Charlotte Wyatt to go into foster care

[ginmummy]

...because, according to the news, her seperated parents can't give her the care that she needs. It so sad, I want to cry. Poor, poor Charlotte, poor, poor parents.

Kitty I understand the story you told from your teaching days was ahrd to witness, and I felt hugely for thsoe children myself. But very few Sn parents would have more children to be placed into care, Charlotte's needs are particularly demanding and I really do feel would constitute a fullt ime job for a carer who would not be able to care fo other children- thereby possible with two parents, but not one. I believe Charlott's Dad said he would like to care for her if support could be provided by SS, that would equate to my experiences of SS provision, and that of many on here.

I used to see alot of famillies break up and children go into (usually temporary care as part of my job (I worked for a charity called HomeStart suporting famillies, some through SS referral). Not only could a substantial amount been prevented through SS support early on instead of onlya t the point of crises, very few were SN related and none related to any continuation of bringing children into the world after a SN children.

I do remember one Mum who gave her child up and a few years later went on to have twins, and was an excellent mother (and watched like a hawk mind you at first!) to them.

Exactly, Greenstumps.

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I think it is a shame that charlottes dad wants her at home but also wants to work which of courses adds pressure for more carers, it is a very sad situation

I can understand it though Gothicmama, all summer I was iterally housebound except for the very few days Dh had off (he works fairly random night shifts and sleeps all day) due to the way Sam behaves out and about. Normally I am at University. I ended up with really severe depression and agoraphobia, and it hasn't quite gone yet. Much as I do adore my kids, I couldn't imagine that lif4e day in, day out- a person needs humanity, and a breather. Uni keeps me sane, as a job would many.

Kitty I am sorry you have been attacked I think that piece supports a lot of your assertions.

yes peachy I can understand it too,it is a very hard position I think for the dad , I haven't heard anything from the mums Point of view. Hopefuuly foster care will turn into respite care

I do feel sorry for the dad, you may be surpised to hear, I think he is trying his best and wants to do what ever he can. The mother, shameful.

I don't see how she could cope with Charlotte alone and the other children, and I suspect she never thought she'd need to.

Even if having the toher children were a mistake (which i think we must agree to disagree on) that i all in the apst and nothing will be helped by focussing on that, the future for the family is so much more important. That could yet be positive for the whole family: Charlotte hasn't been adopted out or anything, after all. Time can achieve.

Years ago I knew someone who was so desperate for support that she put her child into care. It was the only way she felt, that they would take her requests for help seriously. Her logic was "It will cost them less to help me keep her here, so once they realise how much it's costing them to keep her with a foster-carer, they'll help me".

Sometimes, people put their kids in care because they are desperate and other options simply are not realistic. And we still don't know what other support options this family was offered. (At least I don't.)

Nobody does caligula, it's a closed file to all but those involved; anyone who claims to have info either is lying or has no right to be sharing it, iyswim

I understand the other Wyatt children were on the 'at risk' register.

Mr Wyatt had a restraining order against him for dom violence in his previous relationship, v limited contact with his children from that relationship and had been pursued for non payment of child support.

Mrs Wyatt became pg with another child just weeks after Charlotte's birth and was known to be having huge difficulties with caring for her well children, let alone Charlotte.

The family have no support from the extended family due to long running disputes (proportedly stemming from Mr Wyatt's behaviour).

They had fallen out with all their neighbours, due to similar disagreements.

Mr Wyatt had verbally threatened staff at the hospital and for a time was accompanied by security staff at all times whilst visiting the hospital.

I am not surprised there are doubts on whether placing C in an unstable environment when her needs are highly complex and would tax even the most functional family, let alone poor befuddled Mrs Wyatt and tempestuous husband. And at what cost to the other children?

hAVE ALL THE LATE COMERS READ THIS

This one has. Sorry, don't get your point?

When this all happened a while back I was told by a nurse who works in that hospital in paediatrics that the parents never visited her and she couldn't understand why they went to such lengths to save her.

Rust, don't watse your typing fingers, honestly.

secondhandrose, why does that not suprise me?

This was over a year ago that she was never visiting not recently so it isn't a new thing that she didn't go to the hospital (sorry have just read earlier posts about her not visiting in the last few months).

Kitty it was a pleasure have a grown up conversation with you, I am going now and not re-entering this sight, I don't think I can stand to talk to people who can't be honest.. thanks

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Rust, don't go please, MN needs more people like you. If you go this will be the second person I have witnessed bieng chased of by the same group of people. Most of MN is not like this. please hang around a bit and find something that's makes you feel better. You just have to stick to your guns and take no notice of those people who p*ss you off.
How bloody sad is that, you lot, fgs

Um - not particularly

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greeny, you are more grown up than that even if you like to think you're not.
I assume you think it is great that someone who doesn't agree with you has gone. well, I would hate to be on threads where everyone agreed and patted each other on the backs in a self congratulatory fashion for all being so wonderful and putting the world to rights. How very boring is that.
It doesn't give a balanced view of wider opinions and that's crap frankly.
There are many people on Mn who are just too scared to voice their opinions, and that's crap too.

yes but kitty i am not scared to voice mu opinion at all.

heck i got abuse last night on the neighbour assulted my 5 year old thread.

I am pleased that rust has gone.

I think rust was a troll. Plain and simple. I don't attack you with personal abuse, kittywits, I like to try and answer your points and challenge your views, because much as your views are almost invariably anathema to me, I like the fact that you stay the course and don't run away or descend into insults.

But IMO rust was a troll. An inarticulate, offensive troll. So good riddance.

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