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Pregnant at just 11 !!!!

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biglips · 12/05/2006 10:07

WTF!!!

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UCM · 14/05/2006 21:20

What I meant was, the first person to tell me that it's ok for an 11 year old to have sex, I would report to the police.

HappyMumof2 · 14/05/2006 21:21

I can't imagine that anyone on here would think it was okay tbh........

shellybelly · 14/05/2006 21:21

what you mean the first person on MN, coz i don't think for one minute anyone would!

sassy · 14/05/2006 21:22

While I totally agree that sometimes adoption is a much better situation for babies and birth mothers, enforced adoption can never lead to all-round happy outcomes. IMO.

This story saddens me deeply. This child (i mean the 11yrold) has grown up in a society which pushes sex at her from all directions - the clothes she wears, the music she listens to, the TV she watches - and kids don't have to be exposed to stuff which is THAT age-inappropriate to see this. Our society is desperately over-sexualised. AT the same time, many children 9and she seems to be one) are inadequately protected by their parents or those involved in their care. Result = younger and younger kids having sex and ergo, getting pg.

I don't know the answer, but it worres me so much - not least because I have 2 dds.

fairyjay · 14/05/2006 21:24

I don't think you'll find that person here - I think most of us mums would find it abhorent.

galaxy · 14/05/2006 21:25

I felt so sad for this little girl when I read this. What sort of life is she going to have? She already smokes and drinks and has a mother who's proud she's pregnant. Some people don't deserve to have children.

UCM · 14/05/2006 21:25

I think that you should think about the child who is having the child. In my opinion, she should be adopted by a couple who will let her have the rest of her childhood, with the child, but this little girl should be given a chance.

Staying where she is, no matter how much support. I can see it now. In front of the HV, yes she is fine. No I am not smoking in front of her.

That baby should be taken off of her

HappyMumof2 · 14/05/2006 21:27

that doesn't make sense, you are saying she should be cared for with her baby (which I had said before) but then in the next breath you say the baby should be 'taken off her'

UCM · 14/05/2006 21:30

Sorry, I apologise,

the 11 year old should be taken into care along with her baby. Not left with that mother.

Is that clear enough, cos I have had a few tonight but I do think this.

UCM · 14/05/2006 21:32

I know a couple who are willing to adopt a baby because they can't have any of their own. They are a loving couple. They have been told to expect to wait 4 years.......

HappyMumof2 · 14/05/2006 21:35

yeah alright. We all know there are many couples who would gladly give all they own to raise that baby but at the end of the day rightly or wrongly the little girl is that baby's mother. Would you seriously take away her right to be a mother and the baby's right to be brought up by it's mother?

You have to give people a chance. You can not just remove a baby without good reason just because another couple want a baby.....

I agree, there would be good reason if she was in the care of her mother but if she was in a foster home she should be given a chance to prove herself. If it doesn't work then the baby could be adopted but you can't remove a baby based on what may happen

kid · 14/05/2006 21:38

The 11 year old should be removed from the mum as far as I'm concerned. What chance does the girl and the unborn baby have?
Not sure if I agree she should be given the chance to bring the baby up, I know its her child but she is just a child herself. Sad

UCM · 14/05/2006 21:40

It's easy for me to say this as I am an onlooker, looking on saying 'oooo Ahhh'

OK you win, I don't know what would be for the best Sad

fairyjay · 14/05/2006 21:46

The thing is UCM, none of us know what we be best for the two children - other than perhaps removing them to a caring environment.

Blandmum · 14/05/2006 21:46

i don't think 5hat there is an easy guarenteed answer to this.

i have worked with kids who have thrived in care, properly cared for for the first time in their lives.

i havevalso seenkids run away from care to get back to parents who used to abuse them Sad Angry

my cousin was totaly fucked up by being adopted , her son was fucked up by being left with his drig adict mother Sad

a horrible decision to have to make and better by far that the child had never been placed in a situation where she could get pregnant Sad

shellybelly · 14/05/2006 21:47

Kid you and UCM could be the same person coz you sound so similar. at the end of the day we are all on lookers and no its not acceptable but it will be down to social services I would imagine to decide whether the child stays with the mother and her family

kid · 14/05/2006 21:50

Do we?!

UCM · 14/05/2006 21:50

The general consensus seems to be leave her and let her get on with it. All of this guidance from the SS will not generally be forthcoming. It's wrong, it really is. Have that little girle adopted before its too late.

kid · 14/05/2006 21:51

(HMO2 - I emailed you earlier, did you get it?)

UCM · 14/05/2006 21:51

Kid do you make good cards Grin

HappyMumof2 · 14/05/2006 21:52

she's very unlikely to be adopted at her age UCM. She would be placed in long term foster care or a mother and baby placement.

I hope she is for both their sakes but at the end of the day it's down to social services. Hopefully, now they've seen the mother showing off how she shoots up in the paper they may do something about it

HappyMumof2 · 14/05/2006 21:52

kid, I'll have a look now, sorry Blush

nuttyworkingmum · 14/05/2006 21:53

I have heard there are more teenage pregnancies in this country than any other in Europe, so it does not surprise me in the slightest an 11 yr old is pregnant. I am shocked how ill informed children are by their parents.But as I do not know the full details to this case I cannot comment on the Mother (to the 11 yr old m2b).I only hope the children involved thats m2b and the baby become educated enough in the future to realise how hard and responsible it is to bring a child into this world.

1Baby1Bump · 14/05/2006 21:54

nothing to it- as long as you can feed a bottle and change nappies!
she is in for a rude awakening!

UCM · 14/05/2006 21:55

I live next door to a foster family.

One time they got a child aged 11 who smoked. They were not allowed to stop her. WFT. They are also not allowed to stop a child from leaving if they want to. They have to phone the police. Foster care isn't that great

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