The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

[PhoenixFromTheFlames]

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

Yea almost as long as yours hopefully you will have brought the hut some
Luck

Oh I hope so pinky! :)

Hello folks! How are we all doing? Hope you're not feeling too psychotic pink and huge congratulations faith

I'm back from a very relaxing week in the sun and gearing up for our second appointment on Tuesday. Apparently this is the one where they explain everything to us properly. I was too scared to ask about timeframes for actually starting treatment last time in case they said it would be months so I'm a bit nervous about that.

Bought some new supplements yesterday (Vit D as recommended by my acupuncturist, Folic Acid and Iron+Vit C as I'm a bit anaemic according to the last round of bloods) and on the wagon again so raring to go! Apart from lots of protein is there anything else I should be doing/taking?

Devil I'm glad you had a lovely week away. Fingers crossed that everything goes well for you tomorrow - maybe go in with the expectation that treatment won't start for a year or something and then you'll be positively surprised?!

I'm feeling slightly low atm as I found out this weekend that one of my friends is pg - I'm massively excited for her, but the thing that bums me out a bit is that she wasn't even trying - a "happy mistake". If only it could be that easy...

1st injection of Humira successfully completed. Next one in two weeks, then a blood test three weeks after that. If my cytokines drop I'll then be OK to cycle. Going to be keeping my fingers crossed over the next 6 weeks until I know.

Faith I know I said congrats on another thread, but it bears saying again. Good luck for the next 9 months! x

Devil apparently full fat milk is the thing to drink a lot of whilst stimming. That and lots of water. Good luck!

summer two of my friends are due in the next month, another friend is talking about trying for her 4th, another is due at Xmas... the only thing that keeps me going is the thought it will be our chance one day.

Keeping fingers crossed for you as well delilah. I know I'm very lucky in that I'm the first of my group of friends my age to TTC so don't have to deal with pregnancy announcements a lot. I can only imagine what it feels like to have friends trying for their 4th... but you are right, it will be your chance one day, hopefully with this upcoming cycle...

2 weeks till my next cycle... Nasal spray is doing my swede! Had enough nearly sick with the spray. What's the things about the full fat milk and stimming? Do tell :-)

Thanks summer, do you think cream counts as well?

IIRC whole milk in Switzerland has almost the same fat content as single milk in the UK so you're all set :) (ok, slight exaggeration, but never mind...)

for single milk read single cream, doh...

We start next cycle ! DH's last test results came back normal so we're being treated as unexplained infertility. Consultant wants to do half the eggs as IVF and half as ICSI (depending on numbers etc) and provided we get a good quality embryo thinks I should have SET.

I'm off to get some cream

Wohoo!!!

So this autumn...
Flixy is seeing the private endo, devil will be IVF/ICSI-ing, delilah will touch wood be IVF-ing and I'm starting clomid. Have I missed anyone? On my reckoning that means there's got to be some very good news in the hut by Christmas...

Don't forget pink who is currently sniffing her way through cycle 2......

Argh pink was in my head but clearly not on the page! Sorry pink... I was thinking of you I promise!

Thanks summer yup definitely some good news for Christmas fingers crossed! Ivfit cream and when I start stimming on the 5th in certainly going to try the milk thing while milk? That th blue one dh and I only get the red but work get an abundance of blue as its a nursery so should be able to borrow a pint a day :-) Hope this one works!

That's such good news about the normal results this is my 2nd cycle but 1st ICSI so well see... Any confirmed dates for anyone yet?

Hello all. Sorry to have been more lurky than anything recently, but amazing to see some great news on the thread!

So after a little nagging all first round tests are under way, blood tests for me, and a SA for DH (who seems a little shifty about it all, have consoled him with the thought that it is most likely as undignified as it gets for him, whereas I have to look forward to many more undignified moments, up to and including stirrups).

Hope you are all enjoying summer. We're off to friends for the bank holidays for a big get together. There will be a lot of children there, which will be fine, but am steeling myself for lots of 'when will it be your turn' type comments, and people complimenting DH on how good he is with kids; he is, it's one of the things that kills me about all of this - we waited for my career, and now I feel somehow that I've denied him something he's obviously great at and really wants.

