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Pregnant at just 11 !!!!

186 replies

biglips · 12/05/2006 10:07

WTF!!!

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kid · 14/05/2006 21:55

I do make cards UCM, not sure how good they are though Grin

shellybelly · 14/05/2006 21:57

her mother may end up doing the changing nappies for her, surely this girl will still have to go back to school!

nuttyworkingmum · 14/05/2006 21:57

I have friends who are foster parents and thumbs up to them with great respect for all the hard work.Alot of kids I`m sure are on a self destruct mission.

UCM · 14/05/2006 21:58

Well, perhaps if it was mad a bit harsher for girls having babies under 16, then they would think twice.

I know I sound really right wing, but when I think of the people waiting to adopt a baby, and the huge list of children on waiting lists to be fostered because their mums had them really young and can't cope

UCM · 14/05/2006 21:59

Kid, bet they are great, come on Arts & Crafts.

nuttyworkingmum · 14/05/2006 21:59

Yep, But there are loads of people who want and need things others have and they don`t.

HappyMumof2 · 14/05/2006 22:00

how could it be made harsher? In what way?

I don't think it's about punishing people. It's about educating them before they get pregnant and showing them there's more to life

kid · 14/05/2006 22:01

I posted a picture of 2 wedding ones I made recently (mumsnetter group) I really liked them.

nuttyworkingmum · 14/05/2006 22:02

Totall agree it`s a spiral and can only be changed through educating,theres sex ed in schools& you can go on parenting classes but maybe we should all go on refresher ones occasionally!!!

kid · 14/05/2006 22:05

At DD's school, they now do sex ed at 6-7 years old. Then a more detailed lesson at 9-10 and again at 10-11 years old.

nuttyworkingmum · 14/05/2006 22:06

do you agree with what your dd is being taought re sex ed?

HappyMumof2 · 14/05/2006 22:06

have they already done it kid? ds seems a bit more clued up on it Wink

nuttyworkingmum · 14/05/2006 22:09

My ds is only 3 so I`ve got a bit of time b4 this all starts! :)

kid · 14/05/2006 22:12

They did sex ed and I was happy with what they were taught (I was there during the lesson)
It wasn't graphic, just named parts of the body and pointed out that females can have babies and you need a male and female to make a baby.
When they get to 9-10 they get to watch a video Shock

SparklyGothKat · 14/05/2006 22:12

My DS, 8, knows what sex is!! Shock I haven't explained sex myself yet, but when he read this title of this thread, he said 'pregnant at just 11, mum, thats illegal!!'
He knows that babies come from my tummy, and that a man and woman is needed, just haven;t explained the full process of sex, (though I think he knows) The other day our female cat got out, and he said 'but mummy, she might have sex and get babies!!' Shock Grin

UCM · 14/05/2006 22:17

I really didn't want to get too involved with this but I am now.

When my S had my nephew in the early 70's, society was still reeling from the 'go to a mother & baby home thing', bearing in mind I was adopted in 1969. I have great respect for my parents who didn't make my S do this.

They should have - and I was only 8 years old. It was okay whilst my mum was looking after my nephew, but what happened when he left our house to live with his mum was outrageous!!! Simply because she, at 17 was not old enough to cope with a baby.

UCM · 14/05/2006 22:20

My S never had any more children because she was given the coil after the first which buggered up her tubes.

UCM · 14/05/2006 22:27

I think it just comes down the the fact that I am very resentful of the fact that some people have children at the drop of a hat, regardless of who pays

And I can't add to my family because I can't afford the childcare for another child and can't stop at home because we would have to more into a flat. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. We are 37 & 54 and have worked hard.

God I am a resentful cow!!!

Tortington · 14/05/2006 22:33

but UCM you feel that way becuase you have hopes dreams and aspirations.

ones you cannot fulfill on benefits in a council flat seeing your children perpetuate some benefit lifestyle when they mature.

the point being that sex education is good. and worthwhile

but its parents that teach self wroth and HOPE for a future filled with bright things.

i think it just as sad that the mother doesnt want her little girl to have these memories, that she didn't have any hopes for her.

fattiemumma · 14/05/2006 22:35

IMHO its not sex ed we need to teach in school its bloody self respect!

UCM · 14/05/2006 22:42

Oh Gawd,

I have to respond to you because of exactly what you have said. That child will NOT have hopes, dreams or aspirations, simply because of the silly liberal idiots who will leave her in that position. She will be supervised with Health visitors which once, the mother (34 year old) had proven that she can look after the child, will be left unsupervised and that will be that.

kid · 14/05/2006 22:47

But if they know she is taking drugs in the house, won't they be more inclined to take the baby and child away? I know 2 young children that were removed from their BM due to her being a known drug addict. This lady has lost 3 children altogether. I do feel sorry for her but the chlidren must come first.

UCM · 14/05/2006 22:48

I have just re-read you post Custy and I really think that forced adoption is right. It's not fair to those babies that are born through no fault of their own.

I am not going to apologise for it because I genuinely believe it

UCM · 14/05/2006 22:59

Custardo

I know we will never agree on this. But there is a limit to what other people can do.

One is adopt; the chances of you adopting a newborn baby in this country are nil.

Even if you are a lovely couple who don't have any vices etc.

But if you are eleven years old you can just do it and you will be given all sorts of help until you are 14 and then, bang you are on your own. Your chances of becoming a career woman are limited and there is a big chance that you will have another child to get a bigger place/keep the boyfriend who will be limited by the same problems - fuckwits for parents!!!!

Tortington · 14/05/2006 23:02

actaully i have no opinion on this particular case but to say that althoughs ex ed is a factor - Hopes and aspirations are far more driving. and those come from parents. i also meant that i felt it was a shame that the 11yos parent did not have any hopes or aspirations for her. ( as far as i could tell from the reporting of the case)

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