Hut of Gl/Doom, lost count of the number coz its been so long - optimists need not apply!

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Couldn't find the hut but in dire need of a hideout away from all those "its been 2 months" and "am I pregnant" threads.

For those of us who've been burnt by ttc, can't get pregnant, can't stay pregnant or are sick of hearing the "just relax" refrain.

Leave your hope at the door and grab a gin, we are back in the speakeasy with meths on tap!

thank you delilah. sorry you had to go through it but am reassured by your post.

am going to look into the possibility of paying for private consultation to speed up the process.

I emailed them this morning and the sec said they were endeavouring to see me on the NHS as soon as possible. I have just had an email and I have an appt on the 29th of November!

Hope everyone else is ok. Have been thinking of you Pink, any news?

Well done! Stood your ground :) I'm so pleased for you.

Thank you faith

yesterday was dreadful. had a big row with DH over the course of the day about an ongoing problem. Typically this pushes him to then open up about his feelings. Shitty stuff going on a work, and then he admits that finding out this latest news and the possibility that we may never have a baby together is very hard for him. I told him he needs to TELL ME this stuff. I know he doesn't want to worry me, but it's worse when i think he really doesn't care either way.

I am still going ahead with my complaint, as i think it's important the dept are still pulled up on their lack of communication. I shouldn't have to use this as leverage or ask about private consult to get the result, but the point is that I have an appt.
going to write down all my questions and some crib notes for how i feel just in case it comes up during the appt.

hi all
nausea, check. sore boobs, check. sore arm pit, check (don't ask about that one - it's weird!) off chocolate, check. insomnia, check. tired, check. irritable, check. wind, ahem...check.
oh yeah, and the right time of year..... bizarrely was exactly a year ago, to the day, i had the same symptoms...... and it ended badly.
feel the need to lurk, only about 6 days post ovulation. this is crap. so thought this was over... want to move on, it's just every time i think i have....

ulcer on my gum, check!

ouch and i even googled it!

Oh bless you Broc. Where's your head at?

hi faith
my head? fuzzy! i feel slightly dizzy too. psychologically, i am ok. just less than blase about the 2-week-wait this month. have done quite well at being blase the last few months.
how is everyone else? i have done a little bit of reading back. large bottles of vino required.
lots of love

Offer me vino, I am guaranteed to puke. I have had a bad head ache all day, fuzzy head, heavy lidded. Struggled through work, cane home and straight to bed.
I am happy to pass some for you all to share.
queen I can't imagine what stress your situation is putting on your relationship. Do go ahead with your complaint. Think of it like this, you're hopeful of resolving this situation. You're complaining in the hope that it doesn't happen to anyone else.
pink, thinking growy thoughts!
Anyone else lurking?

Thanks for your growy thoughts however this scan revealed your thoughts didn't reach me... My uterus lining is thickening 'nicely' however my follicles are not growing much was 2 follicles one at 8mm and the other at 10mm on
Monday now I have one at 9mm and one at 10mm brilliant up by 1mm so by about 4 weeks time I should be there oh well...more injections and another scan on Tuesday but nurse said it was normal with pcos as I do not have periods and have NEVER... Yes NEVER ovulated

They said I am growing slowly as my body is getting used to something that has never happened whereas for other women the injections speed up the process I have to start from nothing (no process to start with) oh well... Here's hoping for good news on Tuesday hopefully will have grown more than 1mm...

Hugs to all...I'm not a big drinker but I can offer a large bar of tear and share chocolate... Hmmm just like the galaxy advert... For those of you none chocolate eaters I can also offer a cup of tea and hobnobs

hobnobs gratefully accepted, pinkapples. Am also sending growy thoughts.

queen good luck with your complaint, big hugs.

broc hope the 2WW isn't too horrible.

faith how you doing ma'am?

I'm in a weird place at the moment. I'm so angry about the whole IVF thing (potential cost, physical stuff and general arseache) that I'm considering saying 'fuck it' and going straight to childlessness, IYSWIM. Anti-Ds appear to be keeping the despair at bay, but I feel like I could do a good bawl but can't seem to cry. I'm booking into a fertility weekend thingy in December that I think will be useful, and we're visiting the Bridge for an open evening in a couple of weeks. I'm either in complete denial, or scared about going for it (and the costs!) and I can't work out which.

