The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

[PhoenixFromTheFlames]

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

summer we too had a comprehensive questionnaire, but our Cons has dropped himslef in it by including a question he has absolutely no right to ask. Once I get past having to be under his care we are making an official complaint (i should qualify this by pointing out it's is in the remit of my husband's career to know this question is technically unlawful).
The previous pregancies and previous relationships Q was relevant to me, because my son is from a previous relationship.

Going to e-mail the secretary today and also get a GP appt.

I found it very invasive the questionnaire. My history was all with my ex husband and it was awful having to go through it with my OH plus his history was a MC with an ex something we both felt unhappy about discussing. I think they forget your people with feelings. It also asked about if we had children taking off us.

Hi all

Have been lurking just wanted to say huge congrats queen, will keep my fingers crossed for you! And good luck to all of you x

Ah maybe ours' wasn't that bad then.

Just had one of those lovely "so when are you giving us grandkids?" evenings with the ILs. The upside to these is it sort of puts me off having children, just to be difficult

Yep summer we've even had the 'so are you not even trying?!' question from my MIL and I found it very invasive. It just makes it all do much harder doesn't it?

My SIL (her daughter) is going through IVF so you'd think she'd be a tad more sensitive to the whole thing. My SIL finds out this week if she's pregnant or not. Can't help feeling a bit if she is, which is terribly unfair and mean, but I can't seem to help it.

Crikey, yes, you would definitely think she would be a bit more sensitive! I don't think my MIL even realises that people have to make an effort to get pregnant - my DH was born 9 months (pretty much to the day) after my ILs wedding, and his little brother came along about 14 months later. These facts come up A LOT in conversation.

Of course you'll be a bit if your SIL's IVF works, that's totally natural. It's neither unfair nor mean, as long as you're happy and excited to her face! Also, isn't it always good to get positive IVF stories? I recently found out my cousin was successful with her first round of IVF and it made me so happy - much happier than I've been at other cousins' pregnancy announcements - so that in itself was no doubt partly selfish.

Just found out the IVF failed Can't even imagine the devastation she feels.

Oh no, the poor thing. I'm sure it'll mean a lot to her to have you there for her.

Oh no.... She must feel awful it's times like this you are thankful for friends and family around you...

How are you queen, did u get through to the hospital?

I'm alright injection pen jammed this morning do had to use to needles not impressed!

Hey all queen congratulations, good news in the hut gives the rest of us hope.

flixy how horrible for her. I echo the others - be there for her if you can.

summer my inlaws have been told we can't have kids - luckily they already have grandchildren so we get to hassle there. My mum on the other hand... I have not told her about our fertility struggles and she is always dropping hints, grr.

As for me - I am waiting AF to get some more blood tests done. No sign yet (today is day 30, I normally come on on day 27 or 28) typically. Did a test so I'm not pregnant, my body is just messing me around. Grr.

I had a blood test yesterday for Beta HCG and am waiting for the hospital to get back to me to arrange an early scan to rule out ectopic.

Fingers are still crossed for you over here queen.

Got FX for you queen

Still no AF here. Have lots of cramps and wet CM. I am now playing the 'what if I am pregnant?' game in my head.

Unlikely though. I tested Wednesday am on an Internet cheapie and got BFN, but I am tempted to buy a FR or something if AF isn't here by lunch. Nothing more guaranteed to bring the witch on than POAS!

Hi

I have been lurking for a while. It thought I would join you all properly.
I am 35 and DH is 34, we have been TTC #2 for about 15 months now. DD was conceived after about 18 months (we don't know what we did differently that month!).

We had various tests last time but other than DH having low swimmers, we didn't figure out what the problem was.

We have got an appointment at the local fertility unit on Monday.

We are trying to stay relatively 'relaxed' (I got a bit overwhelmed when we were trying for DD) but are giving it extra effort for a few months- vitamins, reflexology, more exercise and less wine, and extra SWIing.

Look forward to speaking to you

Welcome Fidget the hut is a great (?!) place to be, loads of support. Hopefully your stay here will be short :)

Anyway, rant follows, got to get it out and don't want to bitch to people in real life!

Bit fed up here - out for coffee with my friends and one of them started going on about acupuncture. Apologies if you believe in it, but I think it's a bit woo, although good for stress relief. Anyway, I didn't say that, just made agreeable noises about it's helpful properties, when she turns to me and said 'You haven't really tried everything though, have you? You haven't tried acupuncture, even though I've suggested it in the past. Maybe you don't really want a baby'

I must admit I saw red. I told her I found that offensive given she knows how much time/money/emotional heartache has been spent on treatment, and that if acupuncture could restore my missing tube and make the other one free of scar tissue I'd do it like a shot.

