The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

[PhoenixFromTheFlames]

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

I'm ignoring the pain ( it has settled a litte) and off shopping for last bits for hols then I am off to parents with a deck chairs and table as its my dads bday and he needs stuff for his allotment. Then packing so busy day ahead but the sun is shining so have a smile on my face

carrie

Clomid's main and only job is to make the ovaries work harder. If there is definitive proof you are ovulating then clomid can have the opposite effect. You should also be monitored carefully whilst on it as it is quite powerful stuff.

Also clomid does not address the underlying endometriosis and or your other half's male factor issues. I would be asking them some tough questions as to the overall management of your treatment; I personally think that its poor and they don't really know what to do with you.

BTW is this clinic a private practice?.

Its not private its nhs and clomid is our last option its that or IVF which we don't have the funds for

Yes pink was luffly with a brew!!

Was feeling a bit down today despite the weather which so isn't like me but had a BBQ, sat out in the sun and had a good long chat with DH about TTC and family and stuff feel a bit better now.

I'm glad everyone's been out enjoying the sunshine. I was stuck indoors for the first half of the day at a training session for a charity I'm going to be volunteering for, but outside for some walking & Magnums in the p.m.

I had a good chat with DH about TTC today too - I realised that if I'd got pregnant within the 'normal' timeframe I wouldn't be able to volunteer for this charity, or go back to uni in the autumn, or a bunch of other things that are on the horizon. I felt pretty at peace and 'what will be will be' about things afterwards... though I am still in the early days, expect I won't be quite so calm if still no BFP by this time next year.

blimey how nice has the weather been! Im sat in bed at the moment as its nice and cool in here. dreadful I know that as soon as the sun comes out I go to bed but we went for a walk and the heat makes me tired, I can only do small doses.

I've recovered from my mopeynuss of t'other week now, have been very emotional the last two days so I'm guessing my PMT is starting to kick in although no sore boobs this time so far. last period was much better after my endo was lasered so I have high hopes for this one being even better :/
Flixy may have also inspired me to go and make a cake although I think I only have one egg :( I ate 4 on friday and a couple yesterday, Im sure its not good to eat as many as I do but I soooo love poached egg on toast :)

just found out that student finance uk do not find postgraduate courses!! Very cross!! Not really sure what to do now tbh!

On the other side of the coin tablets ate going well only time will tell tho I suppose nasal spray starts on friday

Raspberry if you've got any ripe nanas you can substitute 1 mashed banana for 1 egg in a cake recipe.

Pink have you talked to your uni about funding? Maybe they can direct you somewhere other than Student Finance? What about the Student Loan Company (or is that the same thing as Student Finance & had a name change..)

Gah another pregnancy announcement from a friend. They are getting like busses! None and then two at once.

The last 2 nights I've had mega pain under my ribs and feeling sick so taking today off work. Going to be very lazy and catch up on some sleep I think.

hello ladies.

I'm getting ready to go on holiday on Thursday. Nothing much to report here, playing the waiting game again. AF due while we're away...

Summer yes there the same thing with a name change thinking loan from bank as its only £4,600 also didn't know about the egg/banana thing will Defo remember...

6 of our parents at nursery are pregnant, 2 just been born and one had a scan yesterday and found out she was having another boy makes it all the harder as I worked with her 1st and he's turned into such a star

Have fun on your holiday queen x

Hey all
I'm back! Settling into the new house, still surrounded by boxes - and looking forward to my appointment at on Wednesday to discuss another round of IVF... eek.
Only had internet a feww hours - lots to read and catch up on. x

Hey Delilah
Glad your all nearly sorted then... Good luck for Wednesday
I'm alright start the Synarel nasal spray today do a bit nervous I might not do it right
I'm sure it'll be alright tho

Ooh new house! Is it feeling like home yet?

I have a question for you all re once your doctor had referred you the first time round. I know there are very long waiting lists to see the gynae/fertility clinic but should I expect to get a call soon and then make an appointment way into the future, or should I expect to wait a few months for the call?

DH reckons I should call the fertility clinic just to ensure that the referral actually arrived, but I don't want to be a pest...

Glad to hear you're settling in Dee. I remember it took a whole for our bungalow to feel like home. Actually it's the same again. Our bungalow is finally ready! Been moving stuff over gradually but won't sleep there til Monday when we can get the bed over. I'm excited but nervous if I'm honest. Hope there ting re the ivf goes well :)
Good luck starting with the nasal spray pink. How long is it for/when do they do the actual ivf?
Hello to summer. When I was referred I got my appointment through choose and book. My GP agreed to refer me then a lady at the surgery told me when they could offer appointments and asked which hospital I wanted to go to. It was booked in the April and my appointment was for the July. If you're not doing chose and book they usually send the appt through within a couple of weeks. I wouldn't ring straight off, I'd wait to see if you get an appt and only ring if it's been over a fortnight personally.

I remember feeling very a bit teary when we moved into our new house, it just didn't feel like ours at all, but I love it now!

Hope everyone's looking forward to the long weekend, the Olympic flame is coming to my town on Sunday so going to see that pass, for all of, ooh, 30 seconds! It's also my birthday on Sunday the last one before I hit the big 30 so going for a nice dinner.

