this might be controvesial but how come the people who have joined specifically to comment on how terrible MNers are in the Madeleine / Shrek thing ...

[Twiglett]

how come they can neither spell accurately nor use the rules of English Grammar?

yay, two of you. Now why don't you both slip into something more comfortable like say.......a catatonic state.

Why do you talk about it? What is there to talk about 60+ days after the fact? Are you going to have coffee morning chats about Margaret Hill, too.

tissy
yes i am damn well and truly alive and living it to the full. But the last 300 messages have been addressed to me - i call that a slaughtering

cor blimey missus, that's one hell of an inferiority complex.

The posts have been addressed to you because you rudely decided to hijack someone elses thread with a topic that had already been done to death.

sue
calm down a minute. We dont go on about it every day for the entire conversation. Its brief, "have you heard about the latest with MMC" kind of chat. "can you imagine how her mother must feel" for another example, "how will they resocialsie the poor girl if and when they do find her" etc etc that is all. We dont sit there chanting her name and totally freaking out our kids as you are probobly imagining

sue
i never hijaked anything. anyway i was also slaughtered on the previous 2 threads also

I'm perfectly calm. In fact I'm about to get in a lavender scented bath, and chill out even further.

I can honestly say I haven't discussed MMC with anyone but my dh in the first week or so that she went missing. I think it's fairly ghoulish to keep doing it, tbh.

We discuss it openly, its bought up, its commented on and then we mve on. Honestly it isnt a big issue here with reagrds to keeping it all under wraps.

First time I have posted on this, I talked to my dds about this because they asked the same way dd1 asked about 911 when it happened, I didnt bring it to their attention but i wasnt angry when it was. DD2 is incredibly sensitive but took the situation in her stride. I think our kids are going to come across much worse things, that we will be unable to control.

hijacked

This is a thread about grammar and punctuation pendantry, not about the last two threads on MMC on which you made your position clear. You decided you still wanted to talk about MMC, so you came on here and did so. That's called a thread-hijack.

And that's the last 'nettiquette lesson you're getting today, my lass, g'night.

That is why i was soo suprised to hear that it had been withdrawn from the childrens films - because i thought nearly all or most children would of heard of it by now.

So you don't feel you have a duty to protect your children from this stuff? Or to ensure that other people's children aren't brought into contact with it because of yours?

See, that's one of the reasons people aren't supposed to swear in front of their kids. Because if they do, their kids will start effing and blinding in the playground, then all the other kids will copy them and then the whole neighbourhood will be full of buggers and fucks from 7 year olds and the property prices collapse.

It's the same principle really. Do you not have that round your way?

My duty is to ensure they are happy and content and feel safe in their surroundings and loved by their parents. I am not responsible for madeleines abduction or for 911 or for any other huge news story that breaks out. I am there to support and to reassure my children at the time that they need it. Children cannot be shielded from these types of events, they willfind out from a third party if you dont get there first. I know what i would prefer.

I like to give my kids the opportunity to understand scary situations whilst still being in my care, and not out in the nasty world all on their one, so what is the right age to discuss this withour kids, asking seriously

Kids will all hear effing and blinding in the playground. That is another unavoidable issue we would rather they didnt have to come into contact with it. But what can we do about it? Nought! Zilch! Not a darn thing.

How can they feel safe in their environment if their mummy tells them about strangers stealing a child from her bed, or a child from her bath, or breaking in the window of the car and stealing them by gunpoint

makes no sense

i dont know calordan i think it is totlally dependent on the child itself, his or her emotional stabilty and ability to understand and cope with the message.

lolololol

You are almost as entertaining as Xenia

question wasnt aimed at you haychee, aimed at those who want to protect kids from the nasties

twiglet
you dont have to use those paricular phrases. As ive said i dont agree with the wording used in the madeleine ad and i wouldnt agree with the way you have described those incidents, they wouldnt be appropriate for an easily upset child. You have to choose your words very wisely in response to the particular child in question

And yet stories we read them have monsters and people being eaten (little red riding hood) and other nasties - that I can't think of at the moment beacuse I'm pooped and have had too much vino

child went missing
child got lost .. if you get lost find a policeman or a mummy with children or go into a shop and speak to the staff

ooo lets build a lego tower

precisley twiglet
Oh my god ive just heard about a little girl who was snatched from her bed... but hang on there is shrek, a cute cat and a funny donkey. Far more interesting to a child.

no .. that is totally inappropriate .. that has taken the conversation out of the parent's hands

do you like living in this extremely small place where you appear to have one thought endlessly and seem so extremely wrapped up in a very tragic, but well marketed case

there is a point in not getting emotionally attached to news stories .. it is not a healthy thing to do

there is much more happening in the world to discuss .. much more about parenting to discuss