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Anyone starting IVF soon? Join me (3)

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purplemeggie · 15/04/2015 10:17

Ha! I was just about to post the last message in the old thread linking to this, but I'm too late, we've already filled it up! I'll do the same as last time and send PMs to everyone who's been on the thread recently, but everyone's welcome Smile

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purplemeggie · 01/05/2015 12:22

So sorry Lucie - it's miserable when it doesn't work out. So much worse than when you're ttc naturally, because you invest so much additional hope in the process. I really feel for you x

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lucieloos · 01/05/2015 12:25

Thank you purple x

Edenviolet · 01/05/2015 14:03

lucie so sorry you are so upset, like purple says though many people don't get bfp till the day AF is due so you never know. I understand why you feel like you do though, its different as we know each cycle is the only chance we have for a bfp till the next cycle, which given the costs etc is never a certainty.
I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Big hugs Flowers

lucieloos · 01/05/2015 14:07

Thanks waiting. When is AF due with an ivf cycle though? It's not meant to come until I stop the progesterone is it? Im just exhausted today. Have cried so much. I will try again though as soon as we have enough money.

Edenviolet · 01/05/2015 14:19

I'd have assumed roughly after 14 days but like you say an ivf cycle may be different, its hard to know but some people do get late bfps.

I had to call my clinic today, I'm meant to be on clexane till sat and they said to expect a bleed withing 7-10 days after my ec (sun) but I woke up bleeding very heavily today so they've advised I stop the clexane now and see how I am.

lucieloos · 01/05/2015 14:24

Thanks waiting, I'm not expecting too much now but I know there is a small chance.

When are you planning to have your FET? Sorry I know you have said before but my head is all fuzzy now lol.

BlueKarou · 01/05/2015 14:26

Sorry it's looking bad, lucie. It's not over until it's over, but I can see why your hopes are low. You've got another 5 days until your test day, the cycle's not quite finished yet.

lucieloos · 01/05/2015 14:28

Thanks Blue I'm having a blood test on Tuesday to confirm.

Edenviolet · 01/05/2015 15:53

I have to have this bleed which they said is not an actual period and then wait till I get my next AF to start the fet which may or may not be medicated.
I'm going to make my follow up appt for about three weeks time to go through it all as I have a lot of questions

Blackandwhitecat3 · 01/05/2015 20:49

I'm not really chilled, purple had a really stressful week at work!

I'm not going to test till Weds, that way I can live in blissful ignorance for a few days more.

Lucie really hope yours is a false neg.

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purplemeggie · 01/05/2015 22:54

Lucie did you go for cyclogest in the end? I spotted from about 3 days before AF would normally be due with all my failed cycles on cyclogest. I got AF exactly when due. I still haven't given up hope for you x

Cat sometimes having other things on your mind can be a good thing. Hope you're not too stressed and that you get your +ve x

How are you doing Waiting? How's everyone else?

I'm having an interesting week. My niece (early twenties) came to see me to tell me she's having a baby. I'm genuinely delighted for her - we're very close and she has wanted for a long time. She was also bey worried about telling me, bless her
Ds got quite upset though and says he wished it was our baby Sad. Whilst I fully believe I can come to terms with this for me, I don't think I will ever learn to live with his distress.

I'm waiting for AF so I can start my meds for the FET. Would have been today if this was anything low like a normal cycle. Slight cramping but nothing else - and that could easily be the hour of 1:1 yoga yesterday out the unexpected rowing I did with ds and his friend today!

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bluemoonday · 01/05/2015 22:58

lucie sorry to hear about the bfn. I know how disappointed you must feel. As everyone says, it's worth testing again in a couple of days...although it's tough to hold on to hope.

Take some time to cry, rant and feel crap. IVF is grim, it's so easy to get your hopes up despite the rubbish odds. Take it easy for a few days.

I started clexane, prednisone and the progesterone today in preparation for my FET on Weds. This cycle has been weirdly nothing so far, hopefully my relaxed state will have a positive effect and chill out my womb...

bluemoonday · 01/05/2015 22:58

lucie sorry to hear about the bfn. I know how disappointed you must feel. As everyone says, it's worth testing again in a couple of days...although it's tough to hold on to hope.

Take some time to cry, rant and feel crap. IVF is grim, it's so easy to get your hopes up despite the rubbish odds. Take it easy for a few days.

