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Adopted brother and sister get marriage annulled

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/01/2008 13:11

This is so sad. A couple met and married and have discovered they are actually twins who were adopted as babies. They never knew they were adopted or that they had a twin.

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TigerFeet · 11/01/2008 13:12

Remarkable that they should find one another and fall in love. Were there any children?

princessmel · 11/01/2008 13:13

Gosh thats awful. I often think that could happen so easily. Por them

princessmel · 11/01/2008 13:13

Poor

ajandjjmum · 11/01/2008 13:13

I just hope their privacy is maintained, so that can try and get on with their lives.

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/01/2008 13:15

I would be so disappointed if their identities get out. They deserve 100% privacy.

It is so why everyone has to be honest about who the father of their child actually is and about if their child is adopted.

So sad for everyone concerned.

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bobsmum · 11/01/2008 13:17

bbc

I'm amazed at how they met each other again? So sad.

It must happen a lot though to half siblings.

sherby · 11/01/2008 13:18

Yes people should always try to be honest re parentage.

Our family had a similar situation in that my aunty and uncle had a temp split whilst she was pregnant and he then got another lady pregnant. Both the children were born about 6 months apart and he ended up going back to my aunty. The two children now attend the same school and have no idea that they are brother and sister. My aunty lives in fear that one day they would become boyfriend and girlfriend etc. But the little girls mother refuses to tell her who her father is.

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/01/2008 13:20

That poor child. She has the right to know who her father is. And they are missing out on a sibling relationship too.

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mumofdjandp · 11/01/2008 13:23

how devastating for them........

NomDePlume · 11/01/2008 13:24

How sad for them, I'd imagine it must be very confusing indeed discovering that your spouse is actually your biological sibling, never mind a twin.

The likelihood of them ever meeting and then falling in love must have been so very, very slim.

It is an amazing, sad and personal story. I do hope that they are left to get over things in private. I suspect, however, that some gobshite (doubtless to be described as a 'concerned friend' by the tabloids) desperate for their 5 mins of infamy will let the cat out of the bag.

MamaG · 11/01/2008 13:25

how sad

LadyMuck · 11/01/2008 14:19

Have to say that I'm amazed that they didn't at least ask the question sooner? Chances of meeting someone born on exactly the same day is fairly slim. Their parents presumably knew some of their background (at the very least that they were adopted). No idea as to how similar they looked (they can't have been identical), and I have seen very different looking twins, but the birthday thing alone would freak me a bit.

TigerFeet · 11/01/2008 14:27

good point about the birthday thing - surely it would have rung alarm bells with their parents? Wonder if the parents knew they had adopted a twin?

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/01/2008 17:29

They probably just thought it was more reason they were meant to be together.

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silverfrog · 11/01/2008 17:35

what a sad story...

re: the sharing birthday thing, I know 3 people who share my birthday, and have a group of 3 friends from uni who all share a (different) date, so it's not that unusual to meet someone with the same birthday...

MinkVelvet · 11/01/2008 17:37

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LadyMuck · 11/01/2008 17:40

yes, but would you have married any of those 3? that is what I think is more unusual. And for the parents not to think about it at all?

Under what circumstacnes could they have changed the date of birth MinkVelvet?

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/01/2008 17:41

It seems like some people think they should have guessed.

If they had no clue they were adopted, nor knew they had a twin, why would they have thought it was something othe than two strangers meeting and falling in love?

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LadyMuck · 11/01/2008 17:43

I don't think that they should have guessed, but even if they didn't know they were adopted, there would have been people who knew of the marriage who would have known that they were adopted.

foofi · 11/01/2008 17:44

This is such a sad story. Doesn't seem clear whether they knew they were twins at all. How difficult to move on from having been a couple to having a sibling relationship.

thatcouldvebeenme · 11/01/2008 17:45

ok i have neamechanged. thats probably obvious.

i was adopted as a baby. i always knew i was adopted. i grew up as an only child. i later found out i had an older brother. and later still i found out i had a younger brother. we were all adopted into different families.

i have now met my brothers, we dont look alike and we arent even that similar but i find myself weirdly attracted to them. they def wouldnt be my 'type' if i saw them out and about. i guess its the fact that they are my only link to my past, that we share this 'thing' together. plus i never knew them as babies, small boys etc, just as men. and i find myself wondering things i didnt ought to like how big their ahem youknows are and whether they are good in bed . oh my god i have never ever told anyone that .

i can really empathise with the twins because of this and also feel really sad that this has totally screwed up their lives. i worried when i was about to meet one of my brothers that i may have had'relations' with him in the past without realising and thinking how much that would f**k you up. but this is so so so much worse.

ELF1981 · 11/01/2008 17:48

I know lots of people who share birthdays
me and my mum
DH and my nephew

I dont think I would automatically be suspicious if I met somebody who had the same birth date as me!

I read once about a woman who men an older man and slept with him to find out he was the biological father who she had never met (I think the mum had remarried hence surname change and had died which is why no suspicion from the mother)

I HOPE nobody revels who they are, that would make their lives hell.

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/01/2008 17:49

TCHBM - I really admire you for being so honest.

I agree, family members if they knew should have said something and there is no excuse for staying quiet. They maybe were worried they would be cast aside, or the "children" would have not wanted anything more to do with them. That is a risk they took when they decided to stay quiet. (If that is what happened.) What if they had conceived on their wedding night?

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thatcouldvebeenme · 11/01/2008 17:50

how long were they married for before they discovered the truth?

nab, dont feel like i am being that honest as have namechanged to do so!

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/01/2008 17:55

Irrelevant that you have changed your name. I still think you have been very brave and honest.

I don't know any other details.

i think it came out into the media because they had to go to the House of Lords to have the marriage annulled and the judge wanted to make everyone aware that children have a right to know who their birth parents are.

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