Hut of Gl/Doom, lost count of the number coz its been so long - optimists need not apply!

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Couldn't find the hut but in dire need of a hideout away from all those "its been 2 months" and "am I pregnant" threads.

For those of us who've been burnt by ttc, can't get pregnant, can't stay pregnant or are sick of hearing the "just relax" refrain.

Leave your hope at the door and grab a gin, we are back in the speakeasy with meths on tap!

Oh thanks phoenix may have to take you up on it! I am borrowing a dress so thats our major saving just need to make sure it fits myfatarse

You could always do Paul Mckenna with me! I've lost 9lb in a month!
I'd recommend the youandyourwedding website. I went on there for ideas and then looked for it on eBay!

I think i will im doing ok but help is help! I am taking DS to a play area tomorrow... Always good exercise!

Woohoo!

Nope - nothing TTC related, but I think we have found a house :) 3bed, cloakroom, ex council so fairly roomy, front garden and off road parking, south facing back garden, workshop with power/light (that'll be the gym ) and lots of... potential. Just over 200k, but our max budget is 195k, so we are hoping to haggle them down.

It needs redecorating throughout, probably a new boiler, and the wooden conservatory has interesting holes in. Am making my Dad take a look this week, and am going to phone the estate agent back to arrange a second viewing to decide if we actually like it or not - and more to the point what the likely cost of making it decent will be. Saying that now, we could move in, everything works, it's just tatty and old looking.

Very excited - we are chain free as we are not selling, just keeping our current house to rent out, so we are in a competitive position.

Fingers crossed :)

And if anyone wants to see the rightmove link, PM me and I'll send it to you - don't want to make it public as I don't want any chance of people IRL identifying me :)

Woo hoo lots happens in a day! Congrats bb I love weddings can't believe mine was almost two years ago!! like has been offered any ideas I'm here

Still waiting on the ttc front... I am now 7 days post shot but I am not going to give in this time, they say say 14 but I'm just going to see if I bleed or not

No smears for me yet, I suppose with allth poking and prodding I already have that is not much of a blessing hehe

Well no weddings here my divorce comes through the day after valentines. Or new house's for that matter still in my grotty flat.
I have plenty to keep me happy though, my gorgeous DD and my lovely partner :)

Thanks all for the offers of wedding solutions/help, we were hoping for 2014 pre the gift, have now decided we could do it on the gift as a budget but for the day we want we are going to go with may next year in the hope we an add to the funds and have the day we really want. My bestie is wedding obsessed and im hoping to wear her dress she has been really kind and said i can have it altered as needed! So thats a big saving! Off to view a venue friday, as hoping to book that soon. All in all unexpected excitement.

Hope everyone else is well everyone sounds quite happy / hopeful. I am struggling at the moment with varying feelings... Am telling myself to continue taking positive steps! We are being natural ish this month. An taking EPO up to day 15 (altho im bad at remembering!!) are having sex when we feel like it cantstandthetermbabydance but making more effort for next two weeks as am CD 10 atm. Also have niggling doubt about smear results but im guessing thats normal?!

DS floored me somewhat today. He said in a crowded play area "mummy get us a baby" this was shocking as altho there was a baby on the next table to us he has never expressed a desire for one, and also we are awaiting his SALT referral so for him this was quite an irregular unprompted sentence. I was and a bit so sort of mumbled ok i will whilst hastily aiming him towards the slide!

I have to say I am not at all positive lol very much doom and gloom and no hope other than a long road of poking and prodding. I want to lie in bed and hide lol

Ahh carrie, you are in a similar boat as me i suppose, altho no one is willing to poke and prod me medically! Did you have any help to conceive DD?

In the end she was a natural conception but not before a miscarriage and an ectopic, cysts and previous surgery :( it was awful and I know its all there again to deal with :(

I much prefer swi sex with intent or dtd did the deed baby dancing is such a netmums thing. One poor woman posted on conception and talked about bd. She nearly got run out of town!

