OK, I'll repeat myself to save you the bother of reading.
It's disrespectful to the dominant culture, something I believe in quite strongly, having lived many adult years in countries with different cultures. You may disagree -- you may think it's not rude and disrespectful to upset people of the dominant culture, but I doubt it. I'm sure you'd cover up in large parts of Asia out of respect, but correct me if I'm wrong.
It's not oppressive -- if you think it's oppressive being told not to wear something you want to wear, you have led a very blessed life.
If you allow the Muslim community to decide then you are opening the door to a very strange situation where separate communities make their own laws undermining the laws of the country they live in.
Whoever it was said (sorry I don't remember) that the Muslim community should be urging women not to wear the veil, quite right. But the decision lies with the government and always should.
The long list of women's rights in Islam: I know. I have a feminist friend who is a Muslim. But find a country that lives by them? Rather different. You're more likely to find a non-Muslim country that implements those rights.
Also in the Quran (as in the Bible) are stipulations that lower the status of women. I don't know my Quran or my Bible that well but the Quran says outright that men are superior to women. Perhaps the Bible does too. But there we are.
Women who wear it may not be oppressed but it is a symbol of oppression. Even, right now, of hostility, which is hard to deny as it's been spoken about. Why any woman would want to import this symbol of oppression into a country which actually implements that long list of women's rights, I have no idea.