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The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

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PhoenixFromTheFlames · 10/02/2012 22:51

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

OP posts:
carrieonlaughing · 24/04/2012 21:14

Glad your feeling better queen. Well its gone from doom and gloom to a little bit of hope in here.
Except for Faith and I with our fun. I'm finding it hard to not do anything but when I do start to do things the pain and exhaustion kicks in. I am utterly bored at home

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 24/04/2012 21:28

carrie I'm watching E4 most of the day then wonder what to do at 2 when I've watched everything and they start repeating?! Miserable isn't it?
We've got a house inspection with the letting agents tomorrow. DH has flung the Hoover round and it's not too bad but I'm worried it'll look a bit grubby. I'll take a tip from my dear old Mum and spray some furniture polish round so it smells clean. Simple psychology. Wouldn't fool Mary Poppins though Hmm

carrieonlaughing · 24/04/2012 23:16

And clean your taps, something to do with sparkly taps means you clean lots

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 25/04/2012 06:41

Ah good plan, I have managed to clean the sinks, shower and bath so they look fairly shiny! I'm sure they've seen a lot worse...

queenrollo · 25/04/2012 09:31

morning girls.

phew, am I tender this morning! Had to wake DH at 3am to help me to the loo and get painkillers because in my fog last night I forgot to put any by the bed!

So here's how it went.I arrived at 7.30, was seen by anaesthetist, then two medical students seeking permission to sit in on my surgery and perfom a pelvic exam (which I granted). Then one of the gynae team came to see me (interestingly my Cons bypassed me to see the woman in the next bed who arrived after. I get the feeling he didn't want to see me Grin) This other person was really, really good with me and explained the surgery very well, despite me having discussed it with the Cons previously. I was told I had about a 3 hour wait, which went quite quickly really.
After being so scared and stressed the few days before by the time I got to hospital I was zen calm! I didn't even panic when they took me down to theatre.
The worst bit was them trying to get the cannula in the back of my hand. I swore quite a bit, but I have such narrow veins that he couldn't get the cannula to flush back through. He called the anaesthetist in at that point who took one look at the back of my hand and put the dressing back on. He put the cannula in my elbow instead and apart from the scratch of the needle that was totally painless. Then the magic medicine went in and I drifted off.
I was woken in recovery by the gynae staff/surgeon who came to see me that morning.
I was told I would be under for an hour and to expect to be home by mid-afternoon. As it turns out I went into theatre at 11am and came out at just before 2!! I got home about 5pm.

I will be sent an appt to see my Consultant in 8 weeks but the lovely surgeon again came to my bedside and explained what they found/did.

My left tube was dilated and stuck to the ovary. They have detached it and she said they didn't need to open it as doing that has freed the fimbrals. She did say though the tube has elongated quite alot and that puts me at increased risk of ectopic so I must inform my GP straight away of any pregnancy and get him to contact my Cons.
Surprisingly (as I have had no obvious symptoms) they also found endo. This is why I was under so long. They have treated it with diathermy and I was told this is why I am in so much more discomfort now than I had been warned I may be.
They gave me morphine after surgery but by about 6pm last night it had worn off and I was in quite a lot of pain.

My main incision below the navel is very uncomfortable and when I stood to get dressed in the hospital I realised my feet had got wet Envy and the wound is leaking a lot. I have a lot of extra packing and dressing on that and it's very, very sore. I've been told to take the dressing off later today and been given extra but I am still so swollen I'm not sure I will be able to see it properly to check it.

I am so glad this is done. I have now read up a little bit about endo and am hoping that along with the tube issue, having the endo resolved will result in me being able to get and stay pregnant!!

Sorry this is so long, but I wanted to get it all down while it's fresh in my mind.

faith and carrie i'm sorry to hear you are both still suffering.

carrieonlaughing · 25/04/2012 11:29

That all sounds positive Queen.
I have endo which was diagnosed at 19 and I have since had my dd. They are relutctant to go back in due to adhesions which is why I had the HSG. I wish I had said yes to surgery as they could have treated it then and frankly I am finding my periods difficult to deal with. They are so heavy I use superplus tampons and change every 2 hours due to leaking. They last 8 days and are very painful. My one after the HSG has been 10 days urgh.
I have the clinic in the morning to see what they are saying next and to say we want no meds or anything for at least two months

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 25/04/2012 13:31

I really feel for you with periods like that carrie! When I was younger I had bad AF, long, heavy and painful! I had a 14 day one when I was about 15. I thought it was never going to end!
I've been back to the doctors and my urine dip showed white cells so it's a sample off to the lab and another week of antibiotics for me! If it is a UTI it's the most aggressive one I've ever known!
Letting agent has just been round, all fine. Glad it's done and the house smells lovely!

carrieonlaughing · 25/04/2012 14:55

Faith they can be like I say its 3 weeks and still blood in my urine and more antibiotics. I haven't heard anything about my scan yet either.
I am still in bed, lots of pain and feel awful but I need to get up so I can eat something and take pills

delilahbelle · 25/04/2012 19:24

queen well it sounds like things were positive, and even though they found endo, hopefully now it's treated it won't be a problem. Wishing you a quick recovery.

carrie hope you get well soom

faith let's hope the antibiotics do their job, the hut is full of people in pain it seems, not good.

