The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

[PhoenixFromTheFlames]

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

Bless you, at least it's only two more days now. Glad to hear the spotting has stopped again. Sending tonnes of positive vibes your way for a little heart beat!

No I wish it was a couple of days but no it's the 11th which is next Wednesday so a week and 2 days nevermind

Oh Bleurgh :(

Feeling alright today been into work for a bit now home and just picked the dog up from the groomers no bleeding still
Spotting brown but not so much... Still not convinced but dh is staying positive so fingers crossed his praying works for us x

Sorry I've not been around much all - spent a lot of time with DH bonding and talking - it has made me more aware how hard it is to maintain a relationship with him working away.

Condom thing - he said they were at the back of the admitted full of crap drawer, left from the last IVF cycle, and the only reason I found them at the front was that he had been tidying things/boxing things prior to our move.
Which I did ask him to do...

So, I am no longer paranoid. I did nick his phone when he was out of the room, and found lots of boring texts to his friends/me but nothing else, which reassured me as well. Managed to beat his top score on angry birds too.

pink It's just a waiting game for you isn't it? I'm still keeping things crossed for you, hopefully the bank holiday weekend will go quickly, and the scan will show a healthy little heartbeat.

faith BB What news? I'll go back and read the rest of the thread in a moment, but hope you are both well.

Off out to meet my two pregnant friends for coffee later. I am suffering jealous feelings, as I was friends with each of them separately, but they are now spending time together without me. Obviously not said anything, and will be smiley positive person later, but it's hard.

delilah i'm really pleased that things are good with your DH.

I'm just sitting around (metaphorically) waiting for AF to arrive. Could be today, but maybe Saturday depending on how long this cycle is. Have been up and down mood wise in a pretty dramatic way. Completely lost it with DH last Thurs while doing DIY, turned into a banshee , and since then have alternated between being normal happy me and full on snotty crying fits which seem to come out of no-where. This could be PG hormones (um...wishful thinking) or more likely PMT rearing it's head again.

Bumped into my friend's eldest today, she said that her mum had commented last week that she hasn't seen me for ages (about 9 months actually) and I thought 'she knows where I am. why do I have to do ALL the running about'
She had her baby before Christmas and still hasn't actually got in touch to tell me. No contact at all. over 30 years of 'friendship'.....obviously I'm really important to her

How is everyone else?
faith how are you now?

Not much new here....
First off, I'm glad you've been reassured delilah. Sounds like things are a bit better for you. The phone thing was very nawty! But glad you've proved to yourself there's nowt in it.
Queen DIY can send us all loopy! Sorry to hear you're feeling so rough this cycle :( if the evil witch is coming, I hope she gets on with it so you can feel better. Maybe you should send a cheeky text along if your friend's had the baby yet?!
I'm slowly on the mend. Get exhausted doing very little. Have to decide tomorrow if I'll be well enough to work next week, if not, need to go to docs for another sick note. I'm leaning towards not being ready...Also waiting for af,.due Friday assuming I ovulated on time. I tried to chart but my temps were all over the place before I went in hospital so I'll sit and wait. Only dtd twice around when I might have been fertile and have been so ill, I really doubt it'll be this month!

Hi guys

Just marking place, only a short one.

Pink hope and pray all is well for you, counting down the days

faith fingers crossed its quality not quantity

queen nice to hear from you, hope all gets better i sympathise with the fiend thing i have a friend who also makes 0 effort!

delilah glad it all came to nothing what a relief!

CD 25 here not much dtd-ing with everything that went on, not sure what to expect!
Well i am redundant in title! Work are making me work my notice and was interviewed today for another job in a diff site so not all bad, one extra day but financially will be better off so if it all comes right may work out well!

Dads anniversary today and lots of people have remembered which is comforting.

My garden is now finished and some of the veggies are in which is nice!
Hows everyone else's week?

Sorry to hear that the dreaded 'R' word has been confirmed :( but good news that you had an interview. I guess one more day will change things but at least it's not full-time.
Glad people remembered your Dad's anniversary. Thinking of you It's actually my Dad's birthday today. He popped round which was nice. Don't half miss Mum while I'm poorly though! :(

((hugs)) for BBaby and Faith. I've been properly missing my Grandma the last couple of weeks, actually sitting and crying and just wishing she was here. Just to hold my hand and drink tea with and natter. When life got tough in the past it was that simple time together which seemed to set me right again. My mum and I just don't get on like that (in fact she has a knack of making me feel worse).

Bbaby - sorry to hear about the redundancy but as Faith says it's good news about the interview.
DH has had to do go through the r consultancy with lots of staff in the last year, and they did everything they could to redeploy people within the company where possible. Of course some people had to be let go regardless and it was a tough few months here because DH felt really bad about having to do it.

Pinkish spotting has reared it's ugly head Wednesday can't come soon enough as far as I'm concerned

What's everyone doing for the Easter weekend??

What a nightmare for you pink. Roll on Wednesday.
I'm having another week off sick, have told my boss and got a docs appt. Just don't have enough energy yet! Buildings up slowly. Hoping I'll be better in 10 days time! Why is it such a battle to get a GP appointment?! 10 minutes hitting redial!
I've got a quiet weekend planned. Really hoping I'll be able to go to church Sunday. Sunday lunch with my family afterwards :)

We're going to Cambridge tonight for a gig. Then home for the weekend, have invited a couple of the kids in the village over to decorate cakes. I am clearly mad.
Spotting this morning so that'll be AF about to put in an appearance.