Oh phoenix i like dtd! I shall be using that!

Carrie thats no fun, i have had recurrent unexplained mc, i am trying to go the more natural route atm as the pct where i am are not what you would call helpful! Its very disheartening to face these types of troubles.

I have been looking at my pct rules and if I do need ivf I am stuffed as I am overweight. Not huge a size 16 and quite happy. I was actually bigger when I had my daughter. I just know that next weeks appointment my weight will be brought up so the last week I have been eating everything in a five mile radious lol. Dtd seems to work but even then it sounds like something you have to do. I check when I ovulate and say its the magic time next few days but we don't plan it, its only if we want to.
I am trying to be more positive and think of the good things I have :)

Paul Mckenna I can make you thin...honestly. doesn't feel like a diet. I lost 9lb last month!

Carrie you literally are me! Altho im a bit bigger than a 16 haha! I am gonna get mckenna think thats where my issues are!

Phoenix looking on amazon is it a book and cd? I shall buy it and pop it on itunes for bed time!

I was a sixteen squeezing into 14 clothes! Yes book with cd. We listen at bedtime. It's so good, food tastes amazing because I'm enjoying eating it, I feel I.have control over food after years of battling. If I want something, I eat it
but I'm recognising when I'm emotionally hungry. I'm also much more motivated to exercise. I was amazed how quickly it worked. I've tried dieting, weight watchers, curves diet but I always felt deprived and miserable. Set up to fail. Now I feel happy :)

I've got it and it didn't work for me in fact my brain rebelled against it so much that I have hidden the book and cd from myself lol and forgotten where.
I also can't see my partner wanting to listen to it as he is very tall and slim so really could do with putting on weight. If I have to I will go on slimming world as I am always full its just the planning all the time that drives me batty.

I tried SW but in truth im too lazy to make stuff from scratch haha i shall give it a go lost 6lb the other week just by actually recording what i ate so its worth a go!

Morning all,
I need a rant! We've had our consultant appointment and I'm now on the waiting list for a lap & dye. I don't think I've ever felt this upset about anything ever and I don't know why. Team that with the couple of 'oh just have IVF/adopt throwaway comments I've had and I feel just about ready to kill someone. To top it off, DH is now actively not talking about it and is refusing sex saying its too much pressure and he's just not in the mood. Have spent the last 4 days in tears every night, my body is just about to ovulate this weekend and my husband doesn't want me.

We had a row last night and I finally lost it and asked if he actually even wants a baby which he said he absolutely does so I said in that case he really ought to find out for himself how the hell they are made because he clearly has not got a scooby at the moment and nor does he seem to care, it's like he thinks the one shag we had on Saturday is enough to last two weeks. I think I'm just tiring of being the one responsible for all this. I also know exactly what I'd say to someone else who wrote this post but at the moment I can't even take my own advice

for raspberry
Don't know what to say really.
Do you know how long the waiting list is for the lap and dye?

the news here is that as well as a heavy/crampy AF i appear to have thrush. My body is throwing a proper wobbly isn't it!!

He just text and said he hates what this is doing to us and he refuses to let it keep driving a wedge between us and wants a break from it. I don't really know where to go with that. The lap and dye will be before end of april

I have been there before ripple with my previous partner who wanted to take a break after an ectopic.
Feel free to rant all you want on here that's why we come here.
Take a deep breath and make the choice is missing one month worth the arguments.I bet I get lynched for this one but it seems like he's feeling stressed the same as you so tell him that sex is off the table this weekend to prove that he and the realtionship is more important and that you can have that break and start again next month. Hopefully by taking one little break you can both feel ready to get back on track. I hope this helps but like I say I remember just crying at this point x

We had a break for a while...it got so stressful, we just couldn't any more. We didn't use contraception but didn't 'try'....it was tough to not try but it did mean we felt more relaxed about sex and more positive when we started trying again.