On my phone so can't see reference everyone's previous posts but good luck to anyone starting treatments/having appointments. I've been on my medication for a month now and although no AF yet, the other yucky symptoms have gone so something's working

Thanks faith - I think if I leave it til the end of next week it'll be a little over a fortnight, so if I haven't heard anything by then I'll give them a quick buzz.

Have a super long weekend all - very happy birthday to flixy and good luck with the final stage of the move/renovation (?) faith. I'm off to visit friends and family (who will now doubt pepper me with the "so when are you reproducing?" type questions, but never mind) down south, really really hoping for some sunshine!

Nasal spray is every day then stop 2 days before egg collection.

I need some thoughts ladies here goes...

Hubby was a smoker when we met 6 yrs ago I have never even tried it and hate to think of it so he stopped and 6 yrs in (after losing his job and us having a miscarriage) I just found out yesterday that he has smoked 3 in 5 weeks since it all happened. We had a big heart to heart last night and I said 6yrs ago I wouldn't have it. Now every time he's on his own ill wonder if he's out buying them or smoking them. Last night he through the pack and what was left and the lighter in the wheelie bin...

What to do ladies I never wanted to be with a smoker and thought it was something that I wouldn't have to deal with 6yrs smoke free ... Get over myself or what? I know it might be petty but It's something I feel really strongly about and it's been 6yrs without it!!!!!

Hey pink. DH is an ex-smoker too but caves when mega stressed or drunk. I sometimes just accept that he will have a cheeky one like last Saturday! but one brilliant compromise we found is these e-cigarettes that are disposable, have you seen them? You can get them at supermarkets - our Tesco has them at the customer service/tobacco counter and at the pharmacy. They feel like fags - plastic- they have vapour that gives nicotine but nothing else. He gets a sensation of smoking without the consequences. I discourage them from having them too much so it doesn't tempt him to smoke but it works quite well! Worth considering? Main thing is you need to tell him you're worried and that it upsets you but not so he thinks you're nagging not easy I know.

My house is looking good! All the curtains are up, the sofas are in place and the wardrobes are back in (big run that takes a while to fit together). I'm back in the rented house on my own while DH is on a stag do :( but scared of sleeping alone! Just praying the smoke detectors don't go off!

Got my blood tests back from the doctors.
FSH was 20 - stupidly high and perimenopausal.

Donor eggs the only real option.

Still going to appointment on Wednesday, but I already know ARGC won't let me cycle unless FSH is below 10.

Not sure how I feel.

:( delilah. How do you feel about donor eggs?

I don't know *Faith.... DH is keen, mainly because he will have a genetic link (and was worried he wouldn't 'bond' without this if we adopt) and also because you can be guaranteed, as near as possible, that it would not have alcohol/drug/attachment issues which are so common in adoptees - and which frankly I don't know if I am brave enough to take on.

We are going to keep our appointment at ARGC and see what they say, I am not entirely sure how long the wait for donor eggs in this country is. I would consider going abroad for treatment, to Barcelona or Athens, but then with full anonymity existing over there, your child would never know one half of it's bio heritage, so DH thinks that could be a worry. Much less of a wait though as there are more donors, and much cheaper too (with a holiday thrown in!)

Weirdly I feel almost relieved - its now final, I won't ever have to take the horrid stimming drugs again, and the world hasn't ended. This isn't a total surprise as my sister has POF and hit the menopause in her early 20's - so a possible genetic link. Given this and a few other inherited medical issues its probably a good thing my rubbish genes don't get to propagate!

Yey to being back delilah but boo to the crap news. Have a think about all your options. Not all children that are adopted have issues, it depends on age group and how long they have been out of a bad situation. Just think most have been with foster carers for a while so will have had a 'normal' upbringing by someone who is trained to deal with any concerns. Its still an option. I ovulate fine my infertility is currently unexplained although do have one tube left and endo and partner reduced mobilty. I am looking at maybe reducing my IVF costs if I egg donate. Its a wondeful gift to give someone and being at the crap end of trying I would actually like to be able to donate eggs and help someone else to get what I can't have lol.
Me and OH are having a convo tonight about what next. IVF is currently too expensive so will have to think on it. Clomid has caused me immense pain around ovulation and now the stress has caused OH to not want to dtd even though he doesn't want to stop trying.
What next?
Pink I am sending positive thoughts? Are there any side effects or are you doing ok?
Faith my OH is an ex smoker but likes to have the odd one when he has a drink (which isn't often) it annoys me as I really hate smoking and think its pointless having a couple. He also seems moody the next day (nicotine withdrawal?) But I guess I'm not slim so I can't say much about his health when mines not perfect. If you find a solution let me know.
Glad your feeling a bit better flixy I am hoping your the only one to get AF lol.
Summer I am totally honest with anyone that makes the mistake of asking are you having another, the answer is I would love to but for some of us its not always a choice we get to make, it shuts people up. For closer people they get a fuller answer as in we are trying but its not working

At the mo I'm aright just wondering whether its being absorbed properly as I keep sneezing hehe! And it tastes VILE

Yack nothing is every easy is it. There's no here take this ice cream flavoured pill and you will be pregnant this time next month