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Ok, in light of baysmum's posting. Can we have a show of hands for deletion of threads.

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homemama · 06/05/2007 20:28

I can't believe I'm posting this as I don't actually agree with thread deletion other than in extreme circumstances. However, Baysmum has confirmed that Madeleine's mum is likely to be a Mnetter and if not then her close friends and family certainly are.

Whilst I would have no objection to them reading anything I have posted, I'm horrified to think that we (collectively) may cause the family any more distress either now or in the future.

Therefore, if most participants of the threads agree then perhaps MNHQ will agree also.
Thanks

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quietmouse · 06/05/2007 20:28

yes, please delete them.

Original poster
homemama · 06/05/2007 20:29

I am, of course, not including the 'prayers and best wishes' thread in this request.

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ash6605 · 06/05/2007 20:30

is this the girl that was abducted in portugal? i saw the thread the other day,did't comment but i wouldn't like to read that if it was my child,so yes delete the thread.

Piffle · 06/05/2007 20:31

Absolutely judgement is not ours to make at this ghastly time
FGS
As mothers we should bloody know better

SenoraPostrophe · 06/05/2007 20:31

I can't bring myself to look at the threads because I can guess what they say.

yes, delete

kid · 06/05/2007 20:31

I also think it should be deleted. I requested with MN for it to be deleted too. It would be so sad for her parents or family to read

mummy2olivia · 06/05/2007 20:32

Definitely

WideWebWitch · 06/05/2007 20:32

I agree, delete, vile, vile.

Astrophe · 06/05/2007 20:33

delete them.

CuriousSquid · 06/05/2007 20:33

i agree. If it was hapening to me i would like to be able to come back and see that i had been supported not blamed

Astrophe · 06/05/2007 20:33

and don't lets start any more please?

WideWebWitch · 06/05/2007 20:33

And I think it's entirely possible that the girl's mother is a mumsnetter.

edam · 06/05/2007 20:34

agree delete

cylonbabe · 06/05/2007 20:34

i havent read any of the threads properly.
but i think the reasons you are giving for the deletion of threads isnt a good one.
free speech and all that.

Zog · 06/05/2007 20:35

delete

ElenyaTuesday · 06/05/2007 20:36

delete right now, please!!!!

Astrophe · 06/05/2007 20:37

everyone has had their freedom of speach, no need to imortalise the nastiness though. PLEASE delete them

foxybrown · 06/05/2007 20:37

in this instance, yes, but not the prayers and thoughts threads - they may get a lot of reassurance from those.

littlemissbossy · 06/05/2007 20:37

I agree with free speech but I agree to the deletion of these threads
I said days ago that Mrs McCann could be one of us... but the arguing just continued... people should be ashamed of themselves

Original poster
homemama · 06/05/2007 20:37

Well cb, if the worse has happened I'll be damned if I'll be part of a 'support' forum that would willingly allow a grieving mother to return to this.

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lyrabelacqua · 06/05/2007 20:38

I don't think it should be deleted. There were lot of positive messages on it and for every MNer who criticised the parents there were ten others telling them to shut up and this was not the time to starts apportioning blame. The parents might find it touching that so many people were so desperately upset about their daughter's disappearance.

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 06/05/2007 20:39

so imagine as a mumsnetter, coming on to this site some months down the track, and finding not one single thread referring to what you'd gone through. what conclusion would you draw, that the threads had been deleted because they were all negative, or that no-one had deemed it worthy of posting about.

I don't think the threads should be deleted. partly because people are entitled to opinions, and although some, myself included, have questioned why the parents acted in the way they did, no-one has actually said they were to blame etc, and every single person on those threads, while not necessarily having the same opinions, has wished that little girl to be returned safe and well to her parents.

If I was a member of a site renouned for its support of others, and I came back to that site, following such a harrowing experience which had been portrayed so strongly in the media, and found that no-one had even discussed it, I would be inclined to not return again.

JodieG1 · 06/05/2007 20:40

I wholly agree with wannabe.

foxinsocks · 06/05/2007 20:40

no, I don't think they should be.

I don't agree with much on those threads and have said so on there. But you know, they are going to come across attitudes like that if they look for them. Won't only be on here.

There are plenty of people on mumsnet - I'd hope the majority - who feel deeply for them and don't and won't feel the need to cast any judgement on them as parents.

cylonbabe · 06/05/2007 20:40

i think old threads should certainly be deleted. perhaps those that havent been posted on for a year or so? ( rather thant he current thirty thousand years mnhq have) but singling these threads out specifically to be deleted is wrong imo.