Poor Jade fading fast - she looks quite beautiful......

[PillicockSatOnPillicockHill]

and do you know what

i wont have a bad word said about her

Poor girl

Shit parents and crappy childhood
YES she went in BB and acted like a fool and YES she went in BB a second ime and said some ignorant racist stuff

but she was 'ill educated' and she did not 'know better' but in her favour :

she educated herself

she learned her lesson

she apologised and meant it

I AM a fan of Jade

I like her a lot and feel much sadness at this vibrant and humour full life cut short

Her little boys were goign to have the mother she never had and i SO relate to that

so KISSES for Jade tonight and much love -sign in if you wish !

No dessention please - not on here!

OK, so how long will you give her before you start wondering, and speculating, about whether the reports of her imminent death were exaggerated? This is an unfortunate side-effect of making a public countdown of your last days: there comes a point when you kind of have to blast off.

the only blast off is the cantankerous bile your talking.go whip up another thread.here you are just trying too hard

I won't solidgold, it is not something that occupies my waking hours. It is something I find sad and it has made me face up to the awful history of cancer within my own family that I have been trying to ignore. I will be pleased that she she is still alive for her sons and perhaps worry that she is having to endure a lot of pain.

I had a cousin who was told she would only live two years, she died in her late twenties, at no point did I want her to blast off. My grandma was apparantly in the last few months of her life for at least 20 years, again no matter how difficult or attention seeking she was, we never wished for her blast off.

TSAP: there is a side-issue of people sometimes wishing for a terminal case who is a close friend or family member to have an end to his/her suffering (not everyone feels this way, it depends on the people, the relationship, and the condition of the terminal patient: some deaths are long agonies after all.)

verty tasteless SGB - we were told my mum had only weeks to live when we found out she was terminal, in fact she died 8 days later. Do you really wish it on her sons that she go sooner rather than later? Don't you think they would want as much time with her as possible? If the "morons'" mawkish stuff is upsetting you, perhaps you would be better off not looking at it?

There is a line from a famous song that not only sums up , but would probably relate to the heartless comments i have come across on here regarding Jade or any other tragedy....
" Well tonight thank god it's them,
instead of you".
Bet noone disagrees with that!!!

SGB,family and pt responses to CA mortality are complex thing grief and pain evoke numerous reactions

and crowing "is she dead yet" isn't helpful

I appreciate that, as much as I loved both of my grandparents there was an element of relief when they died as they were in pain. But I get the feeling that you want Jade to "blast off" because you are bored with her rather than out of feelings of compassion.

TSAP: there are also plenty of cases of people either acting, or wanting to act, to end a terminally-ill person's life because he/she is suffering so much - and don't forget the court cases that have been brought by relatives wanting to have someone's life-support switched off after the person has spent years in an irreversible coma. So while some people will feel, and say, that every minute with a terminal patient is precious, it depends on the people and the terminal case as to how true that is.
WRT to Jade Goody, my point is that the current level of obsessive coverage of her 'final moments' is not sustainable, that if she happens to rally or go into remission, the mobs of morons who currently feel they 'know' her and will 'mourn' her will just as easily believe that she was lying or exaggerating and start vilifying her again. I give it about another fortnight.

I agree with your first point again solidgold but that was not ( IMO and I am not you so I may be wrong) the thought behind your earlier rather insensitive post.

But yes the obsessive coverage cannot continue if she manages to go into remission. I don't think though that people who are sad for her are in mourning. I mourned when my grandfather died and that involved physical pain and actual throwing up when I thought about it. Very few people are doing that over Jade Goody. Has anyone on this thread claimed to be in mourning?

But thankyou for giving me a break from my report writing, only 30 to go now! I wish they would blast off.

Can you not cut & paste

I hope to God that she or any of her family are reading this. Some of what I've read is awful in the extreme. You may not know her but most of the Mumsnetter's that are sympathised with on threads aren't either, and I mean the normal every day threads.

No, those days are long gone. they get checked by two lines of management> If we cut and paste cross words are issued and they have to be done again. I am already late so in the bad books so do not want to push my luck.

Are not reading this, sorry.

why couldnt the poor OP just post her and people who feel the same way as her also post

I think that was the idea of the thread

Anyone else, well why not start your own thread, saying what you want to say, as of course we all have a right to our own opinions, and just leave this as the thread meant it to be

Obviously people are sad about Jade, they should be able to discuss it with others without people turning the thread into something it was no meant to be

Surely some people must just come on here looking for threads they can go and cause a bit of hassle, few disagreements

But I dont think this was the right thread to do that on

agree anniebear...

this is not the thread for childish fights.

hear hear, anniebear

I disagree(not about fights) this is mn, you can not dictate to people what they post and where(imo this shouldn't even be in the news topic, but there you go)

i feel sad for jade and her family, in the same way i would feel sad reading about anyone who is going to die, it's not a deep tearful sadness and it won't have any impact on my life, why would it i don't know her.
suppose you could say that all the people on MN don't know our family in a face to face kind of way.

OJ: but, as has been said before, on MN there is two-way interaction, even if people don't meet face-to-face. There is a big difference between being concerned about a fellow MNer who you have corresponded with, and fantasizing that you 'know' an individual who you only relate to in the entirely passive way of watching him/her on the television and reading about him/her in magazines and newspapers. The individual doesn't know you, or me, or any of the yammering loonies out there, whereas someone on MN will 'know' other MNers as individual posters from interaction.

2shoes.....come on...read the op, no need for anyone to come on here if they're gonna post negative comments.

this was a thread for posters who feel sorry for jade and her family.

OJ
of course I don't know you but I have had an interaction with you - although it has probably passed you by
and elements of your life echo mine so your life impacts mine more than someone I have only read about in the papers.

FWIW I am sorry that you have been referenced at all in this issue. I really hope it is not concerning you at all.

daftpunk but people cannot decide how a thread should go, and who should post on it and say what.
you can try, but you can't make people just post in one way.