Can I say, when I said 'subtle' I didn't mean in arguments -I mean in delivery.
The impression I got of Nel was one where he would happily lead people along an alleyway, deftly setting traps and trips as he went, and then at the end of it, he'd smile and say 'now are you completely happy to be here?'
With Roux, I got the impression he'd show you the alleyway, point out the knives, openly start fires, and then shove you down there with a boot to the back of your pants.
I didn't mean to imply that Nel would never let anything go. It was more that I wouldn't know what he was holding until he showed his hand. With Roux, I could see his arguments coming a way back. That's why I rebelled - I hate being told what to think. Nel implied, suggested and led. Roux just went ahead and told us.