Much awkwardness, smoothed over by my other lovely friend. But honestly, what a cowbag! This friend is the one I've posted about loads on here, always late, unreliable, likes social events to be about her. I now never meet her one on one, but do include her in invites etc. I think that might be changing from now on.

Oh I have been reading all your stories and have been up and down with you all here in lurkland!

God it's all just so hard :(

My DH and I have been trying for 4 years, have had 3 m/c's, one was from IVF, my bro and SIL conceived the exact same time as in the IVF one but they had their baby in April... Heartbreaking, and two of my other SILs are pg with #2 on an Oops we didnt mean to get pg again yet!

thats just the tip of the iceberg but dont want to ramble on the first post too much

I used to be nicknamed chirpy when I was younger cos was always in a good mood and now am bitter bad tempered old cow...

Thank you for listening x

Welcome to fidget and chokey. Fidget, I hope your appointment on Monday goes well/gives you some answers. Chokey, you poor love, I'm so sorry to hear about your m/c's. I can't even imagine how much that hurts. I hope you both get to leave the hut before too long.

delilah - I cannot believe your 'friend' said that to you. She sounds utterly toxic and...yes...perhaps best left off invitations. I'm glad you did see red though - some people make hurtful comments like that without ever realising how dreadful they've been.
I actually tried acupuncture in a misguided attempt to bring my periods back. Tbh I only felt more relaxed after the first session; beyond that, I just felt annoyed at myself for wasting £40 a go and not having the balls to cancel my next appointment!

Welcome to the newbies I echo what's been said in that I hope your stays not a long one... I had a short lived break from the loveable hut before mc brought me back

Now mid ivf cycle black and blue from bruises with the new gonal f pen I think they've made it more brutal grrrr

Trying to write an essay on child poverty needless to say its not going well so I thought I'd come on here and check in hehe

Boooo to the gonal f pen! I read your posts from earlier pinkapples I am so sorry :( thank you for the welcome!

summer thank you for your lovely welcome too. I actually really like acupuncture, I guess it's not for everyone though :) you could call and say something has come up and you will have to cancel the appointment but will get back to them... And then don't haha. I think it depends who you go to as well, mine studied for years and years in China so knows his stuff :)

Hi ladies, thought I'd drop by and say hello. Not much happening in my world. Went to a wedding yesterday and there was a couple there that we tactfully avoided when we saw them as we came out our first infertility appointment, they had just had their first scan, we didn't speak as neither DH or I can tolerate the guy, he's a complete moron. Anyway they were at the wedding with a very big bump. We obviously weren't the only ones who think he's a moron as no one spoke to them all night :/

DElilah your friend sounds a right insensitive cow, how rude. I think I'd wallop someone who said something like that to me so good on you for pulling her up on it.

Hope everything goes ok when you have your scan queen, fingers crossed for you, well, everything crossed for you in fact!!!!

Pink poor you and your bruises, I can imagine its a bit brutal. It's one thing I'm really not looking forward to, I don't like needles, I think DH will have to do it.!!

Hi to everyone else! Can't believe it's back to work tomorrow :( weekends go so quickly, as is the whole year. It's now 4 weeks until holiday and 18 weeks til my follow up appt. with the consultant. :) I know now we won't catch naturally so I just want to get in there and get referred.

Chilled out night for me hanging out on the sofa with hubby and my 2 dogs watching mrs browns boys

Hope everyone had a good weekend

Raspberry the needles aren't what bothers me its the keeping it in for 10 seconds after its gone on makes it hurt loads

How's things queen?

Ick that's horrible for you pink, I hope you line up treats for straight after :/

Hello! Another lurker popping her head in. Was thinking of queenrollo and hoping there'd be some positive news on here today.

TTC#1, am 34, DH 44 - 2.5yrs now. In the system, but it's ever so slow, have had a fertility nurse appt./ SAs / bloods two mths ago - but no face time with a doc till September so no clue as yet. Really struggling these past couple of months, starting to make things tense with me and DH as well..
ExBF (still a good friend) called yesterday to tell us he and DW are 15wks, he's going to be a wonderful dad and I'm theoretically so thrilled for them. But feel like I've been in physical pain since that call. My back and shoulders ache and I just want to weep.

my scan showed the pregnancy is where it should be and even though it's very early days they could see the fetal pole and a heartbeat, so very good news here indeed.
now getting onto the system with the Community Midwife? that's a whole other battle I am about to commence!

Awww so happy for you queen congratulations again!