Madeleine McCann info shown before Shrek, anyone else cross about this?

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I was. I have chosen NOT to tell my nearly 4yo about this. I haven't discussed it in detail with 9yo ds either I CHOOSE not to put the news on in our house. I really resent this being shoved at my children before a U cert movie. Completely inappropriate imo.

The campaign shown in the cinema does not show any more than that! That she is missing and everyone is looking for her! What is the problem? I just dont get it! I just cant see why everyone is so appauled by seeing poor madeleines campaign prior to watching shrek?!

I thought it said she was "snatched from her bed". Which is rather different. Am I mistaken?

My problem is the language. That's all. I don't want my child to dwell on being "snatched from his bed".

Do you really think a child will dwell on 4 words, that are said before one of the best films in the year? No, i think they will remember the film, the cat and the donkey! If they are worried then you must make yourself open for the discussion if it needs to be said. If you had of got in there first (as im assuming some parents havnt even dared tell their kids about madeleine at all!) as i did, there there will not be any issues to worry about as they already knew from us! As i saud its our job to put them right not the local cinema! Still dont see them problem, sorry!

I think my son is very likely to dwell on it actually.

The most surprising things stick in a child's mind.

My problem is not with the ad per se. The language, and the wisdom of showing to young children, is what concerns me.

And I hear that the film is actually pretty disappointing

it was very dissappointing! (the film)
Still feel that having told young children yourself is better than hearing it elsewhere where misunderstandings can be made. I still feel the incident/dissappearance topic is unavoidable and kids will find out at some point.

I agree. But I think we need to temper it for them. And this doesn't give some parents the chance to do that.

An ad with different wording perhaps.

The ad isn't aimed at children. It's aimed at the parents. I'm sure nobody is seriously arguing that it's a public information broadcast.

I dont hide anything much at all from my kids. it is my opinion that they will be better equipped to deal with life with all the education that i can give them. I dont go out of my way to horrify them or scare them im just honest and open. I discuss money issues, smoking, pregnancy anything! I dont go into details that would scare them i just talk alot to them about everything. That way i feel that they know to come to me if they dont understand something or are worried about something, and so far this has always worked well. I think kids should know that life is difficult and that sometimes bad things happen that we cant stop, for example old people die! Pets die and kids go missing! I do not give the details of the suffering and torment that grandad went through before he died nor do i feel the need to scare them half to death about what kind of sicko may have madeleine and what he may be doing to her. Its just openess not lying to them or not telling them stuff that they will find out eventually.

I don't hide things as such. I operate ore on need to know basis. If they ask, I answer. There is some information I don't volunteer. And the details, such as they are, of this case is an example of that.

Sigh.. haychee, I mentioned literacy because you called anyone who disagrees with you thick while making several errors in your post. Bit daft, really.

(Tamum, thanks for your vote of confidence.)

god is this still grumbling on

the ad is gone from Odeon and cineworld [gives herself and assorted mumsnetters large pat on back]

I hide plenty from my dc. Right now, they don't need to know more than 'bad things do happen'.

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the problem is haychee, or how ever you soell it, is that i dont want to tell my children about madeleine. by showing it to a cinema of preschoolers it has taken the choice out of parents hands. the ad usues the word snatched which would, quite frankly, terrify some children.

the McCanns have choosen to shield their own twins from madeleine being abducted as much as possible, surely we, as parents, should also have that choice.

i have choosen not to tell my own chidlren the truth about their dads illness, and how serious it is, and do also gesture wildly at people who want to discuss it in detail to not do it in front of them, as i dont want them scared.

You're welcome edam

I have no idea why you think that imagining a "puff of smoke" would be less scary that an intruder who steals children while they sleep in their beds.
You say 'they cannot be hidden from the truth! They will find out!' - so I assume you've already told your daughter that sometimes uncles get into beds with little girls of two and rape and strangle them?
if not, then I expect it's because you don't think it is useful, relevant or helpful information and might scare her.

Smugness presides eh Enid?

I do not think that anyone who disagrees with me is thick! But i do think that parents who are pushing to have this ad removed from the cinemas are wrong in doing so! I want it shown everywhere! It is then up to you parents to talk to your kids and face up to reality! They are going to find out! They are not stupid their eyes and ears are everywhere, you cannot choose who will talk to your child or what they will say! I prefer they hear it from me not a third party or the local cinema!
Surely you would want your kids face plastered everywhere if they had been abducted??? Even if it meant another child would be upset by seeing it or hearing about it?!

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2007/07/02/wmaddy102.xml More about this furore

Haychee - why do you want it shown everywhere? Who benefits from it?

Just put ds to bed and read all this.
I was really annoyed at your tone at first haychee about 'overprotective foolish parents not having the correct language skills to answer questions about Madeleine'. The more i think about it though it's really strange how you go on about how evil the world is and how many sick f* are out there and how our children need to defend themsleves against evil, evil, evil.

The strange thing is, the more i analyise it (and beleive me i don't want to but it's niggling me) the more i realise that, although i may be the overprotective one, i think the world is bloody lovely and i want my kids to grow up knowing this.
I want them to know that life is beautiful and that their childhood is magical and they should grasp every opppurtunity to have fun and be happy.
Obviously, as i have said, i have spoken about stranger danger and keeping safe but i still stick to the fact that my children do not need to know about a little girl being abducted from her bed.

If God forbid anything like that ever did happen, as someone said a wee bit earlier, what would the child be thinking? I'm so glad my Mam warned me?