The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

[PhoenixFromTheFlames]

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

New name new attitude for me! Thanks guys for your kind words, its so nice to be in good company, altho sad at the same time of course. That is the beast of this struggle I think, that its so easy to believe you are alone, that no one else struggles. I have decided now that if people think its ok to ask me the question re another DC im not dodging the truth they will get it, and if anyone else says the immortal fucking stupid lonely only speel they will get both barrels! I need to stop being a walk over! I am calling the docs tomorrow to get an appointment to start the referral process and will fight hammer and nail if I need to!

Hope your temp is ok carrie, hope you are feeling better phoenix and recovering well queen! Delilah glad mortgage is going well, and flixy yay for appt coming up! Wave to anyone ive missed

I am feeling better whoop the temp has broken and I have eaten.
Go you BB and your take no crap attitude. I am totally honest with anyone that says do I want more or why don't you have a baby. I say if only it were that simple and I am trying my hardest and getting help. Most people don't pry more and other than the odd few comments of relax and it will happen most people are good. Lots of people have been open back and I have realised I am not the only one.
Feeling a bit odd about the break from trying but determined to use the time wisely. I will be getting well, getting a new tattoo and having a drink when we go on our family hols lol.
Hope everyone has a good weekend

i forgot to tell you about the old lady in the bed opposite me on Tuesday. I got talking to the lady in the bed next to me, as we were in for the same surgery and comforting each other/sharing stories. The little old lady said 'i don't mean to be crude but do you think you're trying too hard to get pregnant. You might have worn your husbands swimmers out y'know'......how the hell we both managed not to fall over laughing I don't know

carrie got any ideas for the new tattoo? My tattooist has been given instructions for three pieces of artwork I want but she's snowed under at the moment so I'm just waiting patiently.

Thanks carrie i an trying to keep the momentum going! Queen she sounds lovely i dont mind well meaning people!

I love tattoos have 6, and already have a few ideas for more, they are addictive!

Tell me about it, I have several already. I have three on my back one top centre and two matching tattos over each shoulder. Plus another one. Now I want a dandelion that goes up to my back with the seedlings turning into birds and the words Whatever will be will be. I just need to be well enough. I was up until half 5 coughing.
I have been signed off for another full week, work have been fine as they know it takes a lot before I go off. My legs have also swelled up.
Still thinking about the consultant saying that individually we both have issues that combined makes for a big issue.
We have been told its chlomid and then IVF. When I said about already having a child so not entitled to IVF he said he wasn't there to discuss that but to tell me what I needed. Thanks for that. Wonder if they even think about what they are saying

carrie I'm glad to hear you're on the mend but also that you have another week off. Don't rush back!
Bb that's a great name change! Very strong :)
queen that story made me . How is your recovery going?
Well I'm CD26, usual cycle is 26 days so would expect AF tomorrow but I've had no temp drop or spotting. Did test Saturday with an FRER and hit bfn but it was quite early. Trying not to mull on it too much! Will keep you posted.

I am much better today!! the cut near my belly button is the only one giving me trouble, my belly button is unrecognisable and it feels tight. It must still be swollen and I have rainbow bruising! I am funny about my belly button though, if it's touched it sends a shockwave into my bits and makes me need a wee Wounds all look clean and well fused though. I'm going to have a bath tonight for the first time in a week. I'm not a fan of showers, it's not the same as relaxing in the bath.

carrie meant to say that i'm having the spanish version of 'what will be' incorporated into one of my tattoos, as it has special meaning for me.

Good luck Faith fingers crossed for you.
Queen my belly button has had a camera through that many times its not mine lol. People laugh when I say that but it doesn't look like mine used to. Glad your on the mend though

Woohoo for tattoos

I'm doing alright just waiting now for the end of the month the wait is worse than the 2 week wait

Glad everyone is starting to feel better

Crumbled

Oh pink lovely, do you want to talk or just have some

More from me. To be honest pinky, I'd be more worried if you didn't crumble. We're here for you.

Hey hutters

pink chin up love, I don't know what to say to help. We all know how you are feeling though.

carrie get well soon, I hope you start feeling a bit better. I think you and BB are very brave with your tattoos - I'm afraid of the pain although I've always liked the idea of one. I always thought I might get my PFBs name somewhere discreet - well that obviously hasn't happened.

queen hope you had a nice relaxing bath. 18 months after my lap you can hardly see the scars, they are v thin white lines only obvious if you know they are there. The rainbow will vanish.

AFM - we were supposed to exchange yesterday, having got all paperwork in place, but it hasn't happened. Nor today - solicitor is insisting on extra paperwork from the bank. I am really hoping it will happen by the end of the week, it's my birthday at the end of the month and we want to be in the new place by then.

I've also ordered some DHEA from Biovea to start taking pre out next IVF, and when I run out of my current multivitamins will be investing in a job lot of preconception ones. Trying to eat/drink healthily. Wine on a Saturday only, no more than two glasses, Ginger and Lemon tea rather than coffee/regular tea, and a slightly improved diet. Back to running 2-3 times a week too.

