Have you heard this story about twins being separated at school?

[Moomin]

link here

Would be really interested to hear what other people think...

[Nightynight]

oxocube - that is exactly what the teachers in bavaria say.
"we all agree, so we must be right"= we always back each other up (no matter how wrong my colleague may be).
"The Ed Psych says so, therefore it must be true"= our official school ed psych always backs us up too.

rusty - I know how to use a'p'o's't'r'o'p'h'e's perfectly well. I just dont because they are a waste of space. (Even in your example, "parents' " could mean all parents or the 2 parents of a particular family)
I dont see why either option would have been difficult in this case. Why does the school believe so strongly that twins should be separated that they are prepared to antagonise the family over it?

[SofiaAmes]

Here's a link to a us site all about twins. It has lots of info about twins at school and separating or not etc.

[goingfor3]

I think twins should be together in primary school if they want to be but by secondary school all children start to learn responsbility. It's really worrying that they or their mother seems to think they can't spend 20 minutes aprt from each other five times a week, they need to be seperated more than most!

[speedymama]

My DTS are 3.5yo and attend nursery 3/4 days a week. The nursery have already spoken to me about splitting them up because DT1 tends to sit back and allow DT2 to take the lead. I personally want them to stay together at this age because I know that separating them will traumatise them both because they don't have the comprehension to understand why it is happening. However, I have no problems with them doing separate activities in the same class and this is what we have agreed.

When they start secondary school however, I would want them to be separate in terms of the friends they have, their personal interests (unless of course they have both have a genuine interest in the same thing) etc.

I think this mother is a bit anal tbh. They are going to be separated for a total of 20 minutes - not 20 hours.

So when one wants to go the toilet, does the other go with him too in order to ensure they are not separated?

[mummydoit]

I can't see what the problem is. Other kids don't get to choose who they want to be in class with. My best friends at secondary school were in different classes and we just met up at break and lunch. Why should it be any different for twins?

[Tortington]

it is different for twins - its not like picking a friend.

I think if the woman was upset at her twins being seperated into different form classes - i may understand. but i think 20mins is ecsessive to be kicking off.


I think if you have twins and they are together all the time for 5 year s and then suddenly they arn't - it could be quite traumatic - depending on the child - my point being in scenario one above - it would be more understandable - but this woman just seems to need a life.

[LilRedWG]

My sisters are twins and went to different secondary schools after being together all through primary - it did them the world of good.

[katz]

i think someone said it early on this thread, i'm not convinced this is about the twins being seperated but more about changing the school, The mum found a reason to change their primary school and is now looking for one to change the secondary school too.

[sandyballs]

She sounds nuts. It's worrying to see them dressed identically at that age.

My twin girls are in separate classes.
It is the school's policy unless parents object. I thought 4 was a bit young and would have liked them to be together for a year or so but then it would be hard to decide who should leave their familiar class/friends and start again in another class, so best so split at the beginning.
I'm glad we did because one has turned out much more academic than the other and it would have been hard for the struggling twin to see her sister effortlessly getting high grades.

[quint]

I think the mother shoudl get a grip. I know they want to be together, but what happens when they go out into the big wide world and get a job - I doubt that they would be working for the same company.

They are two individuals who happened to be conceived at the same time, they are not one person

[TigerFeet]

Bloody hell, kicking off over 20 mins apart???

What if one of them needs a shit, does the other one wait in the bog with him?

I wonder what the boys really think about it??? It's not entirely beyond the realms of possibility that they are playing along with their mother because it gets them off school [I probably would have done that at 10 )

[cornsilk]

They are 10! I expected them to be 4 year olds when I clicked on the link. She needs to get a life of her own.

[wheresthehamster]

I agree with her about the bike thing - it seems a bit ridiculous not to have let them put their bikes in the bike shed. I thought it was going to say that they weren't allowed to come to school on their tandem. Although actually changing schools over it is a bit over the top.

The objection to the 20 minute separation though is completely crazy.

[Peachy]

expected this to be our school, as there is an ongoing dispute about them splitting up a set of twins. mum says she wants them together- school says they cant, yet I know the precedent is to keep them together (there ar twins in ds2's class). TBH I think school is being delieratelya wkward, because if ts true as they say that they dont play together anyhow, then it would be easy to place them in ddifferent groups 9they group from reception anyhow).