Less than a week to go pink Fingers crossed it doesn't drag too much.

BB so sorry about the dreaded redundancy - I hope the interview leads to good things.

Faith - hope you recover soon. A quiet weekend with family sounds like bliss.

queen enjoy your gig. I was in Cambridge visiting friends a while back, it's a great place to shop if you have any spare time.

My weekend is going to be spent packing and cleaning ready for the house move - still no date for completion through, but we are hopeful for more positive news soon. Also off to the cinema to see The Hunger Games tonight or tomorrow, have some Tesco cinema vouchers I had put to one side :)

Well absolute crap day for me was at work when dh phoned and said he'd lost his job the end of his probation and they weren't keeping him on don't know what we're going to do now as he brings in £38,000 so this afternoon is goingto be budget and damage control while we look at getting him another job he's a mechanical engineer in the south west if anyone knows of any jobs about

Oh no pink I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope he finds something quickly.
delilah thanks. I'm getting there, I'm just surprised how slow my recovery has been going! Enjoy the pictures, hope you get a moving date soon.
Enjoy Cambridge queenie. Yes, I think the cake decorating indicates you are mad! Or very brave :) Have fun.

Af has arrived. No 2012 baby for me. Not surprised but still disappointed!

nevermind chin up... You could be me

Well hubby has applied for 6 jobs today still don't think it's sunk in yet but I'm sure something will come up soon...

Oh and the bleedings back so hey ho I don't think my my week can get any worse

Hey all

Queen enjoy gig and for AF
Faith for AF and for feeling bad still
Delilah I wanted to see that but none of my friends fancied it as apparently I'm a cry-er!!

pink you poor love! Hope DH finds something soon, my DH is an aerospace mech eng, but we are in hants so dont know if thats too far? As for your bean im still hopeful i read a thread about a lady who bled all trimester and baby ok so fingers crossed.

Well i spent all day yesterday in tears (or at least it feels that way), have the new job but its slightly less money p/h but more days (so more money overall) and in all likely less hours / nicer environment, but im scared of leaving my dept pathetic much?! as my manager is my best friend and a few others in my dept im v close too... I shall have to suck it up! A jobs a job! HR have been very good, so I'm hoping the new role will be good. Means another days nursery fees (expensive) but as of jan DS gets his free sessions and MIL has said about taking him one of the days around pre-school so bill will decrease! I should be really happy but im scared!! big wimp
Fertility wise don't know where i am as CD27, id be shocked if AF came tomorrow, but at the same time not sure how being pg right now would go down at work, as last time i was pg was just after this type of thing!

Sorry that all felt very moany! Hope you all can enjoy the long weekend as much as poss

Good evening ladies... Hope everyone's having a lovely Easter weekend... In alright down to spitting again bin a bit crampy this afternoon so that's probably not a good thing

In laws been round to walk the dogs one of my mother in laws dogs has had a fight with a tractor so she's been to hospital to sort that with father in law

Dh has gone out with friends tonight so I'm on my own enjoying a quiet night in with a chocolate Easter egg

Happy Easter all [busmile]

pink Hope the egg tasted good - me and DH skipped the eggs this year for a giant box of chocolates to share. More choc for our money [bugrin]

BB Hope you are feeling better today, I hope the new job works out for you.

I am waiting for DH to get up then we are out for an walk somewhere, followed by a roast later today. Bought a huge leg of lamb so will have lots left for sandwiches too. V good.
Had the survey back on the house - some things we hadn't spotted need doing so have given a letter to the estate agent to try and negotiate a bit off the price. Fingers crossed.

I am approximately mid-cycle, not entirely bothered about counting days. Just want to be in the new place, then we can start thinking about adoption. I am still toying on and off with the idea of another IVF cycle, but it's all a bit scary.

Sounds good Delilah... How many ivf's have you had if you don't mind me asking? Think if this little beam doesn't stick that's out only option left

AF finally got me yesterday. House full of kids (who were all wonderfully behaved) and I was having the worst cramps I've had in ages. Went on for about two hours and then er.....gush....still feeling crampy and tender today and not in a great mood.
Got a letter from the hospital, after all my organising to get someone to have DS while I go for the pre-op assessment the buggers have changed it to the week after! The little note that came with it said my 'likely' date for surgery is still the one in my diary. I am going to be very, very cross if they change it as DH has now booked time off work and his boss is being a real twat misery at the moment and it's going to cause all sorts of trouble if DH has to cancel again and try to re-arrange other days off.

Hey all. Not long to go now pink.
delilah hope you can get the house sorted soon.
queen I had really similar. Cramps and spotting and flood gates opened overnight Thursday night. So here we go, lucky cycle #31....how annoying about them moving your appointment. Hope you get it all sorted soon.
We've been having a nice weekend aside from af with family :)

Hey pink I've had 3 fresh cycles and one FET. Poor response to the drugs on all of them unfortunately, and tests before the 3rd fresh cycle showed low AMH. I didn't find the physical side of IVF too hard. Not great but copeable with - but emotionally it was hell. A real roller coaster.

More tidying, cleaning and packing going on chez belle right now, which DH cooks the roast. The place is a tip, and I am feeling alternately bored and stressed with it all, plus slightly sick from eating too much chocolate.

[buenvy]