Wet - apologies if I misread your meaning. We do share the same views.
It's not only fear of an extreme reaction that has stopped us acting. It is also the case that Islam actively promotes the stealthy and insidious infiltration of Western societies (in order to eradicate them) - e.g., insistence on universal Halal food, the coining of the term 'Islamaphobia' as a special case of prejudice, to be treated differently to other groups, etc.. This has been extensively written about in the New Humanist. It is also the case that many have said that we may well have to wait for Muslims to have their own Enlightenment - we can't do it for them.
Dora - It doesn't mean equal in every sense. The Royal Family is a social group. It's not equal to unsuccessful immigrants (formally housed in Cambridgeshire) in any other sense.
True, of course, but in our societies, ordinary people can organise themselves for social change (pressure groups, revolutions). Am I the only one who is constantly amazed (well, not really...) by a complete lack of action on behalf of Muslims living in Western democracies? This seems like such an important point to me - the stealthy normalisation of Islam in Western cultures. The point is that they can't and won't act because their institutions forbid the belief of equality. If you ask a 'moderate' Muslim if they believe that gays are equal to Muslim men, what willl they say? "Fair enough, an attitude can be held, a thought can be thought - plenty in Western societies also believe that gays are scum" - but our institutions actively try to change this and prevent discriminatory behaviour. Islam can and will never do this - not the Koran, not Sharia Law, not anything.