Big hugs to all xx

mmm, hobnobs! thanks, pink. def preferring tea and hobnos to wine and choc at the minute

Yes I'll go for those too.
one I think the plan is sensible, trip to The Bridge and the weekend. Sounds like you need some time to.get your head round what the next step should be.
I went on anti-ds when my Mum died and actually felt worse when I stopped them because I felt my emotions so intensely. They hold you back to a certain degree but of course allow you to function.
I'm okish, still reeling from weird cycle. Headache just lingering but feel better after a good night's sleep. Glad it's Friday :)

Hobnobs seem to have gone down well will need to invest in another packet for the coming week... With another scan and more injections will need them! Good luck to everyone this week chins up here we go again

Time for us to think about shagging again I suppose although not too worried since DH's appointment will be during this cycle.
Thinking positive, growy thoughts pink!

bleurrgh
feel awful - bfn - waste of time poas actually since af not due to next week, but i figured if i was pg and felt this rough there must be enough hormone for a bfp - how wrong was i?!

My sympathies broc. After my weird long cycle followed by weird light af --with one faint line on a cheapie, I've been obssessively poas most days. Finally had to stuff the remaining ones away for fear of going insane! Still feel shattered and nauseous. Must be a virus.
It's obviously too early to tell. Do you have any idea when you ov'd? Best sit on those hands til next week!

Hi guys, can I join you? I haven't read back over the thread, will do so later when I am not at work but we are about to start IVF and wanted some company and perhaps a little advice... First appointment in 2 weeks, and have been over everything with our case worker, or whatever it is you call them, but I know I am going to need lots of help, and just wanted to talk to people in the same position. Other people try to be understanding, but keep telling me unhelpful things like... "you never know, my friend/sister/neighbours bestfreinds aunt etc. got PG while they were waiting for IVF, just relax and take the pressure off and it could just happen"....
They mean well, but it just doesn't help... much like the person who told me about their friends 18 MC (after my second... this was supposed to make me feel better!?!). Anyway, trying to see it all as an adventure, but can't help feeling like a failure - which I know I shouldn't - but it all just seems to unfair!

Welcome girl with a curl.. Have a hobnob there's one left I'm on the IUI journey (or what would be IUI if dh had crap swimmers) injectables with swi after trigger it is easy to feel like a failure and no amount of pick me ups will help sometimes... Ivf is an exciting journey I image and on the positive side you have more of a chance of it working as they fertilise it for you... If you don't mind me asking are there medical reasons or is it unexplained? Whatever the reason my thoughts r with u, good luck at your appointment... It's great here, everyone is so friendly always ready with a treat

Welcome curlgirl. Since you've not had chance to read through, I'll introduce myself. I'm Faith. We've been ttc for 23 months. Our issues are potentially reversible due to a hormonal problem on DH's side causes slow swimmers He's got an appointment about it in two weeks.
You're welcome to take refuge here and have some hand holding while you.go through your ivf.

Hi pink hi faith

pink yep, unexplained, I am one tube down due to an ectopic, and have been trying for 4 years! I am now officially a geriatric in fertility terms so won't get funding (i'm 36!!!), but DP and I want to give it a go, we feel like we have come this far and we owe it to ourselves to try everything or we will regret it.

Sorry to hear about your troubles, it's a rocky road isn't it!

faith glad to hear you have something positive you can do, once you've had your appointment how long will it take? What's involved (sorry if you are repeating yourself, I promise to read back over the thread!)

I understand you're wanting to give it a go. Sorry to hear about your ectopic :(
We don't really know to be honest. He'll probably need a scan to see if it's a tumour not the scary c kind which I guess will take a couple of weeks. Then treatment depends on what they find, possibly surgery ! or just meds. Then once the treatment is successful I assume six weeks for healthy swimmers being produced to reach the surface so to speak
Then I guess our odds should go back to that of a 'normal' couple ie 80% chance of conceiving within a year. I think I'll find it very tough if it's another year bit sterling myself for that reality.

you know H lied to me a while ago about texting his ex. I've just caught him out lying about being in contact with her. He's on his way home from work.

what the fuck am i going to do?

Blardy 'ell. You have to talk to him about it don't you? Tell him you know and ask why and why he's lying to you...