Yes that is true, and I may seem harsh but I get so frustrated when I look back on how sad my little ones must have felt, all because I chose not to deal with my own issues.
I look at the younger 2 dds I have who are now the age the older 2 were when we were seperated and can't imagine how devasted they would be if it happened to them.
Sometimes I just can't believe I was so self absorbed ( in a negative way) that I didn't even look how it was affecting my beautiful daughters.
So I guess I should have compassion for her when she is in such an awful place in life.
She does have alot more resources than your average person does though she could have all the counselling and help she needs without having to worry about the cost etc.
But I guess if she does not choose to be well, all the counselling in the world means nothing.
So I still think she needs a kick up the ass but not too hard as that she falls over and doesn't get back up again!!