Over with me - we have a tentative completion date of two weeks on Friday, exchange happening as soon as we have received/posted back the paperwork and given our solicitors waay too much money. Fingers crossed still. And I have an appointment at ARGC for 6th June. Yay!

queenrollo · 26/04/2012 07:49

finally this morning most of the gas seems to have been absorbed from my stomach cavity, so I'm a lot more comfortable than I was yesterday. The bloating was really pulling on my wounds Sad
Blimey though, you don't realise how much you use your stomach muscles just for the tiniest of movements. I have to get comfy on the sofa and then not want to shift myself at all!

faith and carrie hope you are both starting to feel much better soon.

delilah ooo exciting stuff.

pink and bBabyhow are you guys?

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 26/04/2012 08:47

Good to hear queen.. Yes it's only when you have something affected that you realise how much you use it!
I feel slightly better. My trial of ibuprofen made me wheezy to the point of being uncomfortable with minimal help pain wise do I've cut it out. I'm optimistic that the antibiotics will get on top of the problem again even if I threw up last night!

carrieonlaughing · 26/04/2012 12:57

Has a prescription for chlomid

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 26/04/2012 13:40

Are you pleased about that carrie? Well I mean, not delighted to have to take it but glad to have something proactive to have? Are you going to wait a few months to take It?

carrieonlaughing · 26/04/2012 14:46

I am going to wait. It was a different consultant and not as nice. He said it was my choice to have the HSG and not a lap when I asked about getting my endo treated. I was not offered a choice in the first place. He told me to lose weight and was frankly short and rude and said that's what the other consultant had put in his notes. Why would I lie about it grrr. Just glad to be out of there tbh

delilahbelle · 26/04/2012 17:37

Grrr - I booked into see my (lovely) GP but he wasn't in, so saw another one. He was very abrupt and unfriendly.

Hoped to get some of the initial blood tests (HIV, Hep B/C, FBC, rubella status) done by the NHS but the forms he gave me all say PRIVATE.

Luckily no rush, so I plan to 'lose' these forms and go see my normal GP next week. I don't want to pay if I can possibly avoid it. An extra annoyance I didn't need though.

flixy102 · 26/04/2012 18:02

Hey everyone

I haven't posted in ages as I've kinda been in limbo - waiting on my appointment with my endocrinologist which is finally next week. I'm going to try and be really assertive and get started on some treatment. If anyone has any tips they will be gratefully received!!

I've been lurking lots and have been reading all about your highs and lows Sad. It's such a great place to come and just know that other people are in the same sort of boat. I've been thinking about you all on your individual journeys.

Hopefully I'll be able to post more after I've seen my consultant. Grin Hope all you ladies are well today.

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 26/04/2012 18:35

Hey flixy glad to hear your appointment is almost here! I hope you get started on treatment this time so that you are taken out of limbo. Do let us know you get on. I hope you are ok outside the ttc/endocrine realm!

flixy102 · 26/04/2012 20:12

I'm very well thanks faith.

Although I'm not generally the kind of person who thinks the world must revolve around having children, a baby really is the one thing missing from our otherwise very blessed life.

pinkapples · 27/04/2012 19:29

Hello ladies I've not been here in a while either im alright I have a schedule for ivf which starts on the 25th may so not long now Grin

Glad everyone else seems to b doing ok

carrieonlaughing · 28/04/2012 09:00

I have had a rough 24hrs my kidney has got very bad, they are very concerned as I have high temp again so want to do iv antibiotics at hospital. They have given me until this afternoon for my temp to settle

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 28/04/2012 09:29

carrie bless you. Hard as it is, maybe you need the iv antibiotics to really knock this on the head? I hope they get it sorted soon.
I had my Gynae follow up yesterday - all good. Basically the consultant is happy with my results, DH's issues should have resolved now he's on his treatment, they're going to retest his swimmers but there's no reason I shouldn't get diffed now.
pink hope the wait goes quickly.

AllthatshewantsisanotherBBaby · 28/04/2012 17:33

Hi all

Sorry for absence, im not in a good head space atm so have tried to submerge myself in real life. hasnt worked

Queen glad all went well

Hope all sickies are better soon.

I am just feeling incredibly down / hopeless, selfish and jealous and more than a little pathetic... Such fun!

carrieonlaughing · 28/04/2012 19:16

Anotherbaby we have all been there, hope you feel better soon

queenrollo · 28/04/2012 19:23

BBaby as carrie says we've all been there. At the beginning of the year when I was dealing with my CP and had my friend staying here who was finally pregnant after two long years of TTC I found myself feeling jealous and not a good host at all really.
I'm the sort of person who is always genuinely happy for other peoples good news, and not prone to feelings of jealousy and bitterness but this is a pretty hectic ride we're all on from an emotional point of view and we are all allowed to experience and even indulge those negative emotions and feelings.
Be gentle with yourself

How are you carrie? did the temp come down?

faith? are you feeling any better?

pink good news on the date for the IVF.

delilah how are things going?

carrieonlaughing · 28/04/2012 20:58

My temp is better I don't feel as out of it and have manged a piece of toast twice this afternoon so finally have food in me. I am not going to hospital would rather stay at home and relax, at hospital I won't they really freak me out.
I am just thinking about weight loss now lol trying to see the good point. My partner has been looking after me and darling daughter but is now worn out, welcome to my world lol