Small mercy - AF arrived this week, so now am no longer clinging to the agonising optimism that this was our month despite the odds, I can numb the pain with gin (medicinal quantity only).

Hi Chair. I'm glad you've got all the tests going. Not sure if your DH has gone in for his SA yet - if not, reassure that him that according to my DH the actual process is totally fine and we had a good chuckle over a little "call nurse if in need of assistance" button in the room where he had to provide the sample :)

I hope you enjoy the get together and I know just where you're coming from re your DH being good with kids - mine is exactly the same, and all our family members go on and on about what a fantastic Dad he will be. And he will, I know - one of the reasons I fell in love with him in the first place, ironically enough!

Are your friends close enough that you can tell them you're having some difficulties with conception? I've told pretty much all my friends now and it hasn't been a big deal at all - my closest friends know the whole story but for those I'm less close with I just say something light hearted like "well, my body isn't really working like it's supposed to at the moment, so at some point, but probably no time soon." It stops people asking and, you never know, some of your friends may have even gone through something similar?

(That said I still haven't plucked up the courage to tell MIL yet...)

Hi Summer. Our hospital has a 'do it at home' policy, so no comedy to be found from assisting nurses, but plenty in the instructions to keep it in his pocket while transporting it, to keep them at the correct temperature. Oh and to drive like the wind to make sure they get there within the hour. Goodness knows what people who live further away do, perhaps there's a lay-by somewhere full of furtive looking men!

I'm not sure we want to tell too many people just yet, think we kind of want some answers first if possible, so we know what we're dealing with. My DM knows we're trying so will be able to deduce from the lack of news that it might not be going too well, so hopefully she might be able to deflect - she scarcely feels old enough to have a daughter in her 30s, so perhaps she can pull the not old enough to be a GM yet line...

I'm with you on the in-laws thing - I can't even contemplate thinking about telling MIL - DH's family are all uber fertile with babies everywhere, so not sure that's a conversation either of us are ready for just yet.

Hello chair... It's good that the balls rolling for you and things will soon get sorted in sure.

Bank holiday woohoo not got anything to exciting planned but 3 days off is a god send after a hectic week hops everyone enjoys it

Well don't know about everyone else but this bank holiday is a total wash out, the weather is horrific! And payday is Wednesday so I don't even have any money for retail therapy, boo!

Had a lovely bank hol despite the grizzly weather but DH now away on work til Friday, boo. Am just hoping that this week flies by (and the next one, please, so I can go back to the fertility clinic!)

How was your event, Chair?

When's your endo appointment, Flixy?

Morning all. Weekend away was great ? it was good to get away and the few ?ooh, you?re getting broody?/?My DIL is a career girl too, she?s not having children either? type comments were off-set by the timely reminder that while we don?t have children, nor do we have something which produces ear splitting screams between the hours of 04:30 and 07:00.
I quite enjoyed my afternoon nap in the silence when we got home?

DH booking in for SA test this week, so hopefully we?ll have an idea of next steps in September, and can start to plan. As big planners, the inability to plan properly has been one of the toughest things about all of this uncertainty.

That's the worst thing for us too chair we just want a holiday really but can't quite bring myself to take a break from ttc or I think we'd be wasting time just keep in keeping on I suppose and have a holiday another time

My app with the endo is next Wednesday summer, hoping he'll up my meds!

Ooh DH and I were talking last nite about big plans and holidays, I'd love to book a 'big' holiday for next year, but there's always the niggling doubt that we'll book it and then I'll get a + pee stick and the money will have been 'wasted'. On the other hand, I don't want to put my life on hold forever 'just in case.....'.

We are big planners too but are just carrying on as if I won't conceive - to the extent that I'm working towards a career change next year and we've got a ski holiday booked for March (albeit with fully refundable flights and hotel!)

Of course it's a different situation to yours pink because we don't currently have to be in and out of the clinic, but it was depressing me earlier this year to think that all I was aiming towards was getting pregnant, and now that I'm working towards other things unrelated to having children I feel like I've actually got a purpose in life again and I'm not failing, if that makes sense?

flixy, I'd say book the hol - if you're anything like me you will feel so, so happy to have it to look forward to, and most holidays would be okay with a foetus on board!

chair - it's always a relief to go back to a silent house after spending time with little kids :)