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Plans to protect children from peadolphiles........dvd for 6yrs and above, what do we all think?

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 09:29

In the news today, the government have released plans to protect children from predators/peadophiles. Within their plans, they have detailed a behavioural analysis unit to try to determine how a peadophile thinks (too little too late imo, surley this type of work has been carried out everytime a peadophile is caught?).
Also they are planning to release a cartoon dvd which is aimed at the children to show them how to spot a child predator. Im all for this and will be definitely letting my dc watch it. Although it is disturbing at times apparently. Its such a shame that we have to show our dc the dangers in the world in order to protect them.
What do the rest of you think?

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handlemecarefully · 30/10/2007 10:08

But I've grown to benignly tolerate it.

Off now - my kids still not at school tomorrow so clamouring for attention

handlemecarefully · 30/10/2007 10:09

not at school until tomorrow!

Enid · 30/10/2007 10:10

I dont know anyone who has been abused either (to my knowlege)

ah the joys of living in a comfortable middle class bubble

handlemecarefully · 30/10/2007 10:13

Back briefly...- it's not something survivors would freely discuss with everyone though is it? ...stigma / shame etc

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 10:15

My 7 yr old is getting to the age where she wants to be allowed to go to the small park at the end of our road with her friends.

I have 3 choices,

  1. I dont let her go.
  2. I let her go, knowing she has no idea of stranger danger. or 3. I tell her about the danger and how clever the predator is - and what she should do if she is approached by someone.

She goes up to Junior school next year. We all had letters given out last year about 2 girls who walked home from the junior school and were approached by a stranger.

So the danger is very real and apparent for me.

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 10:16

Ruby

I hate this culture too, but what do you suggest i do???

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RubyShivers · 30/10/2007 10:17

haychee - you have an appropriate discussion with her ... not a DVD

oliveoil · 30/10/2007 10:18

re going to the park, when my children are old enough to go to the park I will sit down and explain not going off alone etc with them

I will not be watching a dvd with them about it

the OP was to discuss the dvd yes?

not analyse bushes twitching with imaginary pervs at every turn

Enid · 30/10/2007 10:19

they were 'approached by a starnger' nothing happened though

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 10:21

I do have appropriate discussions with her. I think the dvd will back me up. I dont think she really belives me alone.

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morningpaper · 30/10/2007 10:23

I think it is important to tell children that they are ALWAYS ALWAYS allowed to say no to cuddles / kisses etc. Even I don't kiss them if they don't want me to - and I pretty much always ask first actually.

But I worry far far FAR more about them backing into sexual corners when they are teenagers/young women.

morningpaper · 30/10/2007 10:24

although this is odd:

"they are planning to release a cartoon dvd which is aimed at the children to show them how to spot a child predator."

How do they spot him? Does he have a glass eye and live with his mother?

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 10:24

Enid
No nothing happened that time, but where is this man? He wasnt caught. He is around my town somewhere, waiting.

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 10:26

morningpaper

I think its about raising awareness

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oliveoil · 30/10/2007 10:28

oh good god haychee, do you work for The Sun?

your writing style is very ghoulish

"No nothing happened that time, but where is this man? He wasnt caught. He is around my town somewhere, waiting."

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 10:32

WTF??

Some man approached 2 young girls, ok nothing happened but we were all warned to be on our guard. And i shouldnt worry about my dd going to the park with her friends??

You wouldnt worry about that? What is wrong with you?

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Enid · 30/10/2007 10:33

well dont let her go then

tell her there is a psycho maniac on the loose

Enid · 30/10/2007 10:34

you love all this though haychee, you have to remember than loads of people DONT actually worry aobut it on a daily basis

oliveoil · 30/10/2007 10:34

what does "approached by a stranger" mean though?

I wouldn't worry in your case, no. I would just tell my dd to stay with her friends and not go off alone

Mumcentreplus · 30/10/2007 10:35

lol...loving the arguements ladies...personally I agree with the nanny state comment I have always been open as I feel is appropriate with my children from about 2yrs old...I told them they cannot keep a secret with anyone but mummy...I taught them to bathe themselves and I told them that their privates are personal...and that if anyone no matter who they are makes them feel uncomfortable they are to tell me or any adult that makes them feel safe...no matter what anyone says mummy will always listen and believe them and it has proven to be a good thing ....I know people who have been abused but I don't think that a dvd will stop it all of them were attacked by family or close friends...but I will watch it and if I think it would help allow my dd to watch it too..

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 10:35

So, i should keep her locked up in the house. Never ever let her out with her firends. Dont make her aware of any dangers in the world?

He could well be a psycho maniac, who knows? Not me or you!

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oliveoil · 30/10/2007 10:36

I was flashed at when about 13 or so

group of us walking home

I walked home on my own when we had to all split up and phoned my friends when I got in to say I was back safe

no mobiles in those far off days

went out the next day, didn't tell my parents

I really think you are worrying too much haychee about something that a) will not happen and b) you can't control by fretting

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 10:37

Oh yes, i will proof watch it first.

I dont worry about it on a daily basis. But is becomming an issue for me now that my dd is getting older.

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haychEebeeJeebees · 30/10/2007 10:42

I kow i cant control it. And im not fretting.

I am thankful for the offer of the dvd. It will back me up, my dd is a fearless type of girl. Confident, bolshy and well just plain fearless. Im sure she just doesnt listen to me alone. Im not going to go on about it and ram it down her throat, i just want her to be more aware of the danger of predators (known or not) and how to react to something like that.

Unfortunately it DOES happen. I want to make every possible effort that it doesnt happen to my dd. I know it is quite rare, but so is getting knocked over in the street, so i make every possible effort to make sure that doesnt happen to my dd.

I know for a fact she will not be unduly frightened by the dvd, because of her fearless character. It will simply back me up.

It far better to be made aware than to be unaware imo.

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SueBarooooItslikeaWarzone · 30/10/2007 10:45

A cartoon dvd to show how to spot a child predator? Will it be like Scooby Doo?

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