Nick Duerden in the Guardian - His wife "leaves me fully alone with my daughter for the first time" at 16 months!

[beanieb]

piece

Is this normal, for a father to not be left with their child alone until they are over a year old?

that's why my tax return shows a very reasonable hourly rater of £1.79

I looked after my ds from day one. She even said I was a better parent than she was and he loved me more and was upset about it, despite my best efforts to support her.

Right until the point she took him with her when he was 3 1/2 months old and suddenly I was an incapable parent who had abused him and had to take her court.

Fathers are and should act like equal parents. Some mothers see this as muscling in' on their terrority and perform maternal gatekeeping' - belittling fathers until they give up because they feel they are useless.

But.

The state of affairs is down to both mothers and fathers. Mothers who feel threatened by good parenting skills of fathers are in the wrong as much as fathers who hang back and leave it to their OHs.

pmsl

pinhut.blogspot.com/2005/08/nick-duerden-outrage-of-man.html

Found this also.

Oh dear.

The words 'dead man' and 'walking' spring to mind.

If anything, DH does a better job than me when left in sole charge of the children. He has the enthusiasm because its a bit of a novelty, and a desire to please mixed with a pride in doing a good job, probably spurred further by an air of competitiveness. He can do this because he's not ground down by the 24-7 repetitiveness of being the primary carer. Neither I suspect is he nearly as exhausted as a woman who has been through pregnancy, birth, around the clock feeding and comforting of one or more children, continuously over a number of years.

A 38 year old man who is too immature to support wife or child at any practical level... and thinks this is some way amusing...?

Merrylegs!

The burning question I want answered is why the hell they keep champaign behind the cauliflowers?
Or was that just another middle class tick, we eat veg tick.

He's 38?!?

at that blog.

It's all just more publicity for his book. He obviously thinks he's cute and charming by being so hapless and hopes more women will take him to his bosom, not just 20something childless ones who think he's "utterly right" and "refreshingly honest"

'malleable young audience'
'nothing less than torture'
'cannot help but applaud its lofty ambition'

He has been to the School of Shockingly Bad Cliches hasn't he.

And as for:

'a chance for my wife and me to take things a little adagio, to have ourselves some diminuendo time'

What a load of twaddle. If the daughter had been a few weeks old, i would have understood - but 16 month! Has the father been living in a bubble/working overseas for months?
Damn I'm glad my DP was hands on from day 1. He changed our 7 month old DD's first ever nappy! He's never been overnight alone with her but that's cos I've never been away overnight but would have no worrisd if I did want to go.
DD had colic in early days and he was far better than me in coping with it.

I never seen little einsteines, but it sounds to me like it was designed for parents who hate admitting that their kids watch TV so justify it with something 'educational'
TV is TV folks no matter how you dress it up.

Meh, my two year old used to make me read Auto Trader to him "Xsara Picasso, Citroen C4..." I am sure I could right a massively long article about how he could recognise a make and model of car from its side view and gave him such a passion for them he wants to be a taxi driver when he grows up. But that's just not as snooty enough is it!

Will he soon be writing an article about his encounter with mumsnet?!

Wow, that website is awful. Really poor choice of colours, can barely read it. How about some examples of work? I think I could make a better one than that.

Japanese takeaway - ooh get him!
What a boring article...

yes I know soycd, but he used them with no trace of irony.

Oh my eyes, my eyes! Lupusina- thanks for that.

Is he here yet?!

(On a less hysterical note, lostdad's post was most sobering.)

(oh, Soz. Twas you Lady G who posted that link.
See am using text speak now.
Time to go.)

Nick, I suggest you run your website through an accessibility checker if you don't want to put people off. A list of them can be found here