Pink your are only human be kind to yourself!

Delilah can you tell me more about Pregnenolone / dhea please? Im at the stage where i'll give anything a go! Dabbled in agnus castus and have made doc appt (26th!) but im open to anything atm

Grr, typed and lost a huge reply!

bb I must admit I don't know a lot about DHEA myself, I'm taking it on the advice of my last consultant. Apparently trials in the US have shown it improving egg quality. Biovea is where I've ordered mine from.

Off work and off to the doctors today. I have very bad LHS cramps, and am paranoid something is severely wrong. When I had my lap they found very bad adhesions and PID, and although treated at the time I'm always paranoid it has reoccurred. Not sure what my GP will do, but I feel really rough today :(

pink how are you feeling now?
BB glad to hear you've got a doctor's appointment. Hope things start moving forward!
Bless you Delillah it's not straightforward for you is it?! I'll be hoping and praying your house completes soon. Sorry to hear you're suffering. That's rubbish. I hope the doc gets to the route of the problem and gets you sorted.
carrie how are things?
I'm still in limbo. Temp this morning was stil above the cover line. Did a test which looked like BFN but then later when I fished it out the bin I can see a faint line! So I dunno if it's an evap line or......I guess I'll know more in the morning! Argh.

faith I have everything crossed for you getting a sticky BFP this week.

I'm seeing the Nurse Practitioner this afternoon. My wounds are very itchy which I guess is them healing. The one in the bikini area is looking a bit red though. I'm not sure it's infected, but thinking forward I have a weekend camping and a week abroad coming up and I don't really want to be dealing with infected wounds under those conditions so decided that getting a professional opinion was a good idea.
I've never had surgery wounds before so have no idea what is normal for healing?

Ooo faith get to the shop and buy more tests! You need to do a large number for comparison purposes.

queen Good luck with the nurse, and then with the camping/travel. Hopefully you will be fully recovered and relaxed.

GP was very nice - said it would unlikely be a recurrence of the original infection, but as bacteria can normally enter the body, with the scarring and adhesions I have, further infections are a possibility. But I don't have a temperature, so it could also be a cyst bursting. Anyway, I have a 7 day course of antibiotics, with orders to come back if the pain doesn't start to pick up and he'll give me a referral. He is also going to look into seeing if they will pay for any of the pre-IVF blood tests we need. I love my GP.

Now planning a day of snuggling on the sofa. Missing a really good work night out tonight, which I've already paid for, but hopefully I'll be on the road to recovery soon.

Thanks ladies! Yes I'm going out in a bit so I'll buy some more different tests for comparison!
queen it's quite normal for them to be itchy but worth getting any that are red checked out. Some people get red scars as they heal, massaging them with moisturiser can help to minimise the scar. Good plan to ask their advice.
Delilah you have my sympathy for the pain and the missing out on stuff! Enjoy the sofa day and I hope you feel better soon.

The nuse said my wound looks ok, but that the stitches were irritating it. She took them out......ouch. She said they would have taken ages to dissolve as they were caked in scab and rock hard. She took two of them out of my belly button but I politely declined having the one in my belly button taken out as I'm just too sensitive there. She's left the ones in my other wound because quite frankly I was feeling queasy after the bikini line one removal and just couldn't face the tugging/sharp sensation any more. She's told me they will dissolve eventually, but to go back if i'm worried or I just want them out. I've just to keep putting Savlon on my wounds now.

Excited for Faith.
Queen they do itch a lot, I tool my own stictches out after a week as they were solid and the feeling when I pulled them out was awful lol.
Hope your ok Deliliah and Pink and anyone else I have missed.
So much for taking a break, OH forgot to use protection lol but it has been a while with me being so ill. On the mend but still feel very crap. Going to talk tonight about taking the chlomid. His mother is desperate and called last night with a list of items she is putting in her loft from other grandchild who has turned one, we started trying before he was born lol. She doesn't seem to grasp that we have problems bless her she means well

Yuk, stitches out. I got my sister (a nurse) to take mine out for me. I wanted them out sooner as I remember catching and irritating them.

Still feeling crappy and run down, think I needed this day on the sofa. Part of me wonders if it isn't partly stress with the house move / some work stuff going on / potential IVF. I've not been sleeping well and my body just doesn't like it.

I'm lucky with family pressure - MIL does make a few comments but she lives miles away so I don't see her too often. And my mum knows not to comment.

I have my fingers crossed tightly for you faith.

Finally got my appointment with my consultant tomorrow so hopefully will get some movement with sorting out my hormones.

Hello to all and a big get well soon to those who are feeling under the weather

Thanks carrie and flixy! Still no news which I guess is good news? Going slightly bonkers but will POAS with FMU in the morning.
delilah you need to look after yourself! You're going through some of the most stressful things a person can go through! I'm glad the sofa day has helped. Don't rush back to work if you're not ready!
flixy I'm glad your appointment has rolled round. Stand your ground about getting some treatment!