Madeleine McCann info shown before Shrek, anyone else cross about this?

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I was. I have chosen NOT to tell my nearly 4yo about this. I haven't discussed it in detail with 9yo ds either I CHOOSE not to put the news on in our house. I really resent this being shoved at my children before a U cert movie. Completely inappropriate imo.

It's all about you, you, you isn't it? Queen of the world!

are you actually listening?

Much as i agree with everything the MacCanns are doing mind, i think Madeliene SHOULD be in the public eye and not forgotten. (Mind you i best not say that too much or Enid will accuse me of competitive grief again!)

congratulations haychee (why do I get the urge to say 'bless you'?), you have just seen our point. By saying : 'I prefer they hear it from me and not a third party or the local cinema' you are finally seeing our point of view.

It is our choice what/how much/where we tell our children about MMC. Not the cinema. That is what this thread is about. Nothing more, nothing less!

Welcome to our side of the fence

Wells
A puff of smoke is not less scary and this is my point! Kids will fill in the gaps or try to make sense of something they have misunderstood! That is exactly what i mean - if they are not told about madeleine, they will hear about it at some point (unavoidable and true) and if they dont understand they will imagine all kinds of super scary scenarios! Why not just get it out and discuss it (at a level which is suitable) before they find out elsewhere?

It may surprise you that actually very many little children have no idea about this - and long may that remain the case. They can't help, it doesn't help them, and I think people who want to ram this pointlessly distressing and scary 'information' down their throats are a bit sick.

its not about anything but keeping her profile high
there but for the grace of god go you lot

even if i had discussed it with them, (which i havent in great detail, just answered wuestionms about yellow ribbons) the ad would have scared them shitless.

soupdragon - lovely candles!!

Damn, I meant - why do you think a 'puff of smoke' is 'more' scary'.
I can't think of anything more terrifying than being told about a man who comes into your room in the middle of the night and steals children forever.

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Yes tell them 3 weeks ago! Before it came on the screen at the cinema! My point is that i dont agree with those parents who think they can protect their kids from this kind of information! They will hear about it somewhere from someone! Best to come from us parents asap!

The ChildSnatcher in Chitty Chitty Bang Bang gave both my children nightmares and they fully understand the distinction between fact and fiction. For the childsnatcher to cross over into fact, that would really scare them. For sure.

Actually, I don't think that my kids need to be scared silly in order to keep Madeleine's profile high.

There is this assumption that widespread and essentially random publicity is the key to the safe recovery of the little girl. It's odd that no-one ahs ever quesioned whether that's the case. That someone dozing off in front of Shrek one rainy afternoon in Chester-le-Street might be given a piece of information that sticks in her mind and when she's next on holiday buying a beer in Lisbon etc, she might notice etc....

So have you told your daughter that a family member might come into bed with her and rape and kill her? That story's all over the newspapers today. She might see it.

haychee, no, why tell them? My ds knows about stranger danger. But what good does it do for him to know a stranger could come into his bed and take him. How can he possibly defend himself agains that? What good does it do for him to worry about that?

It is all about moderation.

"Best to come from us parents"

Well, quite. Isn't that what all this is about?

Or are you saying that if it doesn't come from tha parents then it should come from elsewhere?

But that scary man doesnt come into your room because mummy and/or daddy are always there not down the road having a meal! You have to put them right!

blimey. I think that was a little unnecesary.

Is this site now nutter central or something?

Well, a little girl was taken from her bath while her mother was right in the house with her. Best tell them that too. And if you don't want to tell your kids maybe Haychee can come round and put them right.

srry my post was aimed at Alia2007

Haychee, I absolutely would not want my child's face plastered everywhere if they had been snatched.

I would want it plastered in places where I felt it would have maximum impact and would not feel that before a U cert film would be one of those places.

I would not want nursery schools/playschools to be displaying posters.

I would not want other children to be scared about sleeping as I've heard some children round here are.

right haychee, but the ad in the cinema did not explain that the mccanns left their children alone.
ds knows we would never leave him. therefore a stranger should not be able to get into his room. therefore he need not worry about this. therefore will not mention MMC to him, as it has no bearing on him or his life. stranger danger yes, MMC no.