The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

[PhoenixFromTheFlames]

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

I have endometriosis and find sex painful sometimes so I was prepared for a lot of pain and they did say that it would with me so had strong painkillers before. I'm ok now just tired, little spotting and cramps.

Pink so glad things are seeming positive, still hopeful

Faith glad you are feeling better and getting out!

Delilah im not sure what to make of condom situation, ive read other thread a bit, and i think without knowing DH its hard to judge as its a knee jerk reaction. I hope its nothing sinister x

Glad hsg went well carrie

Work situation still dragging on. Hoping to hear by weds. Irony is thats another bad date for me! Ah well im so beyond caring now it is what it is i presented myself well at the meeting and i will not sacrifice any more time than ive offered with DS its too precious!

We have a lovely quiet chilled weekend planned hopefully weather will stay nice, garden is being finished will just be blissful i think! Monday i did a deep spring clean so hopefully i can just do a quick
Whizz round and enjoy instead.

Looks like I spoke too soon. Bleeding has totally stopped but now have a lot of pain in lower back and my thighs and have been sick. I was fine this afternoon even took DD to the park!

How are you feeling now Carrie? I went into spasm when I had my Hsg. Taking painkillers and hot water bottles helped. It stopped after a couple of days. I'd seek medical attention if it gets worse.
I'm delighted to stay I'm being discharged! I'm much better. Still on the road to recovery but they're happy I can manage at home and so am I! so I'm going when my meds come from pharmacy. Yay :)
Final diagnosis is kidney stones with ?infection. Having next week off to continue to recover then see how I feel.

Sick as a dog lol I was daft and went to work as I never take time off. Had to be brought home by 9 30. My OH has done some shopping and is looking after me.
Not in too much pain just very sick and pumping lots tmi sorry.
Hope you feel better soon Faith

Could the sickness just be co-incidence? Or do you think it's linked to the Hsg?
I'm much better than I was and just looking forward to being home. Still waiting on my drugs.

Hey faith how's it feel being back at home did you manage to get your drugs...

I'm alright I've decided to phone the clinic on Monday an see if I can get a scan this week I don't want to be off work a whole week and a half if little bean has gone... And if it's not gone then I can at least settle myself into believing it x x

Hello pinky it's nice to be home. Bit strange, almost feel guilty, don't know why? Strange to have my freedom! Yes they gave me all the good painkillers I needed :) had to take some in the night so I'm glad they did.
I think it's sensible to push for a scan. It's the limbo that's hard to bear isn't it? If it's not good news, you can start to come to terms with it, if it's a yes, you can relax a bit!

Yea definately I feel like they should have done bloods or something... Since I did come from doing treatment with them the bleeding has completely stopped now I will phone them Monday and think I will take the route of saying I need to at least tell work as I haven't been in last week due to bleeding but technically there's nothin nothing wrong now So if they tell m either way I can get on with it

Yeah they can tell from your hcg levels if bean is still sticky, can't they? Stand your ground on Monday til they agree to do something!
What you up to this weekend ladies? I'm trying to find the oomph to get out of bed. DH is going to take me to our house to see the progress. The plasterers have finished and they've started painting so I want to see it! Not safe to drive on my drugs though

I'm up to nothing as usual seems the story of my life this week dh is in bed as he got in from a nigh shift at 8am
This morning an then he's off out one of his friends died in a motorbiking accident ad they are all going out for a drink for him think it was a couple of years ago now can't remember but then he's home tonight and Sunday and Monday and Tuesday woohoo!

Yea not going to let them fob me off they should do it out of courtesy I think... Especially as I did pay them for the privilege of getting pregnant hehe

Hi all just a flying check in..

Pink hope docs give u answers, or at least do something, you need answers. Fingers crossed for you! Its my dads anniversary weds he died in a motorbike accident to, altho unless you are down south im guessing its just coincidence.

Faith glad you are getting home, how are you feeling?

Delilah what happened with DH in end?

Carrie for pain

We have finally finished our garden, so have spent all day out in it today planting and ha a nice bbq! Yesterday we had a lazy day watching movies was really nice and needed.

Not got much of clue where I am fertility-wise, with the work situation its not been my main focus so weird to even type that after all these months! am on CD 22, have dtd 3 times this cycle at least 2 o which could of been well timed dependant on when i ov'd. Ho hum.

Work have arranged another meeting for monday, I've been asked to go in even though its a day i dont work. As i understand it this will be the meeting where they define what hours they are looking for... This could go my way maybe not... Ive drawn my line in the sand and said there is no way id go full time so we can but hope i suppose!! Its the not knowing thats stressing me!

Hope you've all had a good weekend and thinking of you pink!

Hey, yes it's nice to be home. Think it's been a bit of an adjustment period. DH has found it quite tough I think, dealing with life at home on his own and working as much as he does. He seems much happier now he's slept a bit! I'm just doing bits then sleeping. Think that'll be the summary of my week.
B sounds like you're dealing ok with the work situation, what will be will be I guess but it's not always that simple is it? Let us know how the meeting goes.
delilah how are things? Hope you were able to talk things out.
Good luck for tomorrow pink.
queen how are you doing?

Thanks ladies... Well after 5 days blood free I have started spotting again there is an epu at the hospital so if they don't see me I'll just go there I think but they have really strict criteria so might just demand it hehe...

Oh pink you must be seen! If the clinic won't help but they really should I'd contact the epu. You are in early pregnancy with no idea what's happening. I'm still rooting for the bleeding being 'normal' and things settling down but you need answers. I hope you sleep ok, let us know what's happening tomorrow.

Def what I will do Faith but they should see me like I said I paid for the privilege

Exactly. Bash their door down! Start talking about financial compensation, that should get them moving!

Hehe don't think I can be that forceful...

Phoned them and they said they don't scan till 7+ weeks... Hmmm well now I'm
Waiting on a call back from the specialist nurses... If an epu can scan at 6+ then I don't see why a dildocam at the clinic won't at least tell me if it's alive

Why haven't they offered to take your bloods?! Did you ask? Let's hope the alternative route gives you some answers.

pink sorry you're finding it hard to get them to take you seriously.

I'm up and down here. AF due on weds/thurs and i'm pretty certain she'll be putting in an appearance. I'm currently feeling really very scared of the surgery.

Nope no bloods or anything I wonder whether I should phone the gp? I don't want to really I'd rather hear it from the clinic a they have been so lovely up to now and they will know what to do if little beam is gone may just sit tight and wait for the call

Wait for the phone call, if they don't offer anything I would contact your GP. You can't be stuck in limbo any longer lovely.
queen it's understandable you're scared, especially given how much weighs on the outcome. I'm not going to give you platitudes and say it's all going to be ok, but we are here for you

Well they says they can't do anything till Wednesday basically the feeling is they wouldn't be able to tell if it is viable anyway do would b a waste of time and probably make me worry more I'm alright and I guess it is another week off work the spotting has settled back down now and the nurse said it was pretty common so well see I don't really wanna see the gp till after a scan

So what will do Wednesday? A scan?

Yea a scan and then if there is a heartbeat everything is fine basically if there isn't then I will be back on the treatment train