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AFTER THE PIT BULL THREAD ADVICE NEEDED DESPERATLY...

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kittylette · 04/01/2007 15:50

i need advice,

BIL and SIL have a rotweiller/alsation cross, its huge,

theyve just had a baby son

weve told them the dangers (shouldnt have to really) but they sent a pic of the tiny baby lay across the front paws of the dog

i have two sons and havent visted them for 2 years because i wont allow them near the dog

in my pre-kids days the dog attacked me, tried to bite me BIL had to physically beat the dog to subdue it away from me,

its not a nice dog

im fear for the safety of my nephew

should i phone someone?

social serices?

i dont want to but how would i feel if something happened?

when you first meet the dog, you have to sit low down on the floor with your arms crossed and not give it eye contact

surely thats not right?

sjould a dog like that be near a bay?

they say is soft as anytning, its a big baby

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zephyrcat · 05/01/2007 23:27

Thing is Kitty - if you send the email and they ignore it then they will know it's you who then reports them. If one of us do it or at least start the ball rolling, they won't know who on Earth we are (I'm happy for them to know my name if I report it) and they can't then blame you.

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kittylette · 05/01/2007 23:28

im at the point i dont care,

ive sent the email, ill gauge her response, if its not what i want to her ill have no choice but to take it further

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mummydear · 05/01/2007 23:28

If not able to get reply from Battersea until Monday why not call NSPCC Helpline on 0808 800 5000 for advice , open 24hrs .

Authroites have to cat if they belive a child in danger , may not act immedialety but it would certainly be looked at.

MamazonAKAfatty · 05/01/2007 23:29

someone once said " i bet 98% of all dog attacks happen within 30 minutes of the owner saying -oh he is harmless, he wouldnt hurt a fly"

and it is so true.

MamazonAKAfatty · 05/01/2007 23:31

it must be really draining for you emotionally kitty but fnd strength in knowing you are more than likely saving someone frm a viscious attack.

We will be here for you if they trun nasty but at the end of the day i would argue that if the dog is perfectly hamrless the RSPCA will see that and not remove him wont they.

AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 05/01/2007 23:31

well done, kitty. it was a good email.

zephyrcat · 05/01/2007 23:32

Well done You

Clarinet60 · 05/01/2007 23:33

I think zephr's idea is a good one. Someone else should do it. In the current climate, a 'passerby' (AKA Zephr, or some other MNer) seeing them all together could alert the police/RSPCA, and after a home visit, the authorities should act without implicating kitty.
But all this will take time, so the ball needs to start rolling now.

maisym · 05/01/2007 23:34

would the rspca call round & talk to them about this.

your email is great - if they uderstand the dangers they'll get their dog rehoused - if not you'll have to call in all the authorities to get the dog removed. Surely something can be done as it's tried to bite you.

hunkermunker · 06/01/2007 00:03

I remember somebody posting on here whose little girl had been killed by a dog. I will see if I can find the link - you might want to show the words to your SIL if she still doesn't listen. It's stayed with me.

You've done the right thing sending the email, Kitty. That photo has chilled me to my core.

brandy7 · 06/01/2007 08:15

any news yet kitty

ruty · 06/01/2007 09:44

that photo is absolutely terrifying. thank god you are doing something about it kittylette. But if your sister doesn't listen i think you might have to take it further. Can't believe people are so stupid, i really can't.

batters · 07/01/2007 11:05

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zephyrcat · 07/01/2007 19:30

Hi Kitty - Hope everything's ok

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kittylette · 07/01/2007 22:17

hi,

i sent the email, but nothing back yet,

i dunno if shes read it or not, i spoke to her today as its her birthday - but she didnt mention it

i didnt have the heart to say anything over the phone as it was her birthday

i dont think i can do it

theyre his parents, its up to them

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lulumama · 07/01/2007 22:20

kitty...in that case...someone from here ahs offered to report them..so let them do it,..as everyone who as posted is worried for your nephew as you clearly are too. you are in an unenviable postion

hunkermunker · 07/01/2007 22:20

No, darling, it's not up to them. Your nephew needs you (or one of us - I'm happy to phone the RSPCA if you want to contact me with their details). He's a tiny, defenceless baby - if they're too stupid to realise that their dog is a real danger to him, they need to be shown that.

But you won't be able to live with yourself if you don't act if they won't, I'm sure you won't.

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kittylette · 07/01/2007 22:31

theyll know its me - after the fuss ive kicked up

i just cant do it, im sorry

its DFs brother, and he doesnt want me to,

he said what if SS take the baby??

theyll never forgive me,

i just cant

i know what you all think, and will say, but i cant do it

youve all helped so much, and zephyers spent so much time helping me, but this could destroy our whole family

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AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 07/01/2007 22:32

why would SS take the baby? surely they wouldn't be nuts enough to choose the dog over the baby?

AitchTwoOhOhSeven · 07/01/2007 22:33

i mean, surely the parents wouldn't choose the dog over the baby?

lulumama · 07/01/2007 22:33

ok, ss wonlt take the baby....
but is that worse than the dog savaging the baby, which is potentially what could happen,,,,

hunkermunker · 07/01/2007 22:34

Kittylette, I understand it's hard. I really, really do.

But that baby might be mauled to death by this dog. In fact, it's a strong possibility - I'd go so far as to say a probability, given what you've told us

lulumama · 07/01/2007 22:36

anything happneing to the baby will also tear the family apart..not least if you think it could have been preveneted..

MamazonAKAfatty · 07/01/2007 22:37

I can state quite catagorically that Social services would not take the child.
the only way it would possibly come to that is if the dog had bitten him and the parents had done nothing about it and were protecting the dog. he would then be seen as being put at risk and therefore removed...even so i have never known this happen.

Social services would not really be involved any further than visiting your family and asking about the situation and the dog and offering advice on keeping dog away from baby etc.

You have already sent the email about how you feel so it is clear that you have serious concerns. maybe you could forward your BIL/SIL a copy of this thread...make them see that its not your over reaction but the opinions of many..including many dog owners and lovers who are clearly more educated in the world of canine managment than they are.

sometimes its harder to ignore the voice of many.

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kittylette · 07/01/2007 22:37

if i get that dog taken away they will NEVER speak to us again,

i dunno if ive been overreacting

look, weve told them, EVERYONES told them

its in their hands - im not stepping in

if anything happens then its on their hands,

theyve been told, and told and told

theyre stupid, stupid, stupid people, i know this - but its their choice

im too scred

itll ruin our family

THEY should do it, they should

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