no resentment towards anyone who conceived easily. I like to think I'm a laid back person. Maybe it is since I became preg? I was a bit of a mess TTC and my thoughts were probably very different, but they've vanished now! I'm now worrying what kind of a mother I will be and realised I know absolutely zero about babies lol!

I am glad for you that you feel no resentment and are able to just enjoy your pregnancy chops. I remember having thoughts about being a mother for the first time but now that I've done it and this is my second, all of my thoughts are focused on getting through that thing called labor! I am sure you will be busy after the baby comes, but if you have 5 minutes you will have to pop back and let me know how you went.

Hi girls, well I'm on to day 8 of pills and jabs now with a scan on Monday. I'm already terrified it's not going to work, shell - how on earth did you cope 11 times? Xx

Sammy - just wanted to say good luck!! I'll be in hospital most of tomorrow for my pre-op and then back Tuesday for the c section :-) can't pretend I'm not terrified but I think slightly less terrified than going for a natural birth…..

And good luck to all of you ladies on here, whatever stage you're at in your TTC journey - not sure when I'll be back on MN, but hope to update you at some point on how the birth went & of course how the twins are!!

Omg! ruby! How the weeks have flown!! Very best of luck with the birth of the twins hun. Please do report back when you can x x

sammy fingers crossed that this will be you in 9 months. X x

Thanks Ruby!
I can't believe you're having the babies already, time has flown! Wishing you loads of luck, and yes please let us know how you all are, and what you call the babies :). Xx

I remember being in the middle of another IVF cycle sammy with all the stress is brings and thinking 'what on earth am I putting myself through this again for!'. But after each failure, my only options were repeat IVF or face DS never having a sibling and dreading him getting older and asking me why everyone else has one and he doesn't. The first option seemed the better of the two so that's why I kept insanely going back. Let me know how your scan goes.

Yes, funny how the infertility journey goes glacial slow, but the pregnancy time flies by! Looking forward to hearing an update ruby.

chops, when are you due? I've lost track of where you are at.

I'm 30 weeks shell! Due a Christmas baby

Well that's a lovely present for you chops (er, although you might not think that at the time of labor!)

Hope your scan went well sammy?