I started clexane, prednisone and the progesterone today in preparation for my FET on Weds. This cycle has been weirdly nothing so far, hopefully my relaxed state will have a positive effect and chill out my womb...

lucieloos · 01/05/2015 23:06

Thanks purple, no I went for crinone in the end. I have found them very easy to use and no spotting as yet. Shouldn't the cyclogest should be keeping AF away until you stop taking them?

Blackandwhitecat3 · 02/05/2015 12:31

Royal baby alert. Take cover peeps!

Edenviolet · 02/05/2015 13:34

Hope everyone is doing ok or as well as possible today.
I'm currently in bed debating whether I should go to a+e as have been in a lot of pain and bleeding heavily all day. Taken some nurofen and paracetamol and lying down so hopefully that will help but if the bleeding doesn't calm down I think I may need to see a Dr.
Pretty sure I don't have an infection as no temperature and only just finished antibiotics yesterday. Feeling very sorry for myself

lucieloos · 02/05/2015 19:27

Waiting hope you are ok? Are you feeling any better now? Did you go to a&e?

Tested again 8dp5dt with a frer, huge bfn, absolutely nothing. I'm calling it a day now. Blood test in a couple of days to confirm and then I can come off these horrible crinone gels. They are making me so tired I can barely function. Thanks for all your support. We are obviously very disappointed but will hopefully try again in the summer.

Edenviolet · 02/05/2015 21:12

I'm ok, slept till about 5pm and woke up with minimal pain, still a huge amount of bleeding but will keep an eye on that. I'm sure it was because it began whilst I was still having clexane injections. I feel well and truly wiped out.
Also managed to make an idiot of myself when DM called to tell me about the royal baby leaving hospital and I for some reason burst into floods of tears Blush

So sorry that you got another bfn lucie there's nothing I can say except that its bloody unfair and we all deserve some luck on this thread. I really hope you start to feel a bit better once you stop the crinone gels Flowers

lucieloos · 02/05/2015 21:45

Thanks waiting it's not easy is it. You have had a tough time of it lately too. Hope you start to feel better soon x

Blackandwhitecat3 · 03/05/2015 08:20

Ok, so I caved in. POAS. There's a line! Not a big fat one, but a faint but sure P! Smile

lucieloos · 03/05/2015 08:21

Congrats cat that's brilliant news for you!

Blackandwhitecat3 · 03/05/2015 09:07

Thanks Lucie, we're just hoping it sticks. Sorry that it wasn't the same for you. Flowers

How are you feeling this morning waiting?

Edenviolet · 03/05/2015 15:25

Fantastic news cat ! So pleased for you x

I'm ok but still bleeding a lot so keeping an eye on that but its hard to know how much is too much ?? If it carries on all day I think I will have to contact the clinic again

bluemoonday · 03/05/2015 17:02

Congratulations cat! Brilliant news, a positive is a positive no matter how faint it is!

Shellster52 · 03/05/2015 23:07

Yes, a positive is definitely positive no matter how faint! How many days past transfer was it that you tested cat?

lucie, I am just so gutted for you. I really thought you were on the home stretch once you got not one but two top quality embryos transferred. And with you being 35, I was really thinking your odds were looking the best. There's just no rhyme or reason to this. After having had 10 IVF failures myself, you can imagine how much research I've done. I've read things like optimal chance of implantation when lining is between 9-14mm and now take Viagra during my IVF to thicken my thin lining. I've read about the scratch which I now do before an IVF cycle. So there are things you can do to feel like there is hope for next time. You are still processing the emotions of this IVF now but when you are ready and moving towards your next attempt, I am happy to chat.

Speaking of emotions, that must be difficult purple seeing how upset your husband is by all this. My husband just doesn't get it and I have to make up excuses why I don't want to go and see his brother and brothers wife who don't work and are now pregnant with their 4th, as hubby just wouldn't understand. I never thought of the other side of the coin about how horrible I would feel for him if he desperately wanted this. You've still got 3 embryos there and not out yet, but I can imagine it would make you feel a bit of pressure for your body to perform and implant one.

waiting, hope you are feeling better. On a positive note, getting this bleed earlier than expected brings your FET one week closer.

So you're next blue in the 2ww. Yes, it does all seem very chilled doesn't it. There's no anxious wait for a day 2 scan to see how many are there, then counting down til the next one to see how many are growing, no waiting nervously for phone calls with embryo updates. Can't wait to hear Wednesday when your embryo has survived it's journey back to your womb. I just so want this to work. It seems a top quality embryo and logically there's no reason why it shouldn't, but after all our bad luck, it's hard to remember that.