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The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

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PhoenixFromTheFlames · 10/02/2012 22:51

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

OP posts:
pinkapples · 08/04/2012 18:58

Yea not long now faith 2 full days woohoo... So anxious I just can't get excited I can't allow myself too.. This is the hut after all so may as well maintain the overall
Negativity Grin

How's everyone's Easter?

Do you think youll try another round then Delilah are there no more options for you?

AllthatshewantsisanotherBBaby · 09/04/2012 09:07

Hey all!

Hope you've had a lovely easter! Ours has been slightly let down by the wet weather but its been nice, off to get ds's new garden toys as he has been given mainly money for easter, although no doubt he will hve his money doubled as always when we reach the shop! Then off to see the inlaws for food, all in all not a bad day.

Pink you are handling everything so well!

CD30 here and for once not even a smidge happy or hopeful abt the fact tht im over CD 28. Average cycle legnth takes me to CD33 so if no AF i may waste another test!

queenrollo · 10/04/2012 10:05

i'm feeling very 'meh' today. I should be feeling positive about the surgery and hoping that it's the thing I need to go on and get pregnant and have a baby, but I feel so down at the moment. Two years of 'staying positive' didn't yield success and I'm a little bit scared now to pin too much hope on this surgery, because quite frankly I don't know what the hell i'm going to do if this isn't the answer. How much of your life to give away to the treadmill of medical intervention and that awful wait for either BFP or AF?

I kind of feel like life moved on without me in some ways. I'm sat here on a beautiful sunny day wondering what the hell to do with myself, because all my friends are either working or wrapped up in their own little circles of friendship that revolve around having been pregnant together and I'm norma-no-mates, not fitting in anywhere. I have no-one to go and have coffee with, no one friend who I can sit and talk to about what's going on in my head.

pinkapples · 10/04/2012 13:19

You know queen that sounds so much like me... I'm a bit of a loner too I'm alright with my own company and my husband and dogs are brilliant I wouldn't be without them but sometimes I'd quite like a friend Sad wow don't I sound like a freak Smile

Family are lovely but it is full of it will happen or just relax hmmm and even now there is a possibility that it has happened its still very meh maybe it will change tomorrow when we know if baby is there or not but if not ill be back on the medication wagon and firmly back in the hut...

Cheer up Grin have you got any Easter eggs left?

queenrollo · 10/04/2012 13:52

I'm a very sociable person, and I have a very wide circle of friends but no one very close friend. I did have a couple of close friends but one fell out with me over something trivial and the other one seems to be keeping me at arms length (she is close to this other person so I think that is behind it). It's just that most of the people I get on with best don't live close enough for me to pop and see them. Talking on the phone just isn't the same as sitting on the sofa having a good old chin wag over coffee.

I don't celebrate Easter so didn't have any eggs Grin but always have plenty of chocolate in the house anyway!

This afternoon I'm going to get my crochet out and put on a DVD.

Good luck for tomorrow pink i'm keeping my fingers crossed for you x

pinkapples · 10/04/2012 14:19

Oh no no eggs hehe I've still got 4 me and dh will share this is my last full day off well... Last full day believing I might be pregnant... Then Thursday back to normal Grin

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 10/04/2012 15:13

I feel for both of you. We don't have a very active social life here tbh, the people we see the most are Dsis and BIL. Most of my close friends live some distance away. I'm planning to have more people over when our house is finished to try to be more sociable. There was one couple I thought we clicked with DH works with him and I got on with his DW but for some reason we're out of favour with them. I think it was cos we left a party they had quite early without explaining why - how do you tell them your ibs is acting up which is a nightmare when they have one bathroom and lots of drunk people who have broken the seal?! Hey Ho, their loss.
I've been able to vacuum round the house this morning and do some washing and now I've popped to see dsis who isn't very well. I'm definitely getting there.
pink I've been thinking about you. I guess you have mixed feelings about tomorrow? Have you poas recently?
To answer the egg question - we had one egg each. I've scoffed mine. DH has eaten the chocolate bar that came with it, his egg is still intact. Taking a lot of strength not to steal eat it! :)

delilahbelle · 10/04/2012 16:16

Hey all queen I can very much empathise with you.
My two closest friends are pregnant - and they are the ones who live near me. Meeting up is hell, and I can see us growing apart as they start to visit ante natal groups etc.
My friends without children live all over the globe - but fbook chat/email/skype just isn't the same as sitting around drinking coffee.
I'm hoping my move will help me make new friends - a couple of people I know there are without children and destined to be my new BFF, if only they knew... Grin Hmm Grin

Shame we aren't local to each other really, but then we may hate each other if we met in the flesh!

pink I'm keeping things crossed for you tomorrow. Really hope things work out.

BB steal his egg and eat it! Or replace it - I have just been to the supermarket, and a half price egg accidentally jumped into my trolley. Oh well, these things happen

Picked up a copy of all my notes from hospital today. Needed if I am going to self refer to one of the London clinics for treatment. Still not decided, in balance probably not, but I thought better to get them now whilst we lived nearby than want them after we moved

pinkapples · 11/04/2012 10:47

Well I'm not very much back in the hut! Scan showed that I did have a miscarriage but thankfully it is all out (silver lining
much)

Ivf consultation on the 23rd April

pinkapples · 11/04/2012 10:48

That was meant to say I very much am back in the hut

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 11/04/2012 10:56

Oh I'm so sorry pink :( words aren't really good enough to express

queenrollo · 11/04/2012 11:39

pink I am so sorry Sad as Faith says there aren't really words. Just know that we're all thinking of you x

pinkapples · 11/04/2012 11:43

Thanks ladies in alright had a brew and some painkillers for my headache me and dh are having a sofa day Grin

carrieonlaughing · 11/04/2012 12:05

Aww pink I came on to see how you were. I am so sorry to hear that big hugs your way xx

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 11/04/2012 12:07

I'm glad you've got DH with you. You just need a chill out time to try to get your head round it I guess. I prescribe lots of cuddles.

delilahbelle · 11/04/2012 12:11

pink biggest hugs - have a nice day on the sofa with your DH. I'm so sorry for you.

pinkapples · 11/04/2012 16:30

Thanks ladies Grin

AllthatshewantsisanotherBBaby · 11/04/2012 18:27

Pink Sad so so so so sorry hugs to you

pinkapples · 11/04/2012 19:35

Hmmm tomato pasta and the amazing programme that I recorded the undateables Grin

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 11/04/2012 20:08

Oh I missed that :( no WiFi to catch up. I really can't wait to go home. Not long now. Glad you've had some comfort today pink.

pinkapples · 12/04/2012 06:59

It was seriously good and so nice when they find a date awwww

Feeling alright today still a bit sick but currently eating breakfast so I should be alright after that Smile if I can get myself through today then I'll be fine I think

delilahbelle · 12/04/2012 17:10

Well - it's super quiet in here today. I hope that's because you are all doing nice things with family/friends.

I have spent the day supervising the plumber servicing the boiler and fitting a new radiator. So mainly on the sofa with toast and tea.

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 12/04/2012 17:45

That sounds nice delilah. Tea and toast! All gearing up for moving?
I've had a two steps backwards day. Well I'm officially a twat. Yup I'm so pissed off with myself I'm swearing. I decided to be a bit more active today I went the hospital to get a form signed for some money back from a payment scheme they didn't accept the first one I sent. I got all the way to the ward to find I'd left the form at home. Annoying but not the end of the world. Had to go home and get it and go back again. Then l went shopping. As I pulled up at the front of the house to get out the shopping (the parking is at the side) I went too far and scuffed the bumper on the steps of the house next to ours. Waiting for DH to come home and access the damage. Just hoping I don't need a new bumper. Bollocks! I'm such a twat!
I have to decide if I'm fit to go back to work next week. I'm really not sure I am, I'm still so fuzzy headed and lethargic so I think it's back to the GP for me. I guess I have to remember I've not been out of hospital a fortnight yes. Walk before I can run eh?
Any news on the job situation Bb?

AllthatshewantsisanotherBBaby · 12/04/2012 17:50

Pink your handling things much better than i could!

Delilah that sounds a lovely day!

Phoenix eeeek for car, mine was brand new an sone scumbag keyed it at 4 days old Sad job is going ok thanks haven't actually transferred yet but have been doing bits and bobs to prepare for the new role, feel quite excited about it atm! Hope u are feeling better soon it no fun being ill.

Fertility wise on CD33 app says due on today dont think that will happen still having EWCM! I wish i just knew where i was!! Grr

queenrollo · 12/04/2012 18:04

I've been moping about feeling a bit miserable and headachy. At half three my head was quite bad so I crawled into bed and fell asleep straight away for two hours!! Every now and then this happens to me, I've not been sleeping well and I think my body has a day where I go into 'shut down' mode. I feel SO much better now I've had a really deep sleep.

Phone call yesterday and I've got an appointment with the immunology clinic on 9th May. It's at the city hospital, faith i'll PM you in a bit as I don't know the hospital at all and it says I have to go to a clinic. Would like to know how easy it will be to find as I always seem to get lost when I have to wander